Paranoid.

I'm still at school (Y13) and am totally paranoid that nobody actually likes me. I've recently joined a big group of friends and get the impression that they don't want me to hang around with them. The one girl in the group whom I know is my friend has invited me to a sleepover at hers with the group. Thing is, I want to go because she invited me and I don't want to let her down, but I feel like the rest don't want me there.

I suppose that you're all gonna tell me I'm stupid?

Reply 1

Hygeia

14

Not at all i've felt exactly that way before! when i was younger my best friend refused to go to someone else's birthday party if i wasn't invited - i found this out afterwards and several years later the person who's party it was broke my arm... I'd say that if you want to go and think you'd have fun then go. It might even bring you closer to the ones you think don't like you.

Reply 2

Snowfall

10

Well it's her sleepover so if she wants you to go, it's up to her. I would go. Would be a good chance to socialise with them outside of school and to find out what they're really like. I think it will be a good bonding opportunity :smile:

Reply 3

noodles!

OP

14

Thanks for the advice. But I'm on a general downer at the moment for many reasons and I'm a "party pooper" even in the form room at lunch times. I just hang around with them as there's nowhere else to go really.

Maybe I'm just antisocial. Which to an extent I suppose I am.

Reply 4

Vohamanah

16

namakemono

Thanks for the advice. But I'm on a general downer at the moment for many reasons and I'm a "party pooper" even in the form room at lunch times. I just hang around with them as there's nowhere else to go really.

Maybe I'm just antisocial. Which to an extent I suppose I am.

Oh dear

Things seem so much worse when you are feeling a bit down.

I was always the same. Always felt like the spare wheel. I only felt I had a couple of friends and a lot more 'acquaintances'. As it turned out they all fell out with me over a man, so I was kind of proved right after all :rolleyes:

But don't let the situation upset you, there's nothing wrong with being 'antisocial'! Give me a PM if you wanna talk. I'm a good listener :smile:

Reply 5

Moriarty Man

Hey, I used to be just like you. So i speak from expereince.

You should try and stop looking at things in such a negative way. If you tell yourself that your friends don't like you or don't enjoy being around you - sooner or later, that's what will happen. Instead, focus on your positive attributes, and adopt the mindset that your friends LOVE being around you, rather than needless worrying that they don't. It's a more fun mindset to have, after all :smile:

I found that if you think that someone WILL like you, and WILL enjoy being round you, etc etc, then chances are - THEY WILL. Imagine in your head, going there and being incredibly outgoing/funny/whatever you'd like, and getting along with everyone there. Really focus on it. You should find your mood just now improving, and whenever any self-doubt returns, just push it out yr mind. So go to the sleepover, and have a good time. Be relaxed and confident, be yourself, and if you ever get any doubts, get back to that positive frame of mind.

k, I rush wrote that, if it sounds like new-agey bull****...sue me :smile:

Its simple enough and it worked for me anyways. Good luck :wink:

Reply 6

noodles!

OP

14

Thanks. Chances are I would have a good time there as that always happens to me, but at the moment I don't think I could as I'd rather not be there than be there and be antisocial.

Mainly because the house is a good hour away from mine- I couldn't escape if I wanted to!

Reply 7

Moriarty Man

When I used to go places, I'd always be terrified of going for some illogical reason. I usually had a good time when I got there, but next time the chance came to do the same, I'd always feel like staying home. The mind is a weird thing!

Believe me though, the worst thing you can do in ANY situation is think about all the things that could go wrong.

Paranoid.

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