Flirting without the other person knowing?

(This probably makes no sense whatsoever, so I apologise in advance )Wikipedia defines flirting as: "a form of human interaction, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest in the other person. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact" But what I've been wondering for quite some time now if there's an effective method of flirting where the person you're flirting with isn't entirely aware of what you're doing.

What I mean, is normally if you just flirt with someone in the conventional sense, i.e. by hinting about you and them; making jokes and so on, it tends to be pretty obvious that you're attracted to the other person, and that is why it normally either works or doesn't (because they think inside their mind that they're either attracted to you and will pursue it further; or they aren't.)

However, if flirting is just a form of human interaction.. then surely it's possible to attract the other person without them necessarily thinking consciously: "This person obviously likes me, do I like them back?" and so on. Of course, you'll be thinking: "Where's the issue? Just be a little more subtle surely.." but if you're that subtle, then the other person won't realise you're interested..

So basically I think what I'm asking is do you have an effective method of attracting others to you, or developing relationships with people who are already your friends, without them knowing what you're doing?

Yay! If I got what you were on about, you must be as utterly bonkers as I!
I have wondered this though, as it seems all flirting gets to a point where it's just so... well, cheesy... it'd be nice to have a way of making someone see you in a romantic way without them thinking 'ahhh, they're trying to make me fancy them' (even if it works!)

Flirting is not always obvious. A lot is subconscious and is picked up also subconsciously. So you are not always thinking consciously 'hmm are they hot?' It's like about eye contact and slight touching and laughing at jokes. And so on and so forth.

I know exactly what you're talking about - and yes, it is possible.

There are a lot of things that we do subconciously when we are around someone we like.. and we tend to subconciously mimic their moves.. so as to lull them into a sense of comfort and flattery. Some people know this kind of thing and can catch onto it, thus making flirting with someone much easier.

It's the subtle things really.. for example, if they place their hands on their lap, you place yours on your lap.. mimic their motions.. but subtlety is the key here, don't make it obvious.

There are a few other subtle factors though - if you try searching google you can get some good references.

Hope this helps