i dont want to share my life

im happy and do not want to get inolved with a girl i have met, but this applys to any woman:

is this strange?

i have no interest in men before anyone adds anything silly,

i just want to focus on my career and my own interests, music, sports.

Reply 1

Talya

16

Then don't look for a relationship if you are not ready for one. When the right woman comes along you WILL want to share your life. This girl just isn't the right woman.

Reply 2

tanusha-tomsk

18

^ ditto. The worst thing you can do is go out there and break some girls heart. The time will come :smile:

How old are you, out of interest?

Reply 3

Misogynist

18

Go out and break a heart. They'd only break yours.

Reply 4

IndianDiva

Talya

Then don't look for a relationship if you are not ready for one. When the right woman comes along you WILL want to share your life. This girl just isn't the right woman.

Totally agree.

Reply 5

Singh_87

15

flatliner1

im happy and do not want to get inolved with a girl i have met, but this applys to any woman:

is this strange?

i have no interest in men before anyone adds anything silly,

i just want to focus on my career and my own interests, music, sports.

Then what's the problem? People do seem to post the strangest things these days. If you're happy without a woman in your life at the moment, then so be it. Live your few moments free in happyness and peace :wink:

Reply 6

Singh_87

15

Kropotkin

As long as you are happy, WHO CARES if you have a relationship or not?

Hey, someone with common sense. Give this man a medal ....

Or atleast some rep ... infact, I will :smile:

Reply 7

Talya

16

Kropotkin

Stop giving this poor bloke horrific and incompetent advice.

He's quite clearly asexual. This is nothing to be worried about.

As long as you are happy, WHO CARES if you have a relationship or not? If you need sex, just PAY FOR IT. Dear god, that's so obvious. Idiots, you're all idiots.

I told him to stop looking. IF the right woman comes along, his feelings will change. If she doesn't, then they won't!

Reply 8

Cyril Sneer's Nose

1

flatliner1

im happy and do not want to get inolved with a girl i have met, but this applys to any woman:

is this strange?

i have no interest in men before anyone adds anything silly,

i just want to focus on my career and my own interests, music, sports.

I understand what you mean. Im pretty happy with my life at the moment & really have no intention of entering a relationship at all. After hearing all my mates 'nightmare girlfriend' stories, I really dont need any of the stress having one right now. :smile:

Reply 9

xatm092

There are lots of single happy people out there :smile:

You might want to settle down with a partner in 5 - 10 years or so :smile:

Reply 10

high priestess fnord

9

i felt the same until i met my bf

Reply 11

Vampyrcorn

14

Nope that's not strange, just be yourself.

Some people go through their whole life without ever wanting to commit to one person and they stay single and happy forever.

Some people here have suggested that you're not "ready" (a bit patronising if you ask me, but never mind) and that it's just not the right time in your life and that type of nonsense. Ignor these type of statements. You may well change your mind but not necessarily, really you just have different priorities some other people. Not strange or wrong at all.

Reply 12

high priestess fnord

9

Vampyrcorn

Nope that's not strange, just be yourself.

Some people go through their whole life without ever wanting to commit to one person and they stay single and happy forever.

Some people here have suggested that you're not "ready" (a bit patronising if you ask me, but never mind) and that it's just not the right time in your life and that type of nonsense. Ignor these type of statements. You may well change your mind but not necessarily, really you just have different priorities some other people. Not strange or wrong at all.

in fact tbh i think its better than the "some people" who cant bare to be single and feel they need a partner in order to shore up their utter lack of self worth.

Reply 13

Vampyrcorn

14

high priestess fnord

in fact tbh i think its better than the "some people" who cant bare to be single and feel they need a partner in order to shore up their utter lack of self worth.

yes I definately agree.

Reply 14

CherryGarcia

1

I think that ur feeling is pretty normal. But here is an advice. If you dont want to get into relationships, dont do it. Dont force urself! If you dont want to share life, and anyway will get a gf, you will just hurt her. Trust me, it is very painful for a girl to hear smth like this 'Let me live my own life' (this happened to me several times with my bf that I date for 3yrs. And trust me it hurts) so, dont want to share life, dont date anyone. Date a girl just when u feel like doing it...

Reply 15

Toy Soldier

3

Heeeeeell no it's not weird. Unless you're like... 30+ or something, you don't want to be ruining your life by bogging it down with some woman whining in your ear 24/7 ;no;.

Pretend you love her for sex, and then get rid :smile:

.

Reply 16

CherryGarcia

1

Toy Soldier

Heeeeeell no it's not weird. Unless you're like... 30+ or something, you don't want to be ruining your life by bogging it down with some woman whining in your ear 24/7 ;no;.

Pretend you love her for sex, and then get rid :smile:

.

I don't think it is wierd even when ur 30! It is just up to every person. I mean people are different.
p.s. btw my bf is almost 30 (28) and I dont think he wants to share life. Actually i think he is not ready for this. It is a bit hard and u have to be responsible for the other person u r with :cool:

Reply 17

flatliner1

OP

great advice : CherryGarcia, Vampyrcorn

its a strange position to be in: im thinking best thing to do is to just play it by ear, its weird very weird, going to concentrate on my life and see what happens?

i dont think i cant bare to besingle as someone commened, was single for awhile; didnt really bother me, i went up to the woman in question and started speaking to her, you know? so i made a decision to pursue her, and then we spent a week just full on texting, calling, emailing etc; and recently i suppose as the euphoria starts to calm down, im thinking do i really want to change my life? but maybe this is what lifes about? again im at odds, but maybe because i am trying to assess something thats not supposed to be assessed by my dealing mechanisms, maybe you just gotta let the chips fall?

ive been asking all these ridiculus questions like i dunno if i find her attractive, and then shes really funny? then she seems like a bibliophile? and im nore outgoing/social? so i dunno whats happening? but i enjoy talking to her? who knows?

Reply 18

CherryGarcia

1

You know, if you are asking urself all these questons it means that u dont really like this girl. I mean when u really like someone, or love or just have a crush on, you dont have all these questions in ur head. U have just one idea on ur mind - to be close to this person, to spend as much time as possible with her/him. Its pretty normal to be in ur situation. But if u have these feelings about that girl, better don't play with her. U can hurt her. And u know, I know frm my own experiance that if u have all these questions in ur head it is really ain't going to finish good.
and btw, have u ever had real relationships? Like long ones? I mean they really chnage ur life and u in some way. May be u really not ready for this!?

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

I for instance am not 'boyfriend material'. I am moody, get bored quite easily, and have never really had very long relationships as a result of this. I've met girls who I really care about, but I almost don't want to ask them out because I know that I'd eventually muck up the relationship (and I don't want to put someone I actually care about through that). Emotionally I'm not quite up to it.. and have trouble enough keeping my own life together let alone sharing it with someone else. I don't know if this applies to the OP though...

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