Dating someone from a different "socio-economic" background

I'm in know way a snob but i'd love some advice on going out with someone from a different sort of background.

I'm 17, live in a detached 5-bed house, have my own car and a boat and we've got a couple of horses.

I'm falling madly for a wonderful girl, we're friends but she feels embarrased when we go to her 2 bed terraced house with no car, a shared bedroom and no computer. It doesn't bother me at all, but she does feel embarrased when we go to hers.

I don't want it to be an issue but it clearly is, especially with the car meaning i have to arrange all the transport, i've no doubt some fellow TSR'ers will have some advice.

Reply 1

shane_watto

Just keep re-assuring her that it doesn't matter til the point get's through. All people from all walks of life are attracted to one other, sometimes we don't know why but to let this become a problem would not be good.

Reply 2

StotheL

It's great that you really like her and the fact that you have more than her doesn't bother you..just sit her down and have a talk about it..let her know that she has nothing to be embarassed of because you really like her and her house or what not doesn't matter to you!x

Reply 3

SFC_FOREVER!

1

Love the thread title. Think you meant to say "dating someone who doesn't have as much money as me".

Reply 4

Ross_j

9

haha nah im just playing, tell her not to worry about it

Reply 5

Tag

8

firstly, this just goes to prove that money doesn't make you smart.all those boats and horses and you still can't tell the difference between 'no' and 'know'.

It really doesn't matter. I think you have the problem. Why do you have to go on a big bragging list about all your possessions? what's wrong with saying, myparents are loaded, hers are not, she feels uncomfortable about this . . ? it shouldn't be an issue. just pamper her :smile:

Reply 6

Llamaaa

15

There isn't that much of an economic difference in england, so it shouldn't phase you. My fiance was extremely nervous and embarrassed about taking me to his house since my family is not in a bad economic position and he lives in a house made out ofplywood, brick and a corregated iron roof in some random district of Lima, but a person is not their house. You have to look beyond the possessions and their background and see the person. If you love them, why should wealth matter?

Reply 7

high priestess fnord

9

keep reasuring her that you done care. my parents are very ambitous, they both work, they both moan constanty that they dont have enough money (meaning that they cant afford the next big holiday or another new car) and my bfs family are the exact opposit. its never affected our relationship at all.

Reply 8

coldplasma

16

Socio-economic backgrounds shouldn't really enter into a relationship. As said above, if you keep reassuring her long enough that you love her no matter what, then it will get through! Rome wasn't built in a day, likewise it's not going to be overnight before she feels comfortable with it. Just keep showing her your love (not through fancy gifts or expensive stuff, that'll likely make it worse) by taking her out more often, spending time with her, etc.

Reply 9

zed328

I'm in know way a snob

please!

Reply 10

Unique Brunette

Tag

firstly, this just goes to prove that money doesn't make you smart.all those boats and horses and you still can't tell the difference between 'no' and 'know'.

I noticed the wrong spelling but who said money makes u smarter. i thought rich kids are usually spoilt so they dont wanna learn anything, lol :p:

to the OP. as other said, u have to let her know that it doesn't matter...

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

I wish some would love me and not mind that my family is pi$$ poor. :frown:

Reply 12

Phantom Phoenix

13

I don't mind that my family is poor and my boyfriend is relatively well-off, but my mum hates it. She had a huge hissyfit at me when I asked if he could come visit for the first time in the Christmas holidays (we met at uni) and sulked for days. She said she was embarrassed about the house...I don't really get it. It is a dump but we rent it and my boyfriend didn't think it was that bad anyway...

Not relevant to the thread, I was just pointing out that my boyfriend doesn't care. And my mum does. I guess it depends on the individual?

Urgh. Not enough sleep this weekend.

Reply 13

987436987097643123245

im white, my girlfriends white - whats the big deal?! EH?!

Reply 14

Evil-Tuna

2

Ross_j

haha nah im just playing,

Dear God.

Reply 15

ro-ro

10

I was always the posh one. I'm state schooled but I have a double barrel surname, an accent which is slightly southern but not regional (to a county or area) and my mother is an art teacher who dropped out to do something meaningful (carer) and my late father was a surveyor. I grew up in a victorian semi and when I was younger we had holiday cottages and flats in London (sold in the recession). Yet I get reprimanded by blokes in the street and my brothers mate for saying the C U Next Tuesday word alot and I am known to get off my face and hang out in dumps, my old house had a leaking roof and my radiator burst into my room. I am NO lady!

Money buys you nothing, no manners, no skills only airs and graces. Keep reassuring your girlfriend it's ok, and that you like her for her, you never know one day she may be mega rich and the tables may be turned. Money isn't the start and end of anything worth having forever.

Reply 16

40550

2

I live in a situation like your girlfriend. Two bedroom terrace, no car. Just don't comment on her living situation and act as if you are in no way phased by it. When you are around there, focus on her instead. It's about you as individuals

Reply 17

Gman1617

Tag

firstly, this just goes to prove that money doesn't make you smart.all those boats and horses and you still can't tell the difference between 'no' and 'know'.

It really doesn't matter. I think you have the problem. Why do you have to go on a big bragging list about all your possessions? what's wrong with saying, myparents are loaded, hers are not, she feels uncomfortable about this . . ? it shouldn't be an issue. just pamper her :smile:

people like you are morons who cares if he made a spelling mistake you moron people like you shouldn't use TSR you don't contribute anything worth while you you plutocrat

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