Starting relationship for wrong reasons?

I'm 20, YES 20 and for various reasons haven't been in a relationship, ever.

Now I've met a cute guy and we get on okay and he's asked me out - but I don't know if he's got the sort of personality I like in a guy...

I don't know if I should get into a relationship with him as I wouldn't normally go for someone his age (24) and he's a different religion (things that I consider)

My question is, is it right to get into a relationship if you don't believe it's gonna go anywhere? Should I go out with him? I do really want a relationship, and I suppose it could work?

Ahh I'm confused

Reply 1

hannah_dru

2

Sounds like you've got a negative attitude towards this. If you have, then don't do it.

Reply 2

DoMakeSayThink

15

It's what dating is for - to find out whether or not you like someone.

Reply 3

hannah_dru

2

You don't go out with someone if you don't fancy them though do you?

Reply 4

sidi

1

Just keep him as a friend and socialise with him. Maybe it'll develop into something more serious, maybe it won't but don't hurt his feelings by letting him think it will be anything more than friendship.

Reply 5

fleur de lis

15

I agree, you don't sound very positive, and it sounds as if you want to go out with him for the sake of going out with someone, rather than that you want to go out with him, if that makes sense. And that's not a good enough reason to go out with someone imo. If you really do like him for him, then sure, see where it goes, but do it for the right reasons.

Reply 6

IndianDiva

If you're unsure, which you sound like you are, maybe its best to keep him as a friend, and see if you change your mind over time. Don't get into a relationship just for the hell of it.

Reply 7

TrentEnd

2

Sounds like you just want to jump into the first relationship on offer, which is probably not the best idea. Sometimes beforeyou buy something you need to shop around as it were - not suggesting you would be paying for it haha!

Why not just go out for a drink or something and see what happens?

Reply 8

Spleh

Anonymous

I'm 20, YES 20 and for various reasons haven't been in a relationship, ever.

Fear not my good woman, many people will die without ever being in a relationship. I sincerely hope you will not be one of them.

Anonymous

Now I've met a cute guy and we get on okay and he's asked me out - but I don't know if he's got the sort of personality I like in a guy...

I don't know if I should get into a relationship with him as I wouldn't normally go for someone his age (24) and he's a different religion (things that I consider)

My question is, is it right to get into a relationship if you don't believe it's gonna go anywhere? Should I go out with him? I do really want a relationship, and I suppose it could work?

Ahh I'm confused

My dear, I suggest you engage this fellow in a relationship. If nothing else, it will be damned good practice for when you have a meaningful relationship. I learnt a lot from my ex, things I have put into good use with my fiance.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

I'd go for it... what have you got to lose? If you've only just met him its not like you're risking a beautiful friendship... I wasn't sure if I wanted to go out with my bf at the start, I even contemplated standing him up! Really can't think why now... he was like my perfect guy, I just didn't think I fancied him. But anyway, we're still together and very much in love. He really is the best thing that ever happened to me. So... you could end up really liking him, though there's a good chance you won't. But what's so wrong with that? It might help you in finding out what it is you are looking for; it might give you more confidence etc. etc.

Starting relationship for wrong reasons?

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