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Girls in relationships and university

At university, do girls who are in a relationship usually tend to stick with their boyfriends and not cheat at all?! Or are they likely to go out and cheat on their boyfriends when they are at university? The girls who do go out and cheat on their boyfriends, do you think they would then tell their boyfriends due to the guilt they felt?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

i cheated. i regret it more than i can say. i didnt tell him because i dont want to lose him, and it will NEVER happen again.

Reply 2

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OP

Do you not feel like you should tell him though? Its unfair on him? I think he should have the decision as to whether he still wants to be with you or not!

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

I would never cheat on my boyfriend when i go to uni and i know that if i ever did (very unlikeley though) I would tell him because it would linger on my mind all the time and I would feel very guilty about it. Obviously it varies between people and you cannot generalise this but if you trust your girlfriend then im sure you have nothing to worry about :smile:

Reply 4

scribble_girl

14

Brummyman

At university, do girls who are in a relationship usually tend to stick with their boyfriends and not cheat at all?! Or are they likely to go out and cheat on their boyfriends when they are at university? The girls who do go out and cheat on their boyfriends, do you think they would then tell their boyfriends due to the guilt they felt?

In my opinion ... you sound slightly paranoid.
Yes there are going to be girls who've cheated and yeah, they'll post here. And odds are that you'll listen to the couple who say they have over the 20 who say they wouldn't dream of it, because you're concerned and have a doom-and-gloom perspective on the whole thing.

However.. the examples of a few people have nothing to do with your own relationship. If you think that your relationship is so rocky that its a possibility, then you have a problem before your girlfriend even hits university.. and if you have faith in your relationship, you and your partner are the only people who can determine it, noone else.
Sorry if this is completely hypothetical, but you sound worried and I didn't want you seeing a couple of people who have cheated and then assuming that all girls & thus your girl would too! :smile:

Reply 5

tanusha-tomsk

18

Your girlfriend could cheat on you with your best mate who lives next door to you. It's jsut as likely as cheating at uni; either you trust her or you don't. It's that simple in my opinion :smile:

Reply 6

Meep!

9

Brummyman

are they likely to go out and cheat on their boyfriends when they are at university?

Not even slightly tempted to!

Reply 7

FadedJade

15

I know a few girls that have, i know girls that haven't. I haven't and I wouldn't. Just make sure you let her go out and have fun so she doesnt feel like you are holding her back. It seems (from talking to them) that that is why most of them cheated.

Reply 8

IndianDiva

If they're going to cheat, they're going to do it whether at uni or not...

Personally, I wouldn't even think of cheating.

Reply 9

Anonymous #3

I cheated on my ex boyfriend at uni but our relationship was extremely rocky. He'd cheated on me several times before I went, but I stayed with him because I thought I was a loser and couldn't do any better. Boy was I wrong.

I know two wrongs don't make a right, but the guy I cheated with is now my boyfriend and we've been together for 2 and a half years. He's my absolute soulmate.

Reply 10

Angelil

19

I'm at university in England in my third year.
My boyfriend studied in Bath while I was in my first year but then he went back to France to study and look for work. Have I cheated? No. Has he? No. (Or at least I hope not!) We've been together just over two years.
I really don't think there are any generalisations you can make about girls who are in relationships at university away from their boyfriends.

Reply 11

pikaboo

13

I lasted nearly two years at university being completely faithful to my ex who was over 200 miles away. When the relationship got more rocky in second year (including several threatened split ups) I realised that I'd rather be with someone who would make me happier. But I didn't cheat and would never want to, no matter what he thought through wounded pride :rolleyes:

Reply 12

Kate.

15

You can't generalise this to all girls. :| I wouldn't, some people would.
Like others have said, the people who would are likely to anyway, regardless of whether they're at university or not.

Reply 13

khil

15

Brummyman

At university, do girls who are in a relationship usually tend to stick with their boyfriends and not cheat at all?! Or are they likely to go out and cheat on their boyfriends when they are at university? The girls who do go out and cheat on their boyfriends, do you think they would then tell their boyfriends due to the guilt they felt?

Met my bf at the start of uni and never cheated on him :smile:

Same with one of my housemates.

I know a girl who did pull a guy (situation was blurred as to who was drunk and who kisses who first but anyway) and she did have a boyfriend. She confessed to her bf and he forgave her and she never did anything similar again. They broke up in the end anyway though due to differences in personality I think.

If I cheated on my bf I'd definitely tell him - I'd feel too guilty :s-smilie:

Reply 14

Scarlett_Jewel

1

Brummyman

Do you not feel like you should tell him though? Its unfair on him? I think he should have the decision as to whether he still wants to be with you or not!

I've cheated on boyfriends before and telling them is selfish. Or it is in my case. My conscience plagues me afterwards and I'm then inclined to tell them, but that's only to ease my conscience. Chances are with my current boyfriend, he would be incredibly hurt but forgive me and we'd continue to be together. Either way, we're still together, why should I put him through the pain?

I'd say I'm big enough and ugly enough to determine when I cheat due to an underlying problem, and that's a different matter, handled in a different way. But when it's just because I'm horny, or rebellious... I'm honest with my boyfriends about who I am, and to this end, I don't think it's so out of character for me, when i'm drunk/excited to "cheat": I don't rate kissing/sex as one of the most intimate things you could do, it's mostly physical. But this is something of a tangent.

To the OP, you can't just categorise relationships and girls and boys like that. You have to know your own girl/boyfriend and the relationship that you have: if anything's taboo to talk about then you can't have the trust you need to survive a LDR at uni.

xxx

Reply 15

Llamaaa

15

I would never cheat on my fiance, even though i get offers here at uni. I know lots of girls who do, and they see it as harmless since their boyfriend would never know. But personally I love my fiance far too much to ever do that to him. I could never be with anyone else.

Reply 16

Yum

tanusha-tomsk

Your girlfriend could cheat on you with your best mate who lives next door to you. It's jsut as likely as cheating at uni; either you trust her or you don't. It's that simple in my opinion :smile:

Great answer. You are generalising too much- you can't talk about 'girls' in that way because every girl has her own attitude towards relationships and commitments. I have never cheated on my boyfriend in years and years and never would, but I have friends who have and think nothing of it. It is all relative to the person.
If you don't trust her, and I am guessing there is a particular girl you are stressing over, you have to either confront it and/or learn to deal with it.

Reply 17

wendizzle22

1

It really depends on the girls involved and the quality of their relationship. I was with my bf before I started uni and have never cheated and are still together. However I have a friend who has cheated several times and hasn't told her boyfriend.

Reply 18

Rhythm

2

Let me just state that this post is my OPINION and is not fact.

I believe any girl will cheat on a man provided thet 1) a 'better' man comes along and 2) the girl can justify cheating, "He seduced me/I was drunk/etc"

By better I mean, better looking, better 'game' and just generally better.

Take this summer for example, I was in the USA, and the accent gives me the advantage over most American guys there...plus the fact that I was a soccer coach at the time, plus I'm tall and at least decent looking. 3 of the girls I got with all told me afterwarda they had b/fs, one even talked to him on the phone straight after...and these were all regular "good" girls.

Is this good news or bad news? Well, if you have a g/f and are rubbish in bed, boring, ugly etc. its bad. But there are ways you can stop this happening, you just have to be 'better' than any competitors, that means keeping her on her toes, having excellent sex, great conversation, funny, exciting, etc.

On a last note, you really can't blame a girl for this behaviour...they're hardwired to select the best possible mate....just like guys are.

PS; just cos a girl says she won't cheat doesn't mean its true. I've seen some "player" types get with girls who have used this exact phrase with conviction. Girls/women generally act upon their emotions as oppsed to men who act upon logic.

Reply 19

Ourkid

12

Logic ftw.

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