I can't bring myself to dump him.

This guy liked me for ages, and about two weeks ago I eventually agreed to go out with him. I shouldn't have done this, as I've never really been that into him and I knew in my heart that it wouldn't last. It's only been a fortnight but I can't stay with him any longer; I'm just not happy. He's such a sweet guy though and I can't bear the thought of hurting his feelings. What's the most sensitive way to break things off? Please help.

Reply 1

Luzvel

since you dont really want to hurt him, it might be wise to use the usual white lie about you thinking you were ready for a relationship but you have been thinking about it and you dont think you can put your whole to a relationship becuase < insert your own made up reasons here >

i only say this because i think it would spare most of his feelings

on the other hand you could just be honest and hope for the best either way good luck to you :smile:

Reply 2

Schmokie Dragon

17

You have two options;

dump him, and be happy (but risk hurting him) or stay with him forever . . .

The kindest way is to talk to him face to face, tell him that he is really sweet as a friend but that you don't see him as someone you can be with. Don't bull**** and don't give him hope that you might get back together. Be assertive and to-the-point, but reassure him that he is a great guy and you still want to be mates. Don't let him pead to try and make it work.

Reply 3

ajking

1

Luzvel

since you dont really want to hurt him, it might be wise to use the usual white lie about you thinking you were ready for a relationship but you have been thinking about it and you dont think you can put your whole to a relationship becuase < insert your own made up reasons here >

i only say this because i think it would spare most of his feelings

on the other hand you could just be honest and hope for the best either way good luck to you :smile:

I totally agree with what luzvel is saying.Just be really nice about it if hes a sweet guy.But at the end of the day you have to dump him because the feelings arent there.You could actually say that its unfair on him to be in a relationship with you as you dont feel the same way.So the only fair thing to do would be to let him go.
Just make sure that you tell him you still want to be really good friends (thats if you want to)
Good luck and all the best.
From Andy :smile:

Reply 4

Spleh

Well the first rule of engagement as I see it is to do it face-to-face. Have the guts to say it to him in person, it is a hard thing to do but it speaks well of your character that you are thinking of minimalising the pain he will feel. Let him down gently, explain that it is not working and express gratitude that he showed interest in you.

I can't bring myself to dump him.

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