The Student Room Group

Would you rather?

Walk into something that you know full well will end in you getting your heartbroken by someone you have fallen completely for?

Or not go for it right now, instead keeping someone as a friend and waiting until you've a chance at a relationship that'd work, but risking that it'd never happen at all?

Just interested by people's responses, I'm walking into something in the hope that I can have it all, but I think deep down I know we'll never have a REAL relationship I dream about.. :rolleyes:
Reply 1
Why don't you think this relationship would last?

I wouldn't like to. I fall for people too easily and would find it hard to just have a bit of fun if I really cared about the person. Long-term relationships all the way!
I would wait. What is better, the risk of nothing happening at all or a definite broken heart? Either way you arepossibly getting hurt, but by waiting, you minimise the risk.
Reply 3
Neither of us are in the right place for a relationship & its ... complicated, we're staying 'friends with a bit of fun' but I'm concerned that it'll will mean that I'm going to get terribly hurt when the 'bit of fun' has to stop & we're seeing other people.
I could always say that nothing'll happen at the moment, we'll stay friends for now and nothing else, but.. there's still just as much chance we'll never get together...
Life!
I suppose it's the 'what you want VS what's the best sensible option..' debate.
I'd rather wait to be honest then getting my heart broken.
But sometimes I need a lot of thought about entering new relatioships
I would wait, getting your heart broken hurts and i would rather have as little risk as possible, hence waiting
The latter, definitely.
Reply 7
I'd wait, and for the matter of fact, still waiting ^_^ Not having my heart broken for the hell of it, it's only fragile!
Im the opposite i think i would go for it cos i have a..dont think to much ahead attitude, id rather just take each day as it comes and think about whats happening now rather than worrying about the future, you never know it could work out..and i would always be let wondering what if

but everyones different so its up to the individual.
Reply 9
if you wait, not only will your heart not be smashed to pieces, you might stop fancying the person anyway and someone better might come along.
better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all, but then again i'm always quite detatched from anything and anyone so its probably not the best of advice
Anonymous
Walk into something that you know full well will end in you getting your heartbroken by someone you have fallen completely for?

Or not go for it right now, instead keeping someone as a friend and waiting until you've a chance at a relationship that'd work, but risking that it'd never happen at all?

Just interested by people's responses, I'm walking into something in the hope that I can have it all, but I think deep down I know we'll never have a REAL relationship I dream about.. :rolleyes:


Wht does the other person think abt it? do they feel the same?
What's with all the pessimism around here? Take a risk and follow your heart, and don't let the past experiences of some jaded TSR people change your mind.
Reply 13
Single fo' life.
Reply 14
Personally... take the risk. You may get hurt, but you'll bounce back a stronger person. If not, ever so slightly cynical :tongue:
go for it, get your heartbroken, get over it.

Tis my advice, I did it and I'm already over it.
Reply 16
Anonymous
but I think deep down I know we'll never have a REAL relationship I dream about.. :rolleyes:


You seem very cynical over the situation - perhaps try trusting that there may be very little need to be :smile:
Reply 17
JH08
You seem very cynical over the situation - perhaps try trusting that there may be very little need to be :smile:


If you knew the person I'm involving myself with then you'd be a cynic too... :p:

Having said that, conversing has gone some way to alleviating said thoughts, and a little faith I know, wouldn't go amiss.
Food for thought, if nothing else..
if u wait too long (in hope to find someone else and not get ur heart broken by ur friend) then what might happen is that u see ur friend, who u love, being taken by another person... and imo its as heart breaking...
u'll start wondering how it would have been if ur together but also face the fact that its too late...

having said that... if i love someone and know that for whatever reason we'll never have a relationsip then i wouldnt go for it. i'd rather have him as a friend, than not have him at all. (and yes i know this contradicts what i just said!)

i guess my reply wasnt the most useful but there isnt a yes/no answer :rolleyes:

hearts are made to be broken :p: