A little lie...

I've been seeing a guy (who live with call him GUY A) for a while whose not always good to me. Guy A and I argue alot and he puts me down. When we were first seeing each other he made a deal out of how it WASN'T exclusive and I slept with my ex (call him GUY B it wasn't planned).

Guy A and I then got together exclusively but recently he's been telling me he doesn't want to sleep with me (while still sleeping with me), talking about other girls.

We had an argument last night and I asked Guy B to take me to the beach to clear his head. He said it was too late for the beach (ten at night) but he picked me up and I stayed round his. Guy A was literally screaming me down when I left and I couldn't be bothered to start another argument so I told him I was going to a girl mates.

He said some slightly inappropriate things like if I ever got accidentally pregnant he'd marry me and look after me. That I was worth so much more than the way Guy A treats me (Guy B used to treat me badly though). I wanna stress again I didn't do anything with him other than fall asleep together in the same bed.

Today I slept with Guy A again (after 4 days of 'never sleeping together again'). I feel SO guilty for lying. I know now it looks like I was covering up for something which I'm not- shall I fess up or not? Nothing gains I just feel bad!

Reply 1

Shoshi

to be perfectly honest, neither of them seem exactly great. why dont you make a clean break of it, and find someone that will treat you properly? you dont sound happy in these tangled realtionships. i think there is probably someone much more right for you than either of those two.

Reply 2

Citation

As i posted before.

Don't do this do yourself. They both seem arrogant, self centered and only love the idea of their own perception of "love". There are guys out their who will treat you with respect and actually care for you, which, from what you've been saying, these guys obviously don't. I personally believe it would be worth the wait for your own happiness and well being.

At the end of the day do what your heart tells you, but also in this situation think about it first. You don't want to end up getting hurt, no one wants that. Be careful, be safe and think things through. If you need to call it a day then do so, be around friends who will support you.

If you decide to stay with either of the two so called "guys" (I personally don't think much of a male when he says such things as you have described, it's immature, pathetic and if he's deriving self-esteem from making you upset, he's no man) then make sure the one you decide to stay with treats you with respect, you deserve it.

Good luck and all the best. :biggrin: