Help

Im not sure if this goes here or not but i just feel so down at the moment as everything i do or people who i am close to just goes wrong. My family has been torn apart by a serious illness ( my nan has cancer) and my grandfather is on his last legs and to top it all of i applied to medicine this year and have recieved nothing which makes me feel worthless.
Im lethargic and all i want to do is sleep and eat all the time. i know im depressed but nothing i do seams to improve my mood, if anything it makes me feel worse.

i just dont know wat to do. My family and friends think im coping fine but none of them know how i feel inside. If they knew if would tear them apart and the last thing i want is to feel odd.
If anyone can help it wopuld be great

Reply 1

Montrose

I know how you feel, and unfortunately, it is something most people do not understand. It is not as easy as simply putting on a happy song or watching a good film.

As far as your Uni offers go, have you been rejected or just heard nothing? If you have heard nothing, this is not a bad thing, they are simply taking their time as Medicine is a big course. So if this is the case, hang on in there.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

I know everyone says it but a problem shared is a problem halved! Talk to someone at your sixth form/college, a tutor/ teacher... if you feel you cant do this act really quiet (...) to make it obvious somethngs wrong until they come up to you, it may work. I had loads going on at home/ school etc and my tutor came up to me, he was really helpful, i'm never open with anyone and told him stuff i wouldn't dare tell friends/ family. seems really weird to start with but honestly it has helped sooooo much!

as for uni, there are loads of potential medics i know that haven't heard anything- many predicted straight As and I would have thought bound to get atleast one offer.

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

I'm not sure how much help this will be but I'll give it a shot.
I've been in a pretty similar situation to yourself over the past few months. My grandfather passing away and an unrequited love situation were just part of a combination of factors which made me feel very down, showing some but not all signs of depression. I lost my appetite completely and with it a lot of weight. I cried a lot, which is unusual for me (I'm male btw) and I became distant from my family, to whom I am usually very close.
However now, I am back to my old self, my friends and family have noticed a difference and I feel brilliant most of the time. I still feel down occassionally, especially when I'm on my own, but not as often as I used to.
I recovered by talking. I know it seems obvious, all the depression leaflets + websites say it and I don't mean to be patronising but it really did work. I talked for a long time with a close friend of mine - he didn't come up with any useful advice but it was talking that made the biggest difference. I won't pretend it was easy - it took time but eventually I felt much better and I know you can too. I'm not saying this will necessarily work for you, but please give it a try.
I hope that can be of some help and I wish you the very best of luck.