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Age Differences
What is your opinion on relationships where person is considerably older than the other?
How many years would you say is too much?
Do relationships with age gaps work, in your opinion?
Have you ever been in a relationship where the other person is older/younger than you by a considerable number of years? would you recommend it?
How many years would you say is too much?
Do relationships with age gaps work, in your opinion?
Have you ever been in a relationship where the other person is older/younger than you by a considerable number of years? would you recommend it?
I think an age gap is find. Afterall it comes down to maturity levels, not a number of years. I think a gap of 20 years is far too much though. And sure I think these relationships can work. I dated a guy 4 years older than me, and we were on the same wave length, which made it successful.
I'm nearly 20 and my boyfriend is 30. We've been going out nearly two years. I would neither "recommend" or "not recommend" it; I didn't intend to get into a relationship with someone older, it just happened that when the right person came along, he was older. If you've met someone and you care for them, then (providing it's all legal of course) then age is not a big issue. Obviously there will be some difficulties with you both being at different stages of your lives; for example, my boyfriend is a graduate who works full-time, and I am a student who works at the weekend, so finding times when we are both free to do stuff can be tricky, as we are doing different things at different times. But then that works out; as he isn't around in the daytime I get my work done instead of being tempted to spend too much time with him and not enough on work!
To be perfectly honest, it totally depends on the people involved-in some cases you might have a really mature 16 yr old with someone who's 19 or 20, and they get on wonderfully, and in others you might have two peope of the same age, one of whom really isn't as mature as the other. You can't really look at a difference in age between a couple and say 'That's wrong!' (unless one's like, 20, and the other underage) unless you really know them.
I think it totally depends on the couple. Some people will get along great with somebody older, others won't. I'm with my bf who is 23 which gives us a 4+ years age gap, i honestly don't notice it apart from i'm in uni and he works full time. I guess also i can't get into over 21's bars but that's not been an issue yet.
It depends how much the age gap is in my opinion..because I don't think I could see myself (especially now, at 17) with anyone who was say more than 6 or 7 years older. However I guess you can't really help who you fall in love with..so I'm not really against people who are in relationships with larger age gaps. I just don't think I could do it myself.
I went out with a guy who was nearly 5 years older than me, and I found that it was very strange at first as he was so mature..as a result of that I only really look at guys who are older than me now - I don't think I could go out with someone who was the same age as me any more just because I'm used to that level of maturity.
I went out with a guy who was nearly 5 years older than me, and I found that it was very strange at first as he was so mature..as a result of that I only really look at guys who are older than me now - I don't think I could go out with someone who was the same age as me any more just because I'm used to that level of maturity.
soph_07
What is your opinion on relationships where person is considerably older than the other?
It can work, I have seen it for myself. One of my friends at home is 20, and his girlfriend is 16. That is a rather considerable gap, I think you would agree.
soph_07
How many years would you say is too much?
I would say more than five.
soph_07
Do relationships with age gaps work, in your opinion?
It is entirely contingent upon the persons engaged in the relationship.
soph_07
Have you ever been in a relationship where the other person is older/younger than you by a considerable number of years? would you recommend it
No I have not
It does work and it can work. I knew of a girl who was married to a bloke 35 years her senior (as I don't know them personally, I don't know if they're still together). And there's ten years between two of my best friends and they've been married for 12 years this month.
One of the ladies I know from church says there should be a minimum of 10 years between a man & a woman, because of the maturity levels, but I think that's based on if they're going to be together forever and getting married.
The average age difference between me & the blokes I've dated is 16 years, but don't take that as an example because I'm currently single.
One of the ladies I know from church says there should be a minimum of 10 years between a man & a woman, because of the maturity levels, but I think that's based on if they're going to be together forever and getting married.
The average age difference between me & the blokes I've dated is 16 years, but don't take that as an example because I'm currently single.
i was just interested to see what people thought because i know that before i met my boyfriend, i would have thought an age gap of ten years would be too much.
he's 28, 1'm 17, well 18 in a couple of days and he's 10 and a half years older than me and we've been together nearly six months. as it's a long distance relationship it can be hard, but we're both working at it and are very happy together. though it is very early on, i can honestly say that i do wanna spend my life with him and i genuinely believe it will work.
he's 28, 1'm 17, well 18 in a couple of days and he's 10 and a half years older than me and we've been together nearly six months. as it's a long distance relationship it can be hard, but we're both working at it and are very happy together. though it is very early on, i can honestly say that i do wanna spend my life with him and i genuinely believe it will work.
Louenn
It does work and it can work. I knew of a girl who was married to a bloke 35 years her senior (as I don't know them personally, I don't know if they're still together). And there's ten years between two of my best friends and they've been married for 12 years this month.
One of the ladies I know from church says there should be a minimum of 10 years between a man & a woman, because of the maturity levels, but I think that's based on if they're going to be together forever and getting married.
The average age difference between me & the blokes I've dated is 16 years, but don't take that as an example because I'm currently single.
One of the ladies I know from church says there should be a minimum of 10 years between a man & a woman, because of the maturity levels, but I think that's based on if they're going to be together forever and getting married.
The average age difference between me & the blokes I've dated is 16 years, but don't take that as an example because I'm currently single.
Wow there *should* be an age difference of 10 years? I think that's probably not a good idea, generally speaking.
Anyway, personally I think the max age difference for me would be 5 years or so. I think 7 years is stretching it and 10 years is a bit much, but hey, it works in some cases
and in the end, it's maturity and personality that will affect whether the relationship works out or not. And this age difference thing depends very much on how old the individuals are. If you were 30 and your partner's 40 - sure, I still think it's stretching it, but it's acceptable, pretty much. But a 15-year-old dating a 25-year-old is a different issue. I'd call that paedophilia (sp?). It felt so wrong when one of my aquaintances at the age of 21 had a girlfriend at age 16 
(and fancied her when she was 14)In the end, a lot of it is maturity and personality, and then whether the individuals can accept such an age difference. If the couple can cope fine with all these things and it's not like one of them is below 17 or anything, I don't see why it should be a bad thing. I'd be skeptical about it to start off with, but it could work out. I wouldn't do it personally though.
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