My friends want to drink at my party

im having a party this weekend and my friends want to drink.. but i dont want them to.. yet i cant tell them this incase they think im a loser and really sad. my dad will be there and if we get caught thats the end of me. i was thinking of drinking in secret but then theres the breath problem. does alcohol stink up the room? someone give me some advice. im so stressed i just want to cancel all this.

Reply 1

he_is_innocent

You could always say that your dad doesn't agree with drinking so ask them not to? But I wouldn't risk drinking secretly because that's going to upset your dad more than being open about it. Hope it goes okay

Reply 2

James

14

Talk to your dad, and tell him what you're worried about. He might even offer to 'supervise' by providing limited amounts of alcohol himself, while staying mostly out of the way. So you can still play cards/watch TV/do whatever you do, with alcohol (but not an absurd amount, and no spirits) and have a great time. And your friends will think you have a "cool dad"! See if he'd be happy to do that; I think it's legal. :smile:

Reply 3

CheesyBeans

1

I agree with James. One of my mates at school used to have a lot of 'parties' and sleepovers when we were at the age when we'd want to sneak some booze. What my friends mum used to do was make a punch, that wasn't stupidly strong, or get in a few beers and allow us to drink them but nothing more. Of course she used to check with our parents first before she gave us booze.

If you do that then your friends can have a little drink and you don't have to if you don't want.

Reply 4

frexxy

If you are having a party where certain people want to drink, and you don't want anyone to drink, don't invite or allow said people to come. Solution, but not a nice one.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for ur advice guys but there is no way my dad will let us drink ANYTHING so there is no point asking. he is very strict. i think its time i made it clear that we are no drinking to the ppl invited. argh they are such alcoholics! its not like u cant have fun without getting wasted. and they want to get wasted till they pass out.

Reply 6

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3

Tell your friends, its not exactly much of a party without booze now is it? Unless you're 8, but in that case just sort 'em out with a party bag and they'll be fine.

Reply 7

L0RA

9

Just blame it on your dad and say he wont let anyone drink in the house. ~If they dont want to come if they cant drink then forget them!! :smile:

Reply 8

mc_hamster

1

If your good enough friends you can have a good time without alcohol, just tell them.

Reply 9

Meep!

9

How old actually are you, OP?

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

16

Reply 11

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3

Oh come on guys, who would seriously have a party without alcohol? Its just hanging out with your mates with some music on otherwise! It doesn't count as a party unless someone has been sick in your garden, pissed in your bin or been laughed at for getting their knob out. Tsk. kids these days...

Reply 12

mc_hamster

1

Contray to popular belief you really don't need to drink to have a good time. I don't drink (a lot of the time) due to driving and personal reasons and I have a great time.

Reply 13

James

14

I usually drink a bit, but never excessively, even if everyone else seems to be doing so. And sometimes I just go to the bar in the evenings and have a coke, because I need to work afterwards. Nobody even notices. :smile:

Reply 14

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3

Thats just your perspective, i've spent a couple of spells not drinking in my life (once due to driving and another after crashing said vehicle), a night out is much more fun if alcohol is involved. Being the one sober person in a club is about as fun as cutting your own foot off.

Reply 15

Meep!

9

Ok, so you're not that young, I thought you were going to say, like, 13 or something! You should, at 16, be able to make it quite clear to your friends that if they want to come to your party, they are not to drink. End of. If they don't listen to you, they clearly aren't worth the trouble that you might get into with your father, and if I were you, I'd just 'un-invite' them, so to speak. I'm afraid I'm probably not much help though-my parents never put any restrictions on me with alcohol and so on, and in fact, because there was never any form of 'taboo' surrounding it in my home, I never had the will to drink excessively anyway...well, not hugely so :tongue:

Reply 16

mc_hamster

1

Yes and also that's just your perspective. I understand people do sometimes need to drink to have fun but I find that I really don't. I'm 21 (nearly 22) and I can't say once in my life I've been tempted to drink because I'm not having any fun.

Reply 17

Kate.

15

It's not a party if there's no drinking, really. It's just having some friends over. You're 16 and your father won't let you drink?

Gutted.

But anyway, just don't invite those people. There's nothing else you can do really.

Reply 18

sssh

10

Anonymous

im having a party this weekend and my friends want to drink.. but i dont want them to.. yet i cant tell them this incase they think im a loser and really sad. my dad will be there and if we get caught thats the end of me. i was thinking of drinking in secret but then theres the breath problem. does alcohol stink up the room? someone give me some advice. im so stressed i just want to cancel all this.

Oh, how irritating, I've had this problem before. Tell them that you'd rather they didn't and explain that it's because of your dad - they're hardly going to go and have a go at him for it, and having parents of their own, knowing what they're like etc, they'll be more likely to accept it. It's better to stay on your dad's good side!

Reply 19

goodmen

13

16 and no drink at a party is going to suck. Dont bother having it, how is it even a party its just people stood around playing twister. Thats fine when your 12 but not at that age

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