I need to control my feelings more.

I just feel in general in my life I need to control my feelings more. I find it hard when I make friends with girls, to see them as just "friends", as our friendship develops I always end up feeling more and wanting more. I just hate it to be honest, as it nearly always ends up in a broken friendship, not through asking them out either.

I just find it difficult to control and suppress my feelings for girls. Which is pathetic.

Not sure what I am looking for from this thread, maybe some advice or some anecdotes of other peoples similar experiences.

:tsr2:

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

^^^

Reply 2

theonehitwonder

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Be a man. If you see them as more than just friends, go for it, don't wait around for nothing. If you can't surpress your feelings and don't want to be hurt all the time, just stop trying to befriend girls.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

So, I should not be friends with girls then.

As if.

Reply 4

bunthulhu

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Anonymous

So, I should not be friends with girls then.

As if.

It was a good point. If you don't like advice, don't ask for it.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

bunthulhu

It was a good point. If you don't like advice, don't ask for it.

So you think having male only friends is a good solution to the problem? It is stupid advice to give.

Hmm...I wonder if I was bi-sexual does that mean your advice would be to have no friends at all?

Reply 6

bunthulhu

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Anonymous

So you think having male only friends is a good solution to the problem? It is stupid advice to give.

Hmm...I wonder if I was bi-sexual does that mean your advice would be to have no friends at all?

You ignored the first and most important half of the advice which was to get some balls and ask them out. The bit you focused on was the alternative.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

bunthulhu

You ignored the first and most important half of the advice which was to get some balls and ask them out. The bit you focused on was the alternative.

Ok, I am sorry. I guess I am just frustrated with life at the moment, as I have been for a while now, but I just think I have to bide my time until Uni. Sometimes the solution to the problem is more complicated than just asking them out, for various reasons (they already have a boyfriend, are unlikely to be interested etc).

Cheers though, and sorry for being a bitch :smile:

.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

^^

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Reply 10

latot

I know EXACTLY what you mean, and I'm the same.. I just can't seem to have any female friends that are just that - friends.

Although I am in the process of moving away from that state of mind.

Need some advice? Just don't think about relationships AT ALL. Just think that you want to be friends with them, and they want to be friends with you - have a good laugh, hang out.. relationships don't even EXIST! (in this state of mind i mean).

For me (and might be the same with you, hence why I'm bringing it up), I was always worried that if i genuinely tried to befriend a girl, or randomly started to talk to one, she would think that I am only trying to chat her up.. thus my feelings towards girls were perceived as just that.. and so I jsut kept quiet really. But recently I realised that they don't think that (some may say "duh", but keep in mind it's the state of mind I was in).. and ever since I've been more confident and happier.

Hope this helps

Reply 11

Yoda

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theonehitwonder

Be a man. If you see them as more than just friends, go for it, don't wait around for nothing. If you can't surpress your feelings and don't want to be hurt all the time, just stop trying to befriend girls.

Holy ****. Trying to steal my job? Never fear, I'm back.

BE A MAN!

Dude wasn't saying not to have female friends, he was saying hit on them if you like them in that way. You're not a girl, its not your job to sit there, hint, and hope they pick up and ask you. Girls might always say how guys don't pick up hints, but no way shes gonna pick up your hints, girls are crap at it too. And hey, would you want to go out with a manly girl? Why do you think girls will dig a sissy guy hinting and all that gay ****.

Now some of my advice. Get yourself a girl. If you fancy every female friend you've got, you're clearly lacking females you're "more than friends" with. Should sort you out. Then try to forget what feelings are, not sure how many times I've said this, I'm still yet to have feelings. Only sissys have feelings - BE A MAN! Seriously, try to put the word "feelings" into a manly conversation, I will honestly rate you if you MANage.

Ok, I won't really.