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Can i change my personality?
Basically im usually the quiet one and i want to be more talkative and lively but i find it really difficult unless ive had a few drinks! Any suggestions? Is it possible to actually change your personality ?
Yes but be careful what you wish for. What I mean by that is, you are you, you are unique, and I'm sure that plenty of people like you for it. You don't wanna go changing radically. I empathise cos in a sense I'm the same. It's not easy, you've just got to will yourself to get out of that shell, as noone can physically drag you out. If you have difficulty then maybe you could confide your feelings in a sensitive friend, who can help you to feel more included and almost act as a facilitator by which she/he directs more of the groups attention on to you as often quiet members can get overlooked in a boistrous crowd. Good luck, and remember it can be done, its very scary but the leap is worth it.
you dont have to change it! just be friendly, funny and cool to be around - these things are just as wicked as being loud and the practical joker! im sure that you are these things already tho! you just need a confidence boost so spend some quality time with some close friends and they should show you that you are awsome as you are!
Also, just be happy and it will rub off on other people thats true u kno! they wont care if you are loud or not!
good luck sweetie x
Also, just be happy and it will rub off on other people thats true u kno! they wont care if you are loud or not!
good luck sweetie x
Yes. Deliberately put yourself in situations when you need to force yourself not to be shy. No matter how awkward it is at first. After a while you will start to adjust, and confidence will come naturally. I was VERY shy in my early teens, and made a conscious effort to change it at around 15. It didn't even take long, I was pretty outgoing by 16. Ridiculously outgoing by 18 
princess_perfect
you dont have to change it! just be friendly, funny and cool to be around - these things are just as wicked as being loud and the practical joker! im sure that you are these things already tho! you just need a confidence boost so spend some quality time with some close friends and they should show you that you are awsome as you are!
Also, just be happy and it will rub off on other people thats true u kno! they wont care if you are loud or not!
good luck sweetie x
Also, just be happy and it will rub off on other people thats true u kno! they wont care if you are loud or not!
good luck sweetie x
There's a difference between being "quiet" and being "shy" though. There's nothing wrong with being a bit quiet if that's just the way you are. Shyness on the other hand, I would say is something that STOPS you from being who you really are. You might often have something to say, but not have the confidence to say it, and that stops people from getting to know you for who you are.
princess_perfect
you dont have to change it! just be friendly, funny and cool to be around - these things are just as wicked as being loud and the practical joker! im sure that you are these things already tho! you just need a confidence boost so spend some quality time with some close friends and they should show you that you are awsome as you are!
Also, just be happy and it will rub off on other people thats true u kno! they wont care if you are loud or not!
good luck sweetie x
Also, just be happy and it will rub off on other people thats true u kno! they wont care if you are loud or not!
good luck sweetie x
Very true! I'm really quiet around people but I don't think of it as something that holds me back.
From my experience I've found that people you meet who pick up on your quietness, draw attention to it and make out how it's somehow wrong are the people I find difficult to get along with. It's not a crime to be quiet.
Oh and I agree with what Toy Soldier says, shyness can hold you back but if you're naturally quiet then that's ok. If you're really shy then put yourself in situations where you're forced to talk and be confident, you'll probably surprise yourself.
Toy Soldier
There's a difference between being "quiet" and being "shy" though. There's nothing wrong with being a bit quiet if that's just the way you are. Shyness on the other hand, I would say is something that STOPS you from being who you really are. You might often have something to say, but not have the confidence to say it, and that stops people from getting to know you for who you are.
that definition of shyness is spoooottt on! precisely how i feel
i have soso much to say but for some reason something inside me won't let me speak,some sort of fear/anxiety and then people think im really boring/quiet/serious but im actually the oppsite inside my head and to people who knoow me..uggh shyness sucks
Cowz
I tend to be quiet but then very few people interest me. I guess it is a form of snobbery but I am actually more happy not talking to most people.
Quietly self-confident is the best way to do it I think. ...
it is...but is that person true to you? make sure you understand who you're changing into.
I would want to become more confident too, but you shouldn't be ashamed of who you are
im normally quiet in order to concentrate.
but when im going out with people i am confortable with i get seriously talkative.
so i have moments of quieterness not because im shy (self confident or thinking mod) and hyperness at social group gatherings!
so it depends on situations
i use to be really quiet but people dont understand who you are unless you talk. At the end of the day be yourself.
but when im going out with people i am confortable with i get seriously talkative.
so i have moments of quieterness not because im shy (self confident or thinking mod) and hyperness at social group gatherings!
so it depends on situations
i use to be really quiet but people dont understand who you are unless you talk. At the end of the day be yourself.
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