Text 15 minutes before date to cancel

Bascially i had arranged to go to cinema with girl i asked out. we arranged to go out friday ast 7.30pm. then like 7.15pm i got a text saying somethings come up and she's gonna have to cancel sorry. i dunno what to think to this. any ideas???

Reply 1

zain88

1

Please give some more information. There are several possibilities and it is not possible for anyone to come up with a likely possibility based on the information you have given. There could have been an emergency. She could have felt ill. She may have had to do something urgently. She may have not wanted to go with you. She may have become really nervous. There are so many possibilities. Really, what are you expecting people to reply?

Reply 2

Chewwy

17

ask her why she did it, then get back to us.

Reply 3

Louenn

Have you heard from her since? If not, initiate contact. Go and see her in person. If you can't do that, you may find out why she wasn't able to make it (eg being in hospital). If you do see her, you'll find out why she stood you up.

If you have heard from her and she's not said why, then you need to find out. Otherwise she might blow you out again and again.

Trust me, us girls can be seriously weird at times.

Reply 4

wackysparkle

14

15 minutes? -- hm-- that means that she wasn't even planning to come! - she would have spent some time getting ready and all --

yeah - ask her and let us know

Reply 5

bunthulhu

14

wackysparkle

15 minutes? -- hm-- that means that she wasn't even planning to come! - she would have spent some time getting ready and all --

yeah - ask her and let us know

Not necessarily true - she could have gotten all ready and then got a phone call saying her cat died or something, we don't know! It does sound suspicious though. As everyone else has said, ask her!

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

she says a family thing she can't say anymore. wot am i suppose do now like?

Reply 7

prettyblueeyes

13

This has happened to me in the past. I was meant to go out to the cinema with a boy, he was picking me up at 8 and it got to twenty to, and he text saying something came up and he had to do something. I would have understood had it been an emergency or something, sometimes things do crop up that you just can't get out of. (Turned out he was nervous, but went out with his mates half an hour later.. needless to say that relationship did not progress! Just ask her and see what her reply is!

Reply 8

*Sparkle*

17

Anonymous

she says a family thing she can't say anymore. wot am i suppose do now like?

leave it, she's more than likely telling the truth and just doesn't want to talk about it.

Arrange to go out another time.

Reply 9

wackysparkle

14

quite obviously something private and personal and she doesn't wish to discuss it now - let her have some space - and perhaps she will come tell you - or you can ask her later how she is doing

Reply 10

Anthonyjm71

9

at a guess be best to send a txt asking wot is wrong why is there a problem.

Reply 11

goodmen

13

sounds like she stole the excuse of, of 'friends' to me

Reply 12

prettyblueeyes

13

well just ask her out again another time.. if she does the same then, you'll know she's making something up!

Reply 13

bunthulhu

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Anthonyjm71

at a guess be best to send a txt asking wot is wrong why is there a problem.

Well she's already said there's family issues she doesn't want to discuss...so, no, basically.

OP, if you like her then just give her the benefit of the doubt on this one. Just try and let it go, arrange something for another time, and if she bails again then you know she's just making excuses!

Reply 14

dementedbunny

11

go to her house and disembowel her cat.

Reply 15

HereFishyFishy

13

If she really wants to go out with you she'll get in touch to rearrange. Send her a text saying something like 'I hope things are ok and I hope I'll speak to you soon'. Shows you care and still want to see her, so she can take it from there.

It does sound a tad suspicious (I wouldn't be cancelling any date I really wanted to go on without a serious reason) but give her the benefit of the doubt for now.