A same-sex experience doesn&#x27;t make someone gay

Original post by XcitingStuart

In response to this thread, this thread (although probably a joke) and this thread, and all of the other threads of this sort (I've seen many.)

I'm fed up of people instantly saying OP is gay when OP has had a same-sex experience; it doesn't work like that. This general rule of thumb, as these are categories to help us understand (as all categories do) and sexuality is a spectrum.

If you are exclusively sexually attracted to the same-sex, you're gay/a homosexual (unless you regard all non-heterosexual sexualities as gay et cetera et cetera.)

If you are sexually attracted to both sexes, not necessarily to the same degree though, you're bisexual. Remember, this is a general rule of thumb though.

If you're more sexually attracted to the personality (as they more disregard the sex or gender binaries), you're likely pansexual, to my understanding. (I dare say I'm not very knowledgeable here.)

If you are exclusively sexually attracted to the opposite sex, you're heterosexual.

(There are other lesser known sexualities, which I forego mentioning.)

Nah same sex experience = homo every time and not just a bit gay but full gay. Once you make that step there's no going back and you are gay for all eternity

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 2

OP

Original post by willock91

Nah same sex experience = homo every time and not just a bit gay but full gay. Once you make that step there's no going back and you are gay for all eternity

Nope.

Actually so it's slightly like "oh, so it's a case of once you go black, you can never go back?"

Lel

Reply 3

User1214833

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"Pansexual" is a faddy, pretentious knob of a label. Everyone is attracted to the physical nature of a person as well as their personality.

Thanks for clearing all of that up though. I'm sure someone attracted to young teenagers is relieved to know they are not a paedophile - it makes a HUGE difference in real terms.

Reply 4

willock91

Original post by XcitingStuart

Nope.

Actually so it's slightly like "oh, so it's a case of once you go black, you can never go back?"

Lel

Scientifically speaking yes its exactly like that

Reply 5

username1530463

Original post by XcitingStuart

In response to this thread, this thread (although probably a joke) and this thread, and all of the other threads of this sort (I've seen many.)

I'm fed up of people instantly saying OP is gay when OP has had a same-sex experience; it doesn't work like that. This general rule of thumb, as these are categories to help us understand (as all categories do) and sexuality is a spectrum.

If you are exclusively sexually attracted to the same-sex, you're gay/a homosexual (unless you regard all non-heterosexual sexualities as gay et cetera et cetera.)

If you are sexually attracted to both sexes, not necessarily to the same degree though, you're bisexual. Remember, this is a general rule of thumb though.

If you're more sexually attracted to the personality (as they more disregard the sex or gender binaries), you're likely pansexual, to my understanding. (I dare say I'm not very knowledgeable here.)

If you are exclusively sexually attracted to the opposite sex, you're heterosexual.

(There are other lesser known sexualities, which I forego mentioning.)

To be honest, almost everyone is in between straight and gay. Very few people are completely homosexual or completely heterosexual. Sexuality is fluid.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 6

OP

Original post by User1214833

"Pansexual" is a faddy, pretentious knob of a label. Everyone is attracted to the physical nature of a person as well as their personality.

Thanks for clearing all of that up though. I'm sure someone attracted to young teenagers is relieved to know they are not a paedophile - it makes a HUGE difference in real terms.

I made my post quite immune diplomatically, so I didn't have to debate the validity of pansexuality, be it true or false, as it is not relevant to the topic of discussion.

Hence why I also included "There are other lesser known sexualities, which I forego mentioning." to be both ambiguous and appeasing; people shouldn't underestimate me in this regard.

(edited 8 years ago)

It kinda does....

OP

Original post by willock91

Scientifically speaking yes its exactly like that

For what science do you speak of? The Science of Rocket?

Reply 9

OP

Original post by thecoolkids

It kinda does....

No it doesn't. If it did, I would have said a "gay experience" as it would be exclusive to homosexuals.
But it isn't, therefore it doesn't.

You're losing this debate.

Reply 10

callum_law

It's not gay if you're the one giving it.

Reply 11

willock91

Original post by XcitingStuart

For what science do you speak of? The Science of Rocket?

Ahh

Reply 12

OP

Original post by asmuse123

To be honest, almost everyone is in between straight and gay. Very few people are completely homosexual or completely heterosexual. Sexuality is fluid.

Although I mostly agree, we still shouldn't disregard the fact that there are heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual and we shouldn't extrapolate sexual fluidity to the entire population of humans.

Reply 13

clonedmemories

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Original post by User1214833

"Pansexual" is a faddy, pretentious knob of a label. Everyone is attracted to the physical nature of a person as well as their personality.

Thanks for clearing all of that up though. I'm sure someone attracted to young teenagers is relieved to know they are not a paedophile - it makes a HUGE difference in real terms.

Original post by XcitingStuart

I made my post quite immune diplomatically, so I didn't have to debate the validity of pansexuality, be it true or false, as it is not relevant to the topic of discussion.

Hence why I also included "There are other lesser known sexualities, which I forego mentioning." to be both ambiguous and appeasing; people shouldn't underestimate me in this regard.

I believe the term "pansexual" is otherwise distinguished from "bisexual" traditionally by the fact that bisexual means "two/both genders" and pansexual means "all genders". It was introduced originally, I believe, to be a term more inclusive to those attracted to those who don't fit within the sex/gender binary (trans and intersex, for example). Though there's a more prominent definition now for bisexual as being attracted to two or more genders, so there's certainly a great deal of overlap between the two and really, now, they're fairly indistinguishable for the most part.

Reply 14

Odd socks

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If the thread is about same-sex experience making someone gay, please stick to that and don't use that as a basis for discussing whether child molesters are being referred to with the correct terminology

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Reply 15

ivybridge

I agree with you here, to be honest.

Reply 16

SotonianOne

Only in this country can you get ****ed in the ass with a cock every day and then be considered potentially heterosexual.

No.

Reply 17

OP

Original post by callum_law

It's not gay if you're the one giving it.

That's entirely wrong altogether; sexual behaviour =/= sexual orientation.
By all means use it to arrive to the conclusion of one's sexuality, but by no means is it a deciding factor, or a factor at that.

Sexual behaviour will obviously somewhat correlate with sexual orientation, but only that, correlate; there's no causal relationship.

Such as, for example, "gay for pay" pornstars or gay people in opposite sex marriages.

There's no such thing as a gay sexual act. Full stop.

Reply 18

User1214833

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Original post by XcitingStuart

I made my post quite immune diplomatically, so I didn't have to debate the validity of pansexuality, be it true or false, as it is not relevant to the topic of discussion.

Hence why I also included "There are other lesser known sexualities, which I forego mentioning." to be both ambiguous and appeasing; people shouldn't underestimate me in this regard.

You just wanted to inform us about the subject? Edit an article on wikipedia then. This is a discussion forum.

Reply 19

ivybridge