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I get told Im good looking, but girls dont dig me

Hi. This is startin to get me down now. Im an 18 year old guy and have only kissed 3 girls in my life. What makes it worse is that I get told Im good lookin and that I must get all the girls (this is not just by family, but even people I work with and serve when Im waitering). Now I know its about more than looks in the long term, but I dont even get any short term propositions ( if you catch my drift), and even when I start to make a move, things never seem to go further than a flirty chat. Anyone got any tips?

Reply 1

hippieglitter

19

If its short term propositions you want join adultfriendfinder.com, you'll get plenty!

Reply 2

taco23

have you got a pic?

Reply 3

bunthulhu

14

For a start, where are you looking? Perhaps try becoming friends first - although that tends to lead more towards the long term.

Reply 4

Ink

12

Hmm, well only having kissed 3 girls at 18 isn't too bad, and neither is not having people throwing themselves into your bed. I'm sure you'll get more of that when you're older.

But based on the bit of information you've given in your post:

Maybe you aren't getting more "action" because the girls are expecting you to make more moves and shower *them* with compliments rather than the other way around.
You say you are flirting with them, but are you really? Do you just respond to what they say and move on, or do you continue to pursue the flirtateous thing you've got going next time you see them? Do they usually initiate it or do you? I'm thinking perhaps you just aren't making yourself seem interested enough. No matter how hot you are, the majority of sane girls need a bit of encouragement to continue their efforts...

Reply 5

jumpinglunch

13

just be more confident,the comments people make about your attractiveness should boost your confidence,next time your flirting try making the next move,in terms of asking her out or for her number.what have u got 2 lose.

good luck.

Reply 6

Jeremy

2

If anything, you're in the perfect job to learn social skills. Wouldn't hurt to flirt just a little with some women who come in for food provided there is wine glasses on their table. Try it and gain more confidence from that.

Reply 7

CheesyBeans

1

It isn't all about looks you know. Maybe girls think your personality sucks? I often find the more good looking guys to be arses because they are generally full of themselves and expect girls to be all over them.

Try being friends with girls first.

Reply 8

dementedbunny

11

maybe your personality sucks.

Reply 9

Bedshaped

14

u people are so damn nice.

Dont worry about it. Girls are weird, go for boys!

Reply 10

matt@internet

12

Ink

the majority of sane girls need a bit of encouragement to continue their efforts...

As do guys but many gals don't seem to realise this.

Reply 11

readyforaberequine07

1

Don't complain too much; my fwb at the moment is 19 and had only ever kissed one girl before me, and he's plenty good-looking. That said, if you were to meet a girl you really liked, as others have said, don't make a move on her too fast, just try being friends. If a guy, no matter how gorgeous, started moving in on me too fast, I wouldn't like it. If he was good-looking, I'd think he was being cocky. And communication is key! When you tell her you like her, don't automatically move in close to her at that moment. Ask her what she'd feel comfortable with if she does indeed reciprocate your feelings.

Reply 12

readyforaberequine07

1

hippieglitter

If its short term propositions you want join adultfriendfinder.com, you'll get plenty!

Okay, I'm going to put in my two cents about that site. A friend of mine recently had a really s**t thing happen to her: She was handed over, by a girl she thought was a friend, to a very dangerous pimp, and pimped out on that site, among other. So if you do go there, be careful. You may be meeting someone who doesn't want to be there.

Reply 13

hippieglitter

19

readyforaberequine07

Okay, I'm going to put in my two cents about that site. A friend of mine recently had a really s**t thing happen to her: She was handed over, by a girl she thought was a friend, to a very dangerous pimp, and pimped out on that site, among other. So if you do go there, be careful. You may be meeting someone who doesn't want to be there.

Thats terrible, i do understand these sites are very dangerous and myself i wouldn't meet anybody from there... But he did say short term propositions.

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

I have exactly the same problem. I have been told that I am 'tall, dark, handsome', and have been compared (looks wise) to Ross from friends. Yet despite this it seems as though girls don't dig me :frown:

(they must all think Ross is minging!!!) ha ha. Anyway, I think my problem lies in the fact that I am not 'assertive' enough whereas my other mates are - like I am incredibly bad at talking to girls especially in a clubbing environment; I dunno what to say so I end up asking them boring questions such as "So how did your exams go?" :rolleyes:

Saying this, I have had attention and when I do get it, it has normally been really hot girls that have given it to me. The irony is, I tend to approach less attractive girls because I don't think I have a chance with the hot ones....yet I get rejected!!! (what a joke tbh!)

Reply 15

readyforaberequine07

1

hippieglitter

Thats terrible, i do understand these sites are very dangerous and myself i wouldn't meet anybody from there... But he did say short term propositions.

Still, even for a short-term proposition, you wouldn't want it to be someone like what my friend was made to be. she showed me her account on that; there are some real creeps out there.

Reply 16

Profesh

20

Ink

Hmm, well only having kissed 3 girls at 18 isn't too bad, and neither is not having people throwing themselves into your bed. I'm sure you'll get more of that when you're older.

I'd kissed three girls by the age of eighteen.

Which is to say; are you sure you wouldn't like to retract that judgment?

Reply 17

tanusha-tomsk

18

It's not just looks, it's charm and personality and the attitude. I've seen some goodlooking guys standing at busstops, obviously thinking everyone should worship them, looking down on everyone and flicking their new mobile phone - NO ONE is going to "dig you" if you do that. Let your personality show, put a smile on that face, appear approachable and friendly. You'll see what happens :smile:

Reply 18

Tawy

tanusha-tomsk

It's not just looks, it's charm and personality and the attitude. I've seen some goodlooking guys standing at busstops, obviously thinking everyone should worship them, looking down on everyone and flicking their new mobile phone - NO ONE is going to "dig you" if you do that. Let your personality show, put a smile on that face, appear approachable and friendly. You'll see what happens :smile:

I couldn't agree more!
I was told more or less the same thing by my family, friends of family, even random strangers etc. This didn't change the fact that not many girls ever liked me more than as a friend. Until I found out it actually is very little about the looks, once you have a cool personality. Try being more interesting, self confident, laid-back etc! and I'm sure girls should come to you =)

Reply 19

Blue!

1

Tried rohypnol?

Seriously though, perhaps you need to me more assertive, maybe people see you as the friendly brotherly type as opposed to the hunk that they want to take back to their place strip and cover with chocolate. Let them know you like chocolate...

I get told Im good looking, but girls dont dig me

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