Boyfriend follows models and sexual accounts on Instagram and Snapchat Watch

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My boyfriend follows numerous accounts that are VERY sexual and it bugs me because we're together so why does he need to? It of course makes me feel insecure(because these girls look amazing) and I find it really off putting. I have been with other partners and never had this issue nor do my friends(they find it creepy that he does) so I'm not sure whether I should be feeling this or not? I have tried to ignore it but I don't feel like I can because of how it makes me feel... There had been a point where he only followed models and that was ok but the sexual accounts get to me. I have mentioned I found it odd he follows them but he has carried on following them..
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Firstly, you should tell him how you feel about it, I understand that i is normal for him but, I also understand that it makes you feel like you are not enough.
If he cares about you, he will try and stop, or at least reduce it.
But you also need to understand that he isn't doing it to hurt you, it's just what he sees as sexual..
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I have mentioned I found it odd he follows them but he has carried on following them..
Sounds like you haven't had an open and honest conversation with him about this. Merely mentioning that you find it odd, in a throwaway fashion (which is what a lot of people might be inclined to do) isn't enough. You need to sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him that it makes you feel insecure and that you'd prefer it if he stopped.

But talking dirt about him to your friends (who are naturally going to be on your side and will brand his behaviour 'creepy') isn't going to help anyone, and it certainly won't make those feelings of insecurity go away.
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Communication is key in a relationship. You need to talk with him about it and let him know how you feel.
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It doesn't sound too different from how some guys watch porn while in a relationship. But if it really does bother you, you need to have a proper talk with him instead of just trying to hint at how it's bothering you.
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Clearly you are going to finish this relationship in second place

He is just holding out for a better fish but will manage with you until then.
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He's a guy that is completely normal. It's like how girls follow actors or singers they like on twitter, etc.
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(Original post by DiceTheSlice)
Obvious you will finish this relationship in second place

He is holding out for a better fish but will manage with you until that proverbial fish is ready to eat his bait.
Try to provide something helpful instead of making stuff up
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Are you also unhappy with him viewing porn? If not, why is this different?
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Try to provide something helpful instead of making stuff up
Sorry I just spoke my mind on the issue
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get a grip hes done nothing wrong its normal for guys to follow hot girls on Instagram
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If I was your boyfriend and you asked me why I'm following various accounts on instagram, I'd be worried as to why you were stalking me...
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I don't know how the guys answering here can be so unaware of the impact of this. I know for a guy loving a girl, if she started to follow naked guys, the bf would probably feel similar, mine defo would. This is about respecting another persons feelings, and respecting the person. You hold that person in high esteem so why degrade yourself or the person you love. We all know guys and girls like each other, it's part of attraction so do it privately, you can access any naked girl/guy account without following these people. Do it because you love your significant other and show that you love and respect her through your actions.
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He is not cheating on you or having chatsex with these 'models' or pornstars or anyone else so I dont know what your problem is, let him watch what he wants. Your insecurities are your problem and you should work them out, not project them onto your partner. Just because someone is in a relationship doesnt mean they dont like looking at sex. If you are going to be so controlling and whiny he is going to get tired of it and leave you sooner or later. Its really none of your business what he watches on the Internet, he isnt 11 years old and you arent his mom.
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(Original post by ellie0497)
If I was your boyfriend and you asked me why I'm following various accounts on instagram, I'd be worried as to why you were stalking me...
Ditto
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They would probably do it because they sense they can't trust you. Would you like a potential employer seeing you do that, no cos it wouldn't reflect well on you. Respect yourself and others.
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(Original post by DiceTheSlice)
Obvious you will finish this relationship in second place

He is holding out for a better fish but will manage with you until that proverbial fish is ready to eat his bait.
Bet this is a feminist, who can't get any guy herself
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Lol he's a man, hardly surprising that he's looking at sexual images.
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(Original post by will_jg)
He's a guy that is completely normal. It's like how girls follow actors or singers they like on twitter, etc.
i agree with this
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You have to be on instagram but these model accounts etc won't just follow you they have to have been views then they will follow you
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