The crappest boyfriend ever?

Don't go any where near him again . . . with the exception of uni, he sounds EXACTLY like my ex . . .

- Has plenty of money coming in, but somehow spends all of it
- Expected me to pay for everthing, even the fuel for him to drive over and see me!
- Very rarely treated me/spent money on me, even though I was constantly subsidsing him
- Dranks loads and smoked weed constantly
- Layabout who felt that life was all about chillin' with his mates and getting stoned
- Would rather beg, borrow and steal than actualy have self restraint.
- Doesn't care about sticking to promises/plans and certainly doesn't see the point in forward planning. After all, even if you plan to go somewhere with the g/f, you might get a better offer from your mates. My ex always used refuse to say he would come and see me on the basis that his mates might want him instead. He would just expect to turn up when he wasn't busy and would get upset if I couldn't see him!
- No consideration of my feelings. Happily allowed chicks to mess about with him. We had broken up when this happened, but had also been 'seeing' eachother again and I felt it was just unnecessary to be trying to get laid at a houseparty I was at, esp as he had been trying to re-woo me minutes before!

I could go on but I'm just ranting now.

Please, he won't change, however much he promises. I was with this guy for two years and know exactly the things these kinds of people say and do to try and keep you. In the end, this particular leopard will never change his spots. Don't put yourself through any more of this. Love must be expressed by actions and considerations as well as words.

Jesus. Reading that bought back so many memories that I feel physicaly sick!

You headbutted him! I think the relationship is dead in the water.

I'm so sorry. He sounds like he is just completely lost. It's best that you keep your distance, because you ARE the best thing for him, but the longer you are with him, the longer you are his crutch. He leans on you to feel like his life means something, because you are in it. At least that's how I see it, from what you've told me, from a guys perspective.

I know it's hard, and maybe some day he'll come around. But, don't hold on out that and hang in there.

So im not the only one! Sorry to bring back bad memories, im really amazed anyone could actually be like this. Maybe we're talking about the same guy here! Certainly sounds like it... the whole life is about chilling thing is def him, as well as the beg borrow and steal thing too and the car thing too, I even went to get him from where he lives to bring him back down to uni about a 300 mile round trip and he never even offered me a penny for the troubles. I told him if he's always broke to get a job he said "i cant im a student", the lamest excuse ever, the other guy he lived with last year got a job and his parents give him loads of money every week, and the guy he lives with this year goes to work and his parents are rich and he gets money too, so really whats his excuse? I swear he only at uni like once or twice a week.... Luckily we are at different unis in the same city so I wont ever have to see him again.

I'm amazed as well. I just can't get inside that kind of mentality.

And if it wasn't for the fact that my ex is currently living in Northamptonshire and currently trying to bed my ex-best friend, both cases read like the sins fo the same person.

Did your guy ever cheat on you?

Not to my knowledge, I did ask his mates though and one of his mates girlfriends, but his mates aint gonna tell me, and he knows I speak to the girl so he's not likely to do it when she's around. I think there's a possibility he did, but he will never admit it, not even know. Apparently he got a 'prank' call from the GU clinic in the city we are in now saying thats someone with something had given them his number anon as he was one of their sexual partners, he swears blind hes not had sex with anyone round here. ive been to the GU clinic near the end of last year just for a random check up, he didnt get checked though and came with me n sat down stairs. I didnt have anything. But since the call he's been saying he should just go for a check up anyway. Im gonna go when I get the chance, coz if I got anything then I def know I got it off him!... Did yours cheat on you?

Definitely get checked out. That is on my and my boyfriend's to-do list.

Yeah, my scumbag cheated on me at least once, at least twice if you include getting frisky in a nightclub. He also text from my ex-best friend's phone to break up with me while I was on holiday in America so that he could go off with some other girl. He later ditched her saying that she was annoying and came crawling back to me. Two years of that. Blerg!

If someone doesn't enhance your fabulous life, move on

I don't know why we fall for losers; I certainly have twice in my life, one of which I am eternally grateful to for dumping me, because otherwise I would have spent my life trailing all over the world funding his coke / weed / alcohol habits and making excuses for.

Now I am with the perfect man, in a great relationship, and I appreciate it so much. Without the losers, maybe I wouldn't appreciate my boyfriend so much, so maybe we should be grateful for the opportunity to date the losers!!!!

Well done on deleting everything. Please try to stay away - you're worth so much more, and now you're free to meet the man that will treat you like a princess, the way you deserve!!!!! x

I'd just like to step up for the males of the United Kingdom and say that we are not all like this [insert very bad word here].

I always offer to pay for all of the meal / cinema ticket / etc. even if I'm broke