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Why is he being like this?
This may sound stupid but I realy need some advice - met my bf through a friend and started talking to him online last week, everything was really good - he was texting and calling loads saying he couldn't wait to meet me and really liked me and wanted to go out etc - we met last fri and he asked me out. He text me on fri night saying he's really happy we're going out etc, however on sat he didn't call or text at all and last night he asked me if i think we rushed into going out.
I said that maybe we did a little but we could just take it slowly and get to know eachother as we've only been going out 4 days. He said that he's worried about me leaving him and going to uni in september (i'm 17 but he's 20 and not going to uni) and also worried that we might go out for a month and then one of us decide we just want to be friends. I said we should cross that bridge when we come to it as it's early days and he agreed but he's being really off with me and will only text me if i mention sex or getting him a new xbox game for his bday.
I really like him and don't want to break up.. really don't know what to do, please help
I said that maybe we did a little but we could just take it slowly and get to know eachother as we've only been going out 4 days. He said that he's worried about me leaving him and going to uni in september (i'm 17 but he's 20 and not going to uni) and also worried that we might go out for a month and then one of us decide we just want to be friends. I said we should cross that bridge when we come to it as it's early days and he agreed but he's being really off with me and will only text me if i mention sex or getting him a new xbox game for his bday.
I really like him and don't want to break up.. really don't know what to do, please help
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Canna help sorry, but he sounds like a prat 
This gets me girls seem to think an older guy is all good and more mature but all the girls I know that have been with older guys seem to think little of them because they are more childish and immature than the girls which only leads me to one conclusion.......Older guys go with younger girls because girls of the same age wouldn't have them as they are too immature. Btw im talking older guys as in a few years and up not a single year of a few months!
aibonez
if he only wants to chat to you when sex or games is involved i'd forget about him, have u slept with him already? You can find someone decent
Haven't slept with him, he said he wants to on valentines day but that's way too soon and i want to wait a while cos i'm a virgin...
^^ Really feel like he's going off of me already and cos i like him loads i don't want him to dump me and just don't know what to say/do I text him earlier saying hows ur day and he just replies saying 'good so far, if i see u on sat i have to be home by 3 to watch man u match' blergh
I text him earlier saying hows ur day and he just replies saying 'good so far, if i see u on sat i have to be home by 3 to watch man u match' blergh He sounds like a rite ass to me. Why dont you want him to dump you? He seems to treat you like "a little fun on the side" in otherwords, like ****!
miki_da_magpie
He sounds like a rite ass to me. Why dont you want him to dump you? He seems to treat you like "a little fun on the side" in otherwords, like ****!
Yeah he's treating me badly atm, the thing is last week he was so nice sending texts like 'i miss you' etc. getting none of that this week at all, should i talk to him about it?
Anonymous
Haven't slept with him, he said he wants to on valentines day but that's way too soon and i want to wait a while cos i'm a virgin...
Didn't you post a thread specifically about that before and get a similar "he's a prat, dump him!" response?
Might be time to listen to the voice of the mob!
I guess you get what the general jist here is right? He liked you at the start cus he was interested in... let's say YOUR BODY. Then he found out you were a virgin and divvn wanna sleep with him right away so he stuck around knowing that he would get some because you really like him, but he stops being in any way interested in you except sexually...Here's what's going to happen: he sleeps with you... he dumps you. So here's what you do. Either you completely change him into becoming a great man that is mature and respects your decision to wait, and one who shows more interest in you (does that sound slightly unlikely) or... you dump him. Prats like that deserve to be punished.
Phantom Phoenix
Didn't you post a thread specifically about that before and get a similar "he's a prat, dump him!" response?
Might be time to listen to the voice of the mob!
Might be time to listen to the voice of the mob!
Nop i didn't but thanks
miki_da_magpie
I guess you get what the general jist here is right? He liked you at the start cus he was interested in... let's say YOUR BODY. Then he found out you were a virgin and divvn wanna sleep with him right away so he stuck around knowing that he would get some because you really like him, but he stops being in any way interested in you except sexually...Here's what's going to happen: he sleeps with you... he dumps you. So here's what you do. Either you completely change him into becoming a great man that is mature and respects your decision to wait, and one who shows more interest in you (does that sound slightly unlikely) or... you dump him. Prats like that deserve to be punished.
Well he found out i was a virgin before we started talking properly and said that he would wait until i was ready to have sex. I asked him if i could see him on fri and he said he's busy seeing and old uni friend an doing work but can do sat anytime before 3 because of football match and family over, does that sound like he's lying?
Should i ask him why he's being so off and weird with me in contrast to last week when he wouldn't stop calling/txtn?
Anonymous
Nop i didn't but thanks
Eww, then there's loads of men trying to sleep with virgins on Valentines Day.
That's just...URGH.
He probably wanted a relationship with someone who was more experienced (or at least more willing to reciprocate the feelings he has - ie hornyness). It probably sounds a bit harsh, but at his age he probably wants to enjoy all aspects of a relationship, not hang around waiting for you to be ready to lose your virginity. So hes gone cold on you, because you aren't who he originally thought you were.
Edit: As for saying he was fine with it, he probably thought he could persuade you to have sex (which is why he suggested valentines day), as you've ruled that out, hes probably realised that he doesn't want a relationship with you.
Edit: As for saying he was fine with it, he probably thought he could persuade you to have sex (which is why he suggested valentines day), as you've ruled that out, hes probably realised that he doesn't want a relationship with you.
no offense, but he asked you out the first time you met. It sounds very rushed, and i might be alone in my thinking here but it doesn't sound like he's being a prat, just being SENSIBLE. you don't know each other particularly well, you might be better suited as friends and you will be encountering the problem of moving away from each other anyway when you go to uni. It sounds like more drama than it's worth.
3232
He probably wanted a relationship with someone who was more experienced (or at least more willing to reciprocate the feelings he has - ie hornyness). It probably sounds a bit harsh, but at his age he probably wants to enjoy all aspects of a relationship, not hang around waiting for you to be ready to lose your virginity. So hes gone cold on you, because you aren't who he originally thought you were.
Edit: As for saying he was fine with it, he probably thought he could persuade you to have sex (which is why he suggested valentines day), as you've ruled that out, hes probably realised that he doesn't want a relationship with you.
Edit: As for saying he was fine with it, he probably thought he could persuade you to have sex (which is why he suggested valentines day), as you've ruled that out, hes probably realised that he doesn't want a relationship with you.
I thought that was true but then he seemed fine with the fact i am a virgin, except when i went to his house on friday (having met him for the first time) he tried soo much stuff (hands everywhere) ..hmm but he seems confused as he was the one who asked me out on fri and initiated everything but then he said last night that he likes me and wants to take it slow and that we should have seen eachother loads more as friends before we went out
. This soudns so stupid but should i just sleep with him to keep him?
Anonymous
I thought that was true but then he seemed fine with the fact i am a virgin, except when i went to his house on friday (having met him for the first time) he tried soo much stuff (hands everywhere) ..hmm but he seems confused as he was the one who asked me out on fri and initiated everything but then he said last night that he likes me and wants to take it slow and that we should have seen eachother loads more as friends before we went out .
This soudns so stupid but should i just sleep with him to keep him?
. This soudns so stupid but should i just sleep with him to keep him?
You probably already know the answer to that one. You seem to be moving way too fast, you've only just met the guy on friday and you're considering sleeping with him to keep him? He already tried pestering you into sleeping with him the first time you met him, does this really sound like a guy you want to sleep with?
3232
You probably already know the answer to that one. You seem to be moving way too fast, you've only just met the guy on friday and you're considering sleeping with him to keep him? He already tried pestering you into sleeping with him the first time you met him, does this really sound like a guy you want to sleep with?
No but i really like him meh
Anonymous
I thought that was true but then he seemed fine with the fact i am a virgin, except when i went to his house on friday (having met him for the first time) he tried soo much stuff (hands everywhere) ..hmm but he seems confused as he was the one who asked me out on fri and initiated everything but then he said last night that he likes me and wants to take it slow and that we should have seen eachother loads more as friends before we went out .
This soudns so stupid but should i just sleep with him to keep him?
. This soudns so stupid but should i just sleep with him to keep him?
God, no.
Do you really want a guy who only wants you for sex?
My first boyfriend was like that and I'm SO glad I never "gave it up", so to speak. I'd hate to think I'd lost my virginity to that scumbag. You're going to look back and say the same thing - assuming you take everyone's advice.
Ditch the rotten bugger and find someone better. I did.
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