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Reply 20
Jennybean
trying to get a marshmallow into a slot machine.
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Because theres enough room in a vagina to park a large SUV? Condom or no condom, theres not exactly much room. 
I can see which direction that comment is going to end up taking, especially when the people who don't like me see it! I really should have started the condom hate campaign like you said but I figured that any new girlfriends would make him wear one anyway if they were sane so it would have been overegging the pudding. I know he hasn't slept with anyone since and we were 17 when we broke up so clearly what goes around comes around
OP, i remember when i lost my virginity, i was the first virgin my (ex) bf had ever slept with. he was really scared about hurting me, and as a result he went soft. we had to try having sex about 4 times before it actually happened; you need two things to 'pop your cherry', as it were:-
lots of lube...you'll be tight down there, especially if you're nervous, so relax and lube up!
a hard penis. it can be quite a struggle to 'enter a virgin' so to speak, with the tightness of the vagina and potential resistance from the hymen all trying to keep his member out! make sure he's relaxed (and turned on...!) and ensure you are both ready.
If you're still wanting to cling onto the label of 'virgin', it doesn't sound to me like you're quite ready for it yet. Take it slow sweetie, you have all the time in the world to have sex.
lots of lube...you'll be tight down there, especially if you're nervous, so relax and lube up!
a hard penis. it can be quite a struggle to 'enter a virgin' so to speak, with the tightness of the vagina and potential resistance from the hymen all trying to keep his member out! make sure he's relaxed (and turned on...!) and ensure you are both ready.
If you're still wanting to cling onto the label of 'virgin', it doesn't sound to me like you're quite ready for it yet. Take it slow sweetie, you have all the time in the world to have sex
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Thanks lol. Ok I gotta go to the gym now, I just ate like my body weight in satsumas. Bye guys. OP just relax and do what Grace said she gives good advice. Also in answer to the title question no you didn't have sex in my opinion.Reply 31
*laughs hysterically at most of this thread*
Incidentally, I go way overboard with satsumas too.
Relevant to the OP: it was probably a combination of you being tight and him not being fully erect. Take your time and it will come. No pun intended.
Incidentally, I go way overboard with satsumas too.
Relevant to the OP: it was probably a combination of you being tight and him not being fully erect. Take your time and it will come. No pun intended.
Reply 32
Jennybean
The first guy I had sex with had this mortal fear of condoms, which caused him to go floppy in like a millisecond whenever I produced one. If your boyfriend wasn't erect the chances of him entering you were pretty slim. Kind of like trying to get a marshmallow into a slot machine. If he too has this bizarre condom phobia then you'll have to do what I did which is both get tested for STIs and sort out hormonal contraception before you try again. But if it's not that there could be a zillion things making him go floppy, mostly centering around nerves. Were you sure of being undisturbed? Could he have been worrying about an unwanted pregnancy? Was he truly ready? In an ideal world these are all things you would discuss, but the paradox for me was that my guy was too embarrassed to get to the root of the problem through communication and you may find you get the same thing with yours. If I were you I'd take a few steps back and concentrate on foreplay for a little while before you attempt to have sex again, otherwise he's just going to be remembering the last time and it will all become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Watch the Coupling episode about the Melty Man. Quality.
The Melty Man cometh! "Suddenly, you're blushing and you've got an erection! No-one's got enough blood!!"
Dude, you get rep just for that! Only got two more people to do before I can rep you again
OP, listen to what Jenny is saying. Personaly, I would have a chat with him and tell him that you don't mind waiting a bit longer, until he is ready. Men have a lot of pressure to "perform" and it is far more problematic if he can't maintain an erection that it is if you can't get wet. Consequently, unless he is experienced or very confident, he is likely to be worrying about it! And worrying causes floppiness
When it actualy comes to sex, get him relaxed by paying a lot of attention to him. Use lube for you, to make sure there is no resistance there, and max the foreplay and get him so horny that he just can't resist you! The foreplay should also make you nice and relaxed, esp if you can see results from him
great sense of achievement. Should all just slot into place . . .
Okay.....yes you're still intact.....so if you want to be TECHNICAL you're still a virgin.
However you had a penis in you. You're not exactly a little girl any more, if you catch my drift.
I mean, technically somebody who has had oral sex is a virgin, but........
I guess it depends on your definition of virgin. Technically yes you are, but...well.....you see what I mean. I suppose it depends on what you want to class yourself as being
Now as for your problem, I wish I could advise you. I try not to think about my first time. It brings back some terrible memories.
However you had a penis in you. You're not exactly a little girl any more, if you catch my drift.
I mean, technically somebody who has had oral sex is a virgin, but........
I guess it depends on your definition of virgin. Technically yes you are, but...well.....you see what I mean. I suppose it depends on what you want to class yourself as being
Now as for your problem, I wish I could advise you. I try not to think about my first time. It brings back some terrible memories.
Reply 35
Jennybean
Kind of like trying to get a marshmallow into a slot machine. .
why did this amuse me lol
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