I like her, but shes just such a good friend..

Hey people,

I'm not much of a poster, but I've just been confused recently. I've known this girl now for some 4 months now (since the start of uni). Initially, I didn't feel attracted to her in anyway, but as time went on we got closer and we have just become pretty close friends. I mean, if there's anything she wants to get off her back, she'll come and tell me, and if there's anything I want off my back, I'll tell her, so we're pretty open with each other. Anyway, towards the end of November I started to have feelings for her, but obviously, me being the idiot and pussy I am, didn't say anything to her. So time went by, new year came and went, and what dya know, shes got back with her ex boyfriend - who doesn't live anywhere near us. She may see him like, what, once a month? If that. We're still really good friends, and she tells me everything. But I just feel jealous. And I know I shouldn't, and I don't know what to do about it. I see her pretty much everyday, and we may even be living together next year. Now I'm thinkin' that that's a pretty bad idea (due to the fact that I like her) and I should just try to keep my distance and hope that the feelings just go away. I'm always trying to give myself reasons of why I like her, and trying to force myself to believe that I don't actually like her in that way, but it's just that her character reminds of good friends back home. I've contemplated telling her how I feel, but it just doesn't seem such a great idea seeing as she is just such a great friend - like my best mate at uni. And that she lives so close - like a 20 second stair climb. Plus it could... sorry... would make things awkward between us. Anyway, sorry if this is long winded, but I had to get it off my back, and I just don't feel close enough to friends at uni to talk to about it, apart from with her. I'd appreciate any advice if anyone has anything to say. I just want to get this sorted, either get her out of my head or to just put it out in the open and tell her.

Thanks alot people, and well done if you could stay focused reading that whole passage.

Reply 1

Nix!

You have two options:

Continue to suffer in silence

or

Let the cat out of the bag.

The choice is ultimately yours. Scenarios like this are too subjective to be able to gauge their reaction. Just know this - if you do decide to tell them, know that it may not end up how you would like it. Weigh up the situation and decide - is potentially losing her as 'such a good friend' worth your release?

If she is 'such a good friend', perhaps she sees you in a similar way? Perhaps then, she will not react in a negative way, but will be respectful of how you feel.

I recommend telling her, but perhaps subtly or gently to gauge her initial reaction.

I'm sorry I can't be of more help.

Reply 2

anjurdsg

do not :dito:

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