what to say!

right well i kinda realised i had a problem with this last night...

i have no problems if a guy comes up to me on a night out and starts chatting to me or dancing with me, and i have no problem with girls being more forward and doing it instead of the guy, however there goes me thinking this, come last night there was a guy i really fancied standing just off the dance floor with his mates, and i was dnaicng with my mates on the dancefloor, and i just had no idea what to do at all! this may sound stupid and naive but i just don't, its never been something i've been exposed to...

just really looking for advice here, should you just walk up to a guy in a group and start talking to them, if so, what do you say?? you can't really just walk up to a guy and say "i think your hot", not the best convo starter really, but then again if you walked up to them and started normal conversation like i wud say with someone in a lecture like "hey so what course do you do" "hey so what hall are u in" they would probably think i was really weird!

please can we avoid the patronising comments here, im genuinely looking for advice...thanks

Reply 1

Blue!

Don't go up to them and tell them they're hot. Whilst it may work, it may also back fire Though, I'd probably be won over if someone said that to me...
Even worse would be to stand there like a lemo. You have to have something to say.

If you are in a night club, why not ask him to dance, or just introduce yourself, if you are at uni, ask him what course he does. If you want to dance, dance, if not, suggest that you go somewhere a little quiter, like a table or something.

The first move is always there hardest, but once its done, it's a lot easier.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

it just seems a bit awkward to just walk up to soemone you dont know and go "hi so what course do you do" mb its just me....

Reply 3

sticcyiccy

Walking up to him and doing a " Hi I'm #### Whats your name :biggrin:

" Is not going to work.

You can either : a)Break off from your group of mates say probably two of you if he is in a group, probably take your most confident mate. Whilst at the bar make eye contact and maybe when he n his friends are looking bored start up a conversation ask something like do u come here often or which uni he goes to??

b)Wait till he comes on to the dance floor then make eye contact if you know him vaguely nod or say hi!! if not just smile at him. Dont be too obvious but Wait till theres a good song then start dancing with thim. About, five ten mins of dancing say that ur either too hot or thirsty then move on to a quieter area where u can do the whole my name is ####, what do you do??? etc .

Hope this helps :smile:

Reply 4

john171

Give him a slap of the ass and let him know you're about.

Or walk up to him and say "Did you say you wanted to buy me a drink?"

Ask him for a light...

I mean, there's a million and one ways to approach him.

Reply 5

Bubblebee

Anonymous

i have no problems if a guy comes up to me on a night out and starts chatting to me or dancing with me, and i have no problem with girls being more forward and doing it instead of the guy,

Huh, I don't really get that?

Reply 6

Flank Runner

long way - make eye contact, smile, go over introduce yourself, dance?, drink? etc etc

short way - walk over, grab collar, pull onto dance floor, dance, rinse and repeat as necessary

Reply 7

john171

Flank Runner

long way - make eye contact, smile, go over introduce yourself, dance?, drink? etc etc

short way - walk over, grab collar, pull onto dance floor, dance, rinse and repeat as necessary