Sick of being Mr Nice Guy!

I feel as if life is going downhill. Whenever I meet a girl i like and really get closed to always ends up liking someone else or is generally not interested.

I am tired of being a nice person that listens to everything, supports everyone and then nobody value that friendship or relationships.

Reply 1

Spleh

Sir, I salute you for your dashing Prussian-style courage! I feel that I comprehend your situation, for indeed I judge myself to be of a similar character. Take heart for it is the caring and kind that make this world worthwhile. Don't give in, good guys CAN win. :cool:

Reply 2

JC.

19

Im a wholely unpleasent bastard and I don't win very often either!

Reply 3

Robbolo

13

Im in the same boat as the OP, so nice infact its a common misconception that most girls think im gay :frown:

never a good basis for a strong relationship if they think your batting for the other team :wink:

But i believe one day itll pay off, when we find love, and all the bastard guys just find new treatments to their many STI's from a life of hopping between beds :smile:

Reply 4

theonehitwonder

2

JC.

Im a wholely unpleasent bastard and I don't win very often either!

But you're the Stig! :p:

Plus, I thought you had girls throwing themselves at you!!!

Reply 5

fat_hobbit

2

Anonymous

I feel as if life is going downhill. Whenever I meet a girl i like and really get closed to always ends up liking someone else or is generally not interested.

I am tired of being a nice person that listens to everything, supports everyone and then nobody value that friendship or relationships.

Join the club. Has anyone suspected that you are gay yet? I hate it when that happens. So many female mates = you must be gayyyyyyyyyyy! :rolleyes:

Reply 6

goodmen

13

listen to this:

everyone is mr nice guy. watch F***ing grease and listen to the song summer loving. Thats what its like guys lie and so do girls.

Just make your move within a month and ur sorted with any bird no wirrs

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

I am not gay. I am just sick of everyone thinking that I am just a friend no girl wants to see me as anything else. I have friends that are guys and girls. I am not being horrible but some of my friends are not so good looking but always have girls around them. Even though I have girls around me, no girl wants to get to close.

Reply 8

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Spleh

Sir, I salute you for your dashing Prussian-style courage! I feel that I comprehend your situation, for indeed I judge myself to be of a similar character. Take heart for it is the caring and kind that make this world worthwhile. Don't give in, good guys CAN win. :cool:

Did you bang your head and wake up thinking you were a Victorian dandy?

Reply 9

Spleh

goodmen

Thats what its like guys lie and so do girls.

With all due respect sir, that is a load of poppycock and balderdash. Not all guys and girls lie, although perhaps they do in your mind. Perhaps you have just been unlucky and only encountered the bad apples.

The Thread Starter

I am just sick of everyone thinking that I am just a friend no girl wants to see me as anything else.

One problem is that if you establish yourself as friends then it can become hard for girls to see you as anything else than a friend. If you intend to ask a girl out, do it quickly.

You see, becoming friends with a girl is like landing at Anzio Beach: it gives you the opportunity to gather intelligence and muster your strength, and puts you with in striking distance of your objective, but if you sit on the beach too long and don't strike while the iron is hot, you'll wind up pinned down.

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Did you bang your head and wake up thinking you were a Victorian dandy?

Good Lord sir, of course not! I am shocked and appalled at your suggestion that I am a 'dandy'. Pistols at dawn for you! :P

Reply 10

Toy Soldier

3

Right, you don't have to be a downright "bad guy" to solve this. You don't have to disrespect people or cheat on girls or go around acting like a yob. You do however have to stop being all "best buddies" with everyone you meet - because we all know that once a girl sees you like that there's no going back.

In short, you don't have to stop being a fundamentally "good guy" to stop being a soft little faggot.

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

Good guys can't win, as follows:

I treat a girl like crap (to experiment), and she falls for me. I treat her more like crap, and she wants me more. I'm not joking either. So it took one hell of a rude text message to get her to finally not speak to me. How long did this rudeness last for? Just under 1-year.
What got me more was that a handsome guy was also asking her out, who is a really nice guy and she turns him down! I just don't get it. I figured this girl was pathetic.

The text message from her: Were you glad to see me back?
Text message from me: Yes because you weren't fat (pregnant) and no, because I had to burden myself with seeing you.

I do not understand women.

And yes - I do know I was a bastard, but like the OP, sometimes being Mr Nice guy never does anything for you. Cockyness, arrogance, and even rudeness worked. I rest my case (never done this before either).

Obviosuly this is anon for all the obvious reasons! To all people: I'm not really that much of a twit - I promise. I just had to do this for all my insecurities.

Reply 12

Toy Soldier

3

Arrogance

. Girls love it, if they say otherwise they're lying (probably to appease some emo boyfriend).

Reply 13

Lucia.

16

Nice guys are the best :smile:

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

I hate being a bad person because its just not me.

Reply 15

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Anonymous

I hate being a bad person because its just not me.

You don't have to be a bad guy, just stop being a pussy. Girls don't actually want a sensitive, clingy, new-man freak, they just want a bloke. :smile:

Reply 16

Toy Soldier

3

YOu don't have to be bad, just be assertive and make your unsavoury intentions clear frm the start, rather than trying to be her BFF :rolleyes:

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Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

I am not clingy or a pussy. i am rather straight-forward when it comes to some matters. However, I am always there for people, always helping them. With girls its the same. I do not see how I am being a pussy.

Reply 18

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Anonymous

I am not clingy or a pussy. i am rather straight-forward when it comes to some matters. However, I am always there for people, always helping them. With girls its the same. I do not see how I am being a pussy.

I have bolded the pertinent phrases. You are trying to attract them, not be their best friend. Being incredibly nice puts you into the latter category and one which means you will spend the rest of your life holding her handbag while she screws a bad boy in the club toilets. :smile:

Reply 19

FadedJade

15

I dont know how old you guys are but wait for the girls to mature a bit!

Most younger girls go for bad guys either because they think they're cool or they think they can change them or whatever. They grow up and then they want nice guys like you lot!

If it makes you feel any better I thought my bloke was gay when I first met him, but i certainly dont think that now and we've been together a year and a half so dont give up hope yet :smile:

Sick of being Mr Nice Guy!

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