Is this heading to a very destructive end?If so what should I do?

About 5 months ago i started going out with this girl which i love with all my heart, she is 16 still at school but is already a model and appears on TV everynow and then and Im 19 probably not going to Uni but I i work on languages and it does pay off :biggrin:

Ok problem is when we started going out it all seemed normal noone ever complained about relationship and i was welcomed into her house as her boyfriend, but as of late her mum is starting to try and drift us apart, and we talked about it and i told her it was fine and not worry cos i love her to bits

but ever since then my Gf has taken this "kamikaze" attitude towards our relationship, when we have sex she insists that she doesnt want me to use condom anymore, which to i said fine, why dont you go on the pill then? she is like no i cant b bothered ill forget anyway,before we used to be alone in her house most of the time except for her younger brother which was never an obsatacle for intimacy but now they have like a sort of maid girl and she is always there so she can tell her mum what we are up to

Tothis im i was stil fine im not the kind that is in a relationship for sex i really love her but now even when the maid and her brother are in the room she starts fidiling and actually starts to take my cloths off and it does make feel really uncomfortable then pulls me to anywhere in the house to do it and i just dnt feel like there is anything romantic or nice about that( suppose most males would say omg u dnt like that) but i really i like doing things right and taking our time

Also she is been told i can only stay round till 7 in the evening which i also didnt object to because i want to keep things smooth with her family but when i said i should go she wnt let me and does anything so i dnt go, like pulls me in her room and take her clothes off or just a normal guilt trip sometimes and to an extent im a typical man in that sort of situation is hard to say no, but yesterday was the same again and i stayed till about 11 in which i really close call when going out without her mother seeing me

Question is what i should i do? things she is doing as of late can really mess up her career expectations because she really wants to continue with the modelling etc and i want to have a sort of good relationship with her family so we dnt get any hassle,not mentioning the unprotected sex( which to some extent im being a bit irresponsible too) but she carries on this way we ll both b ruined and in big trouble but i love being with her and to ending it is not an option... help :frown:

What a wal of text sorry... hope u read b able to give me some advice Ty

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Reply 20

Meep!

goodmen

Sorry to say this but if you stop wearing a condom you are an absolute prick. No two ways about it

It really is pushing your luck. And, BTW, if you are using the withdrawal technique, just so you know, that's incredibly risky, as in fact, semen leaks out before you actually ejaculate, as lubrication. It's just not safe.

Reply 21

Zerforax

explain that her having a baby now = byebye modelling career?

Reply 22

~~hannah~~

Have you actually sat down and talked about this, told her how you feel? Just tell her that you love her and want to be with her, but you are uncomfortable and worried about how she's changed recently, and that as much as you enjoy having sex with her it makes you uncomfortable how she acts infront of her brother/maid and that she doesnt want you to use a condom. Just be honest. That's the only thing you can do.

Reply 23

Schmokie Dragon

However hard it is, however much she begs you and arouses you, just say no. Tell her that you are not going to be a father, that you do not want to see her getting hurt and that you don't want to have to leave her, but if she continues being silly one of those WILL happen. You MUST have self control otherwise you are going down with her. Maybe her mother has said summut to her, or something bad has happend (like she knows that she might already be pregnant?) that is making her act in this carefree and reckless way?

Also, when it comes to what time you need to go home, talk to her mother. Maybe if you seemed concerned and asked what time she would like you to leave the house, she would have a more agreeable attitude towards you. You would also be able to tell your girl that you know her mother doesn't want you here after, say, 8pm.

You need to sit her down and not let her get up/leave until she has told you what is going on. She is being reckless and acting in a stupid and irresponsible manner. She may just be being silly, or there may be summut very wrong.

Also, don't let her guilt you and don't let her fob you off. If she isn't going to take this seriously, you must!