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what now?

ok, i'd really appreciate people's opinions here. its a bit of a long story, but i'll try & keep it as short as possible!

a year & a half ago (will be 2 years in May), i started going out with this guy, call him guy A. we split up in June that year - he ended it, & i was heartbroken. i know that sounds silly considering we'd not been together very long, but he did mean a lot to me. not long after (in September) i started going out with another guy (guy B). basically all the relationship with this guy was about was sex. although we never actually slept together, we did other stuff & there was a lot of rather dodgy texts & even some pics exchanged. i got fed up of things being so much about the sex & not about the actual relationship, so we split up in the December & haven't spoken since. the whole time i'd been with guy B, i'd stayed mates with guy A, & he even knew about guy B. after i split up with guy B, guy A & i sort of started seeing each other again - nothing serious, just a causal sort of thing (no sex involved). thats basically how its been since then up till now. last week, i gave my old phone to guy A, because his was broken & he asked to borrow one of my old ones. i thought i'd deleted all the pics & texts from guy B when i split up with them, & then deleted everything else when i leant guy A the phone. except, i must've missed one rather explicit text. which guy A has now found, & won't talk to me at all, because he says when he found it he was shocked & hurt & can't understand how i can talk like that to one person when i'm all "sweet & innocent" with him. guy A is the guy who i really am in love with, & he has said in the past that he does feel the same. but now he won't talk to me, won't answer his phone, won't text me, is pretty much just pretending i don't exist.

i just don't know what to do now. how can i make him listen? its not like i was actually seeing guy A at the same time as guy B, & i know for a fact that guy A has been with other girls since we've been "seeing each other" the past year. i'm just at a total loss as to what to do now :frown:

Reply 1

Schroedinger's Pandora

Boys.

He's clearly jealous hun. Something very similar happened to me in my first year at uni, except the first guy got all petty and jealous when he dumped me so I went and found somebody else. They act like spoilt little boys sometimes (No offence guys, don't mean to generalise!) And apparently its something to do with some alpha male crap. So I recon that the only thing for it now is to sit it out and wait for him to realise how pathetic he's being. And he will realise eventually, I promise.

And don't feel bad! You did nothing wrong!

EDIT: And don't dare apologise!! You don't need to "make him see" anything, except that he's a bitter idiot.

Reply 2

Flank Runner

the boy is jealous and personally a waste of meat, but if you really do love him and want to get back with him, write him a letter and put it through his letterbox, simple as, he wont know its from you till he starts reading it and by then its too late, good luck

Reply 3

Angelil

Just tell him it's all in the past now and that it's him you want to be with? If he can't accept that, then...well.

Reply 4

Schroedinger's Pandora

..... @ sshole???

Reply 5

IndianDiva

I don't see how anyone can be pissed off about that... you were in a relationship, did he really think it wouldn't be physical?

He needs to get over it and accept it was in the past.