Did we have sex or not?

Urm, I'd say your flower is still intact, yes.

Probably nerves causing what you described.

Was he actually erect?

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'Flower'? Are you a little girl?

Reply 3

munchkin88

OP

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He was erect one minute and not the next. He couldn't keep it up. How come we had so much difficulty getting his penis INSIDE my vagina? I had to literally keep hold of it with my hand to make sure it didn't fall out again.

Also, the positioning of our bodies confuses me. How are you supposed to manoevre yourselves? Surely for entrance, your legs would have to be literally WIDE open...I don't get how people manage to have sex in the missionary position.

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3232

'Flower'? Are you a little girl?

Nope, but it did amuse me while typing it.

Incase you're wondering, it was intended to be slightly patronizing.

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Mike_Davies

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'Flower'? Are you a little girl?

She's a 6th former anyway as for your little experience its safe to say no you didnt and yeah I would probably put it down to nerves! I cant think of anything else going on what you described! So don't worry your still intact! Anyway whats the worry with whether you are or not???

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munchkin88

He was erect one minute and not the next. He couldn't keep it up. How come we had so much difficulty getting his penis INSIDE my vagina? I had to literally keep hold of it with my hand to make sure it didn't fall out again.

Also, the positioning of our bodies confuses me. How are you supposed to manoevre yourselves? Surely for entrance, your legs would have to be literally WIDE open...I don't get how people manage to have sex in the missionary position.

You kind of need to... well, spread. Not just lie there.

It sounds as if he was nervous, hence going flaccid on you. Just try again another time.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

I know exatly where your coming from !

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Anonymous

I know exatly where your coming from !

Now that's just too easy to make a joke with.

Reply 9

munchkin88

He was erect one minute and not the next. He couldn't keep it up. How come we had so much difficulty getting his penis INSIDE my vagina? I had to literally keep hold of it with my hand to make sure it didn't fall out again.

Well, you can push a flaccid penis as much as you like, but its gonna be bloody hard to get it in. As for getting it in while he did have an erection, you probably just needed a lot more lubrication.

munchkin88

Also, the positioning of our bodies confuses me. How are you supposed to manoevre yourselves? Surely for entrance, your legs would have to be literally WIDE open...I don't get how people manage to have sex in the missionary position.

We can't really answer that one here, the mod's will kill us. It might be an idea to look at some porn, it'll give you an idea of exactly how/where it goes in. That said, don't attempt the reverse cowgirl just yet.

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Creepy

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He was probably nervous and went soft due to it. It's hard to keep a soft penis in there. No pun intended :wink:

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Zoecb

I'd say you need a definite erection in the equation to have full penetrative sex.

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Jennybean

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The first guy I had sex with had this mortal fear of condoms, which caused him to go floppy in like a millisecond whenever I produced one. If your boyfriend wasn't erect the chances of him entering you were pretty slim. Kind of like trying to get a marshmallow into a slot machine. If he too has this bizarre condom phobia then you'll have to do what I did which is both get tested for STIs and sort out hormonal contraception before you try again. But if it's not that there could be a zillion things making him go floppy, mostly centering around nerves. Were you sure of being undisturbed? Could he have been worrying about an unwanted pregnancy? Was he truly ready? In an ideal world these are all things you would discuss, but the paradox for me was that my guy was too embarrassed to get to the root of the problem through communication and you may find you get the same thing with yours. If I were you I'd take a few steps back and concentrate on foreplay for a little while before you attempt to have sex again, otherwise he's just going to be remembering the last time and it will all become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Watch the Coupling episode about the Melty Man. Quality.

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Jennybean

The first guy I had sex with had this mortal fear of condoms, which caused him to go floppy in like a millisecond whenever I produced one. If your boyfriend wasn't erect the chances of him entering you were pretty slim. Kind of like trying to get a marshmallow into a slot machine. If he too has this bizarre condom phobia then you'll have to do what I did which is both get tested for STIs and sort out hormonal contraception before you try again. But if it's not that there could be a zillion things making him go floppy, mostly centering around nerves. Were you sure of being undisturbed? Could he have been worrying about an unwanted pregnancy? Was he truly ready? In an ideal world these are all things you would discuss, but the paradox for me was that my guy was too embarrassed to get to the root of the problem through communication and you may find you get the same thing with yours. If I were you I'd take a few steps back and concentrate on foreplay for a little while before you attempt to have sex again, otherwise he's just going to be remembering the last time and it will all become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Watch the Coupling episode about the Melty Man. Quality.

He probably just got frustrated at not being able to get it in, or embarassed, or nervous. It's probably a bit hard to maintain an erection when all the blood is rushing to pink up your cheeks, that or he lost concentration/the 'mood' and couldn't maintain his arousal.

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Jennybean

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3232

He probably just got frustrated at not being able to get it in, or embarassed, or nervous. It's probably a bit hard to maintain an erection when all the blood is rushing to pink up your cheeks, that or he lost concentration/the 'mood' and couldn't maintain his arousal.

My boyfriend or the OP's? Definitely with the OP's, I think the more frustrated you get about not being able to get it in, the more floppy you get and it's a vicious circle.

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The OP's, i couldn't begin to explain a mortal fear of condoms...

Reply 16

Jennybean

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The OP's, i couldn't begin to explain a mortal fear of condoms...

No me neither. After he turned into an arsehole and dumped me I did seriously consider wrapping myself in cling film and climbing in through his window in the dead of night as revenge.

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