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These people are bugging me...
There are these guys in my A2 drama class who do everything they can to put me down in lessons in front of everybody. This has knocked my confidence severly, AS drama lessons used to be my favourite subject.
Last year when everyone was picking our A2 subjects, I unluckily got put into a class where the arrogant college jocks also happened to be put in. They all know each other and I have no friends in this class. I thought maybe the other half of the class would be at least neutral but recently I found out that the entire class actually know each other really well and go clubbing together frequently
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I do well in drama, and this is reflected by my grades, however, they often say aloud to the whole class that my work is crap and that I'm a crap actor, and everytime I make a mistake, all 6 of those boys go "OOOOO" "LOSING YOUR TOUCH THERE" and the rest of the class laugh. When they jeer like that, I really don't know what to do. Everytime we get marked they always want to compare scores with me to see if they have beaten me. It makes me feel awful, like my self confidence just withers away. The teacher sort of plays along as he's male also.
Please help, they're making my favourite subject into a subject where I just will for the end of the lesson.
Last year when everyone was picking our A2 subjects, I unluckily got put into a class where the arrogant college jocks also happened to be put in. They all know each other and I have no friends in this class. I thought maybe the other half of the class would be at least neutral but recently I found out that the entire class actually know each other really well and go clubbing together frequently
.I do well in drama, and this is reflected by my grades, however, they often say aloud to the whole class that my work is crap and that I'm a crap actor, and everytime I make a mistake, all 6 of those boys go "OOOOO" "LOSING YOUR TOUCH THERE" and the rest of the class laugh. When they jeer like that, I really don't know what to do. Everytime we get marked they always want to compare scores with me to see if they have beaten me. It makes me feel awful, like my self confidence just withers away. The teacher sort of plays along as he's male also.
Please help, they're making my favourite subject into a subject where I just will for the end of the lesson.
I think the best thing to do is to talk to your teacher or even change the class that you are in.
Im sorry you feel like that, and yes it is horrible!
Im sorry you feel like that, and yes it is horrible!
Its bullying and your teacher is acting like a knob. Unfortunatly i dont think there is much you can do unless theres another class for you to move into. You can try and ask the boys next time they bilittle you why and see what they come up with or you can could talk to the head of drama and ask them to have a word with your teacher. It seems to me he wants to be "one of the gang" 
Definitely talk to the teacher of the class, or even another teacher you feel comfortable with. Maybe they could pass a message on.
Boys like that dont like to be shown up..they make jokes about others to make themselves look good, so rise above it or if you feel confident enough give as good as you get..they really wont be expecting it and theyll just look stupid in front of everyone!
Hmm... one of the problems is that I'm not the wittiest of people. I just aaargh, I need someone to tell me why they are doing it. It happens every lesson... I just think that if I told the teacher, there's not much they can do about it 'cause the guys can easily say "we're takin' the piss, get a backbone" or something. I would love to "get a backbone" but it's not as easy as to just brush off their comments...
I know I shouldn't care about what they think but when they say something outloud, the class attention is very much diverted to me directly so that the whole class knows about it and is waiting for my reaction. It's not like I can pretend that I didn't hear it.
I know I shouldn't care about what they think but when they say something outloud, the class attention is very much diverted to me directly so that the whole class knows about it and is waiting for my reaction. It's not like I can pretend that I didn't hear it.
Why are they doing it? It's so obvious! They're jealous of something about you. Maybe it's your (usually) good marks.
Changing class would muck up the timetable though... I'm not even sure if there is another class that wouldn't clash with one of my current classes. Thanks for the feedback so far guys.
I really do feel for you being in that situation. It sounds a lot like what used to happen to me in my maths class. I would be ridiculed by the jock types in front of everyone and my male teacher didn't do anything about it, he actually joined in, even though it was obvious that it really embarrassed and upset me.
You want to know why they're doing it? I'll tell you why. People like that have a gang mentality where they pinpoint the easiest target to pick on to affirm their status within their clique. They know that none of your friend are in the same class and that since everyone is on their side then you won't argue back; this is bound to give them an overwhelming sense of power. This is basically why they do it. It's not your fault and there's nothing wrong with you, you just happen to be the easiest target within their reach.
I would say that the best thing to do is tell the teacher how you feel about it, even if it does seem hard and pointless to do that. There is every chance that he just doesn't understand how much it affects you. You're entitled to have an education free of bullying and it's the teacher's responsibility to enforce that. If nothing gets done even after that then tell someone in a more senior position, such as the year head. It may seem drastic but A2s are incredibly important and if you just tolerate this then it will just continue to knock your self-esteem and may affect your grades.
If you don't personally indicate that a problem's there in the class then no-one else will know and therefore no-one else will be able to help. So give it a go and let us know what happens.
You want to know why they're doing it? I'll tell you why. People like that have a gang mentality where they pinpoint the easiest target to pick on to affirm their status within their clique. They know that none of your friend are in the same class and that since everyone is on their side then you won't argue back; this is bound to give them an overwhelming sense of power. This is basically why they do it. It's not your fault and there's nothing wrong with you, you just happen to be the easiest target within their reach.
I would say that the best thing to do is tell the teacher how you feel about it, even if it does seem hard and pointless to do that. There is every chance that he just doesn't understand how much it affects you. You're entitled to have an education free of bullying and it's the teacher's responsibility to enforce that. If nothing gets done even after that then tell someone in a more senior position, such as the year head. It may seem drastic but A2s are incredibly important and if you just tolerate this then it will just continue to knock your self-esteem and may affect your grades.
If you don't personally indicate that a problem's there in the class then no-one else will know and therefore no-one else will be able to help. So give it a go and let us know what happens.
Next time you catch your teacher joining in (even slightly), say something along the lines of "Shut the [French Connection UK] up, you [preferably very personal highly offensive attack] [See you next Tuesday]." It can only end well (I'm not joking). Should be far more effective and likely to deter the others in the future than aiming it at one of your abrasive asshat peers.
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I really do feel for you being in that situation. It sounds a lot like what used to happen to me in my maths class. I would be ridiculed by the jock types in front of everyone and my male teacher didn't do anything about it, he actually joined in, even though it was obvious that it really embarrassed and upset me.
You want to know why they're doing it? I'll tell you why. People like that have a gang mentality where they pinpoint the easiest target to pick on to affirm their status within their clique. They know that none of your friend are in the same class and that since everyone is on their side then you won't argue back; this is bound to give them an overwhelming sense of power. This is basically why they do it. It's not your fault and there's nothing wrong with you, you just happen to be the easiest target within their reach.
I would say that the best thing to do is tell the teacher how you feel about it, even if it does seem hard and pointless to do that. There is every chance that he just doesn't understand how much it affects you. You're entitled to have an education free of bullying and it's the teacher's responsibility to enforce that. If nothing gets done even after that then tell someone in a more senior position, such as the year head. It may seem drastic but A2s are incredibly important and if you just tolerate this then it will just continue to knock your self-esteem and may affect your grades.
If you don't personally indicate that a problem's there in the class then no-one else will know and therefore no-one else will be able to help. So give it a go and let us know what happens.
You want to know why they're doing it? I'll tell you why. People like that have a gang mentality where they pinpoint the easiest target to pick on to affirm their status within their clique. They know that none of your friend are in the same class and that since everyone is on their side then you won't argue back; this is bound to give them an overwhelming sense of power. This is basically why they do it. It's not your fault and there's nothing wrong with you, you just happen to be the easiest target within their reach.
I would say that the best thing to do is tell the teacher how you feel about it, even if it does seem hard and pointless to do that. There is every chance that he just doesn't understand how much it affects you. You're entitled to have an education free of bullying and it's the teacher's responsibility to enforce that. If nothing gets done even after that then tell someone in a more senior position, such as the year head. It may seem drastic but A2s are incredibly important and if you just tolerate this then it will just continue to knock your self-esteem and may affect your grades.
If you don't personally indicate that a problem's there in the class then no-one else will know and therefore no-one else will be able to help. So give it a go and let us know what happens.
Is that how you solved your problem? I like your explanation as it explains how none of the others who do well get harrassed like I do. They're a group of 5 girls who are best friends and have links with the jocks...
Oh by the way, isn't showing that what they say bothers me, just giving them more ammo?
Just laugh it off and they will soon get bored when the realise they can't provoke the response they want. Always the way, the more wound up and annoyed you get, and the more you show it they will provoke it until you crack. They just have nothing better to do. You say you are good at drama, so why not use your talent against them, play them at their own game, just don't let them know it bothers you
Anonymous
Is that how you solved your problem? I like your explanation as it explains how none of the others who do well get harrassed like I do. They're a group of 5 girls who are best friends and have links with the jocks...
Nope, mine never did get solved because I never spoke out about it.
They really crippled my confidence because I felt out-numbered and just let them taunt me. So it's probably easy for me to sit here and tell you to tell the teacher how much it bothers you, but at the same time I'm an example of what happens if you let people walk all over you...my grades slipped because I was so upset about how I was treated and for years I felt worthless just because of what a load of idiots used to say. It's only now I'm a few years older that I can look back and analyse why they picked on me and why it never stopped. In my situation it was because I was quite good academically and because I was very shy and because I was very shy they knew that I would never do anything about it...so you see what I mean about them always choosing the easiest targets! Bullies ALWAYS choose the ones who never answer back or who have no-one to back them up. Btw, I'm not surprised to hear it's a group of 5 girls who are being troublesome, gangs of girls tend to get jealous and bitchy and spur each other on.
D'ya reckon cracking will do the job as well? To just break down one day, not that I would, but if it works, I wouldn't say no!
Anonymous
There are these guys in my A2 drama class who do everything they can to put me down in lessons in front of everybody. This has knocked my confidence severly, AS drama lessons used to be my favourite subject.
Last year when everyone was picking our A2 subjects, I unluckily got put into a class where the arrogant college jocks also happened to be put in. They all know each other and I have no friends in this class. I thought maybe the other half of the class would be at least neutral but recently I found out that the entire class actually know each other really well and go clubbing together frequently .
I do well in drama, and this is reflected by my grades, however, they often say aloud to the whole class that my work is crap and that I'm a crap actor, and everytime I make a mistake, all 6 of those boys go "OOOOO" "LOSING YOUR TOUCH THERE" and the rest of the class laugh. When they jeer like that, I really don't know what to do. Everytime we get marked they always want to compare scores with me to see if they have beaten me. It makes me feel awful, like my self confidence just withers away. The teacher sort of plays along as he's male also.
Please help, they're making my favourite subject into a subject where I just will for the end of the lesson.
Last year when everyone was picking our A2 subjects, I unluckily got put into a class where the arrogant college jocks also happened to be put in. They all know each other and I have no friends in this class. I thought maybe the other half of the class would be at least neutral but recently I found out that the entire class actually know each other really well and go clubbing together frequently
.I do well in drama, and this is reflected by my grades, however, they often say aloud to the whole class that my work is crap and that I'm a crap actor, and everytime I make a mistake, all 6 of those boys go "OOOOO" "LOSING YOUR TOUCH THERE" and the rest of the class laugh. When they jeer like that, I really don't know what to do. Everytime we get marked they always want to compare scores with me to see if they have beaten me. It makes me feel awful, like my self confidence just withers away. The teacher sort of plays along as he's male also.
Please help, they're making my favourite subject into a subject where I just will for the end of the lesson.
I had the same problem, talk to your head of sixth form, he should be able to arrange for you to change classes.
I just feel like if I change classes it would be admitting defeat.
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