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Not as mature?

Well, I'm 17 in March. It just seems as though my friends and I aren't as mature as everyone else we know. It's like, we still do cinemas/bowling on Saturday nights whereas everyone else goes to bars/clubs/house parties and gets drunk. Everyone else has boyfriends/girlfriends: I've never had a relationship longer than 2 weeks.

I feel as though I'm missing out. Is anyone else like this? What advice can you give?

Reply 1

James

14

Don't worry about it at all! Do whatever you feel like with your friends, and don't feel that you need to 'be like everyone else'. There's much more to life than getting drunk. :smile:

Reply 2

Tyrannosaurus Cal

15

You're not immature, it's just that some groups seem to want to do more "adult" stuff earlier. Bowling and cinemas are fun, so why not?
I wouldn't say you're missing out, because all that stuff will be there for you to sample in the future, and if you don't like it, then stick with the stuff you feel comfortable with! :biggrin:

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

I reckon that bowling and cinema are much more mature than drinking/clubbing etc. It shows you don't need alcohol to enjoy yoursleves. Be true to yourself and do what you enjoy. You might go through a drinking, dancing spell later on, you might not. Either way is fine.

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

17

James Gurung

Don't worry about it at all! Do whatever you feel like with your friends, and don't feel that you need to 'be like everyone else'. There's much more to life than getting drunk. :smile:

Give the man a pat on the back :smile:

Reply 5

tis_only_meee

7

Anonymous

Well, I'm 17 in March. It just seems as though my friends and I aren't as mature as everyone else we know. It's like, we still do cinemas/bowling on Saturday nights whereas everyone else goes to bars/clubs/house parties and gets drunk. Everyone else has boyfriends/girlfriends: I've never had a relationship longer than 2 weeks.

I feel as though I'm missing out. Is anyone else like this? What advice can you give?

No-one your age is mature, even if they do go to clubs and get drunk! Don't worry about it.

Reply 6

Agrippina

15

Anonymous

I reckon that bowling and cinema are much more mature than drinking/clubbing etc. It shows you don't need alcohol to enjoy yoursleves. Be true to yourself and do what you enjoy. You might go through a drinking, dancing spell later on, you might not. Either way is fine.

Hear hear.

Reply 7

Chumbaniya

17

Yeah, because getting drunk every week is really mature. /end sarcasm

In some ways, I'm really immature and I'm proud of it - being childish is far more fun than being adult.

Reply 8

Agrippina

15

Anyway I don't see what's so childish about going to the cinema or going bowling... I've actually never been bowling, but my friends and I would rather go to the cinema or watch DVDs than go out drinking any day (and we're at university).

Reply 9

Tyrannosaurus Cal

15

Chumbaniya

Yeah, because getting drunk every week is really mature. /end sarcasm

In some ways, I'm really immature and I'm proud of it - being childish is far more fun than being adult.

EXACTLY! Dancing to girls aloud with some friends is seriously more fun than going to a bar and not being able to relax. I'm 18 and I feel a lot more comfortable when I'm around my friends and we're doing childish things!

Reply 10

Phantom Phoenix

13

Agrippina

Anyway I don't see what's so childish about going to the cinema or going bowling... I've actually never been bowling, but my friends and I would rather go to the cinema or watch DVDs than go out drinking any day (and we're at university).

Woohoo! There's more of us! :five:

Reply 11

Rach64

i'm 17, my 2 best m8s are 18 and so constantly go out, but as i'm not 18 till May i can't be bothered to trek round town and try to get into places without id so i don't and it's no big deal. I love clubbing and goin out, but i love just girls nights out at the cinema and restaurants.

Also, all the kids in year 10, 11 and 12 who go out underage (trust me, where i live they all go out thinkin they are oh so old and grown up) are actually really annoying and most people would rather they waited till they actually hit 18.

Reply 12

illmatic

Trust me there are times when I love going to clubs and bars, having a few drinks and bussin jokes but there's nothin like goin to the cinema with your peeps or bowling.... i know 30year olds who still do that stuff, so it's really not about maturity but about preference... do what YOU enjoy :biggrin:

Reply 13

Louenn

My preferred night out is a Thursday night when I go to choir practice at 7-30, and when that's finished, a few of us go to the pub. We sit in the pub, and yes, ok, we do drink beer, but it's real ale not lager, and we're not pouring it down our necks at a rate of knots (with the exception of the choirmaster, his first pint barely touches the sides, but he teaches at a pretty rough school and so can be excused) and we sit and talk about anything and everything until they throw us out of the pub at 11. And we can be very adult, or very childish. Same group of people came to my birthday partly last May, and we played pass-the-parcel and other childish games. And I'm one of the younger ones in the group! Approximate age range is 25 to 60.

The others have got it right, you do what you want to do.

Another example of preferences: My sister got married in August, and she had a hen weekend, where we went to a hotel, had a nice meal on the Friday night with lots of drink, some drinking games, etc, and then on the Saturday night went out in Manchester to go clubbing. Not my sort of thing at all, but because it was my sister, I went along with it, and it was ok. I've decided that should I get married, my ideal hen do would be a girlie sleep-over, all chick-flicks and everyone wearing pyjamas and sitting up all night talking and so on. Of course, given my group of friends, we will be having drinks, but not with the intention of getting drunk, more on the lines of "ooh, that's a cocktail I've not tried before, does anyone else want one?"

So don't worry about it. Do what you want to do and only go out drinking when you feel good and ready to do so!

Reply 14

abc101

17

I think going bowling and to the cinema is much more fun than going clubbing! Ok I've never been clubbing, but it doesn't strike me as something very fun to do. On the rare occasions I meet up with my old friends, we do something like that, go to the cinema, go out for dinner. Everyone at school goes out drinking which does not float my boat at all.

I don't think it's very mature to go out and get bladdered every weekend, it's just stupid. When you go out bowling or something you can have a laugh with your mates, chat, and generally just have a good time catching up with them, which you can't really do by getting totally drunk.

Reply 15

Slender Loris

3

Cinema and bowling are more mature activities than underage drinking.

Reply 16

James

14

Boo

Ok I've never been clubbing, but it doesn't strike me as something very fun to do.

It is good fun, but it depends on your personality, mood, etc. I personally go very rarely, but I have friends who go clubbing twice a week and love it!

Boo

Everyone at school goes out drinking which does not float my boat at all.

You're absolutely right to do what you enjoy, as opposed to trying to tag along to be 'cool'.

Boo

I don't think it's very mature to go out and get bladdered every weekend, it's just stupid.

Well said. I will happily have a few pints of beer, shots of vodka or glasses of wine every now and then; that's good fun. But it's another matter altogether to get plastered, throw up all over the place and feel seriously hungover in the morning!

Reply 17

suicidal_dream

1

i dont enjoy clubbing myself!!!

my friends and i much prefer going to a gig if possible, or go to the cinema, or go to each others' house and have movie nights and such, or in the summer we have bbq's - and we're all turning 21!

Reply 18

dementedbunny

11

so what. no need to conform to everyone else if you don't enjoy what they do. just do stuff that keeps you happy.

Reply 19

CheesyBeans

1

I'm not really that keen on clubs. I sometimes go to the odd student night but I'd rather go to the pub and have a chat and giggle with my friends and play pool.

A lot of the time we just sit in, sometimes with a bit of booze, and watch daft dvds and colour in and think of childish, stupid things to decorate our walls with.

OP - I think you're friends are probably just going to clubs and getting drunk because they think it will make them seem more mature but I bet they just act like kids.

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