Okay, I'd appreciate some thoughts on this if you guys don't mind..
I'm in my 3rd year at uni. In my first year, I lived in halls with 7 other people; one of whom became my best friend, and one other girl who hated my guts for no apparent reason. The girl who hated me, (Lisa) is the very loud and attention seeking type and the always bullied the others into getting her own way, no matter what it was. My best friend and I were reasonably pleasant to Lisa all year just to to keep the peace, but at the same time I wouldn't stand for any crap she tried to give me.
For our second year housing arrangements we all decided to go our seperate ways and live with the people we were closest to; my best mate and I of course wanted to live together, but we found out that Lisa hadn't made arrangements with anybody and in a moment of (what I can only decribe as) insanity, we offered her an olive branch and asked her if she wanted to live with us. Soon enough arrangements were being made for the 3 of us (and 5 others) to view places together.
I won't bore you with the ins and outs of why, but it came to light (after signing contracts etc) that I could no longer cough up the £1500 they wanted as our first installment of rent, and I was panicing like crazy. They said that the only way out of the contract was to find another tenant to replace me.. so my best mate and I went looking for 2 replacements, as she was distraught at the prospect of living with Lisa without me. Only one replacement was found and I went back into halls, my best mate moved in with Lisa and 5 of our friends.
After I moved back into halls by myself they pretty much cut me off, on the rare occasion I saw my "best mate", she told me how Lisa had been slagging me off with almighty hatred and was making everyone in their house miserable. Time after time I tried to arrange nights out etc, and time and time again I was told that they couldn't see me, as Lisa would be with them and she hated my guts!??? I would call my mate sometimes and ask if she fancied going out for drinks, but she would tell me she was ill/ working/ tired, and then I'd see her out with Lisa!!
What I should mention is that the only time i really saw mt "best friend" after all of this was when she wanted to borrow clothes, borrow money, or she'd suggest a night out as long as I paid for her. I did it every time because I felt as though I'd lost all of my closest friends and I didn't have a choice.
The last straw came this morning really. It was her birthday yesterday and she told me she was working all evening and she'd see me today for lunch to celebrate. She wasn't working, she went out drinking last night with all of my old friends (and Lisa) and of course didn't want me there at all. At the same time she text me saying she had to cancel lunch today because she was going home.
Why do I let her walk all over me like this? And why would she allow some loud mouthed dog to ruin what was an awesome friendship?
Sorry for the rant. I'm just so upset.