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bf hardly ever txts me. will only see me 3 times a week for a couple of hours each time. never buys me drinks. but the prob is i really do like him as a person & don't wanna split up. he says he's happy us just being in a 'casual' relationship. would anyone else be happy with this arrangement or am i just wanting too much from him?
It seems like you are looking for something more than a "casual" relationship, something more serious. Sounds like this guy isn't looking for anything too serious at this moment in time and if you are both wanting different things, like the above poster said, things probably wont work out.
If you really like him then you could ask him straight where you stand and what he wants. Tell him you're unsure that what he is offering you is enough. Be honest with him.
I know that splitting up with people is difficult but if you two don't want the same thing then it's best to do it sooner rather than later. You deserve to be with someone who wants the same things as you. It could just be early days though, i'm not sure how long you have been dating, so maybe he doesn't consider it "serious" because of the length of time you have been together?
If you really like him then you could ask him straight where you stand and what he wants. Tell him you're unsure that what he is offering you is enough. Be honest with him.
I know that splitting up with people is difficult but if you two don't want the same thing then it's best to do it sooner rather than later. You deserve to be with someone who wants the same things as you. It could just be early days though, i'm not sure how long you have been dating, so maybe he doesn't consider it "serious" because of the length of time you have been together?
pollystyrene07
bf hardly ever txts me. will only see me 3 times a week for a couple of hours each time. never buys me drinks. but the prob is i really do like him as a person & don't wanna split up. he says he's happy us just being in a 'casual' relationship. would anyone else be happy with this arrangement or am i just wanting too much from him?
Some people just don't like texting. I hated it when I started going out. Would rarely reply, but solely because I'd rather be with my g/f or phone her. Now I quite like it however. Meeting 3 times a week isn't that bad either imo. Not buying you drinks doesn't mean he doesn't feel for you. You don't buy him drinks after all, but that doesn't mean that you don't feel for him.
How long have you guys been going out? How old are you?
well we have been going out for 2 months. to be honest, it's the amount of time we see eachother that's the main prob. he lives literally 5 mins down the road but i hardly see him. sometimes if i'm bored & want to see him i don't feel as though i have the 'right' to ask him coz he'll only see me 3 times a week.
I've been with my boyfriend a year and I see him once, maybe twice a week and he lives ten minutes away from me. We are both in full time education and when he isn't at college, he is working. I am currently looking for work. Is he busy with studies or with a job that may take up a lot of his time?
He never used to text me either, some people are just like that. It would drive me insane when he didn't text me and now, I can't get rid of him! He was just afraid of coming on to strong, he understood that I needed space. There could be lots of reasons why he might not text you.
You see you're boyfriend a lot, three times a week is good in my opinion, I would love to have the guarentee that I would see my boyfriend that much! You have every right to ask him to do something, you shouldn't be put off asking him because he is your boyfriend and you should spend time together. You shouldn't just set three days aside to see each other, see each other more some weeks, less the next. You should be comfortable enough with him after two months to ask him to meet up, theres obviously something wrong.
I do think you should speak to your boyfriend and ask him what he wants from your relationship. Is it just a bit of fun or does he want it, at some point, to be more serious? Sounds like you need someone who wants a serious relationship, someone who will be much more loving towards you and someone who you are more comfortable around. Speak to him though, try to stop being so afraid. You do have the right to speak to him and you do have the right to see him so you make the most of it! Get it sorted out...
He never used to text me either, some people are just like that. It would drive me insane when he didn't text me and now, I can't get rid of him! He was just afraid of coming on to strong, he understood that I needed space. There could be lots of reasons why he might not text you.
You see you're boyfriend a lot, three times a week is good in my opinion, I would love to have the guarentee that I would see my boyfriend that much! You have every right to ask him to do something, you shouldn't be put off asking him because he is your boyfriend and you should spend time together. You shouldn't just set three days aside to see each other, see each other more some weeks, less the next. You should be comfortable enough with him after two months to ask him to meet up, theres obviously something wrong.
I do think you should speak to your boyfriend and ask him what he wants from your relationship. Is it just a bit of fun or does he want it, at some point, to be more serious? Sounds like you need someone who wants a serious relationship, someone who will be much more loving towards you and someone who you are more comfortable around. Speak to him though, try to stop being so afraid. You do have the right to speak to him and you do have the right to see him so you make the most of it! Get it sorted out...
i don't know. whenever i ask him what he's been doing he just says he's been at uni. he doesn't like talking on the phone either.
I have exactly the same thing, apart from we've been going out a lot longer.
I think a lot of it isn't always about how the person feels about you, but how they feel about a relationship. I guess there are times in life when you want a big relationship and times when you want to do other things.
If I were you I'd sit him down and just ask him whether he likes you,and whether he likes spending time with you. If he assures you he does, then I think perhaps he just needs his space. However, there is no point in setting for something which isn't good enough for you, especcially if its because he doesn't care enough.
(oh and i agree, 3 times a week could be seen as a lot, but its the quality of the time you spend together that counts and how he feels.)
I think a lot of it isn't always about how the person feels about you, but how they feel about a relationship. I guess there are times in life when you want a big relationship and times when you want to do other things.
If I were you I'd sit him down and just ask him whether he likes you,and whether he likes spending time with you. If he assures you he does, then I think perhaps he just needs his space. However, there is no point in setting for something which isn't good enough for you, especcially if its because he doesn't care enough.
(oh and i agree, 3 times a week could be seen as a lot, but its the quality of the time you spend together that counts and how he feels.)
he says he's happy us just being in a 'casual' relationship.
That is Male-speak for "I want to shag around as much as possible, but it's nice to have you on the side".
Sorry if that hurts, but it's the fact of the matter.
Mischievous Mj
That is Male-speak for "I want to shag around as much as possible, but it's nice to have you on the side".
Sorry if that hurts, but it's the fact of the matter.
Sorry if that hurts, but it's the fact of the matter.
no sorry but you're wrong. he's a virgin & extremely shy around girls, even me sometimes so i know for a fact that he isn't sleeping around.
If he is very shy around girls then that could be your problem. Even though he is going out with you, doesn't mean that he is over the shyness. He could be feeling slightly uncomfortable so he doesn't see you often, he doesn't phone and he doesn't text. He might not be comfortable with a "serious" relationship as he feels he doesn't want to rush into anything so he wants to keep things more "casual" for the time being. Truth is, there are too many reasons why he behaves in such a way. You really do have to speak to him.
I have this with my bf and we've been going out 6 days :|, he hardly texts and when i asked him just now if he's glad we're going out he goes 'its kl' which i don't know what to make of. I think you just need to tell him how you feel though and if he doesn't listen then look elsewhere because you can do better. Good luck 
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