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Have I put him off?

There was this guy who liked me & I kinda liked him, but he's been trying really hard to get with me & I've been sort of playing hard to get. To the extent that... nothings happened. Thing is, every time we've been drunk he's got his friends to tell me that he likes me, and I've kinda ignored it... I wish he would tell me himself, because I don't know if its all a big joke. Anyway I just want to know, would a guy give up if you kinda gave him no signal that you liked him? Cos I'm away from uni right now & when I go back I don't want him to have moved on... :frown:

Reply 1

Nix!

Yes.

How long depends on the guy though.

Reply 2

Luzvel

every guy likes abit of hard to get but when girls do it too much guyz get tired of trying because they think you are not interested and think you ll get annoyed, if you they tried too often.

When you go back to uni why dont you try starting up conversations with him and eventually it wil crop up if you play your cards right :biggrin:

Reply 3

MagicNMedicine

you better hope he hasn't had other irons in the fire and one of them dropping hints that she is interested, or you've missed out

Reply 4

Mutant

yeh you probably missed your chance. guys like a bit of a challenge but getting ignored or the girl playing too hard t get is no fun and intrest gets lot very quickly.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Yes, guys do go off a girl who plays too hard to get. I was in the exact same situation as you a few months ago, and played hard to get for waaay too long, and now he's going out with someone else... :frown:

so i really urge to start dropping hints that you like him back when you get back to uni.

Reply 6

jl7

Mutant

yeh you probably missed your chance. guys like a bit of a challenge but getting ignored or the girl playing too hard to get is no fun and intrest gets lot very quickly.

I wouldn't call her behaviour playing hard to get, really. The guy hardly tried, all he did was drunkenly get his mates to tell her he liked her. :rolleyes:

Reply 7

Louise88

Everyone likes a bit of a challenge, sometimes the hard to get act can be fun but when it goes on too long, people get bored and they move on.

I do agree that he should have told you himself. If, when you are back at home, you see him and his friends say something then tell them straight that if thats how he feels then he can tell you himself.

If this has been going on a while then I wouldn't have blamed him for moving on, it's fun to begin with but it gets far too boring and it's just not worth the bother after a little while. If he has moved on then it's your own fault, don't play hard to get in the future. Instead of play games, just be honest about your feelings and reduce the risk of being left with nothing.