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Reply 1

Jealousy is unattractive.

Reply 2

Anonymous
I've often whether people find it nice if their partner/crush gets a bit jealous if they see someone else of the opposite sex. I've always found it rather flattering when guys have got jealous about me seeing other males, but wondered whether this can sometimes put people off?


I think there's the whole issue that everyone likes being 'fought over' or something, but jealousy itself isn't attractive, just like clingy-ness isn't.

Reply 3

About as attractive as herpes.

Reply 4

Jealously has no place in a relationship. A relationship should be built on trust and happiness.

Reply 5

It is unattractive and unfortunately I suffer from it so I just try to make a joke out of it :redface:

Reply 6

I think it's nice to know that someone wants to be with you all the time and gets a little upset when you're around others because it makes you feel wanted but if it's obsessive jealousy and paranoia then it will drive the other person away.

Reply 7

Jealousy isn't good. Not at all. A little jokey playful stuff is fine, but not full blown scary, over-protectiveness.

Reply 8

God no, it makes you want to strangle the other person!

Reply 9

:ditto:

Reply 10

I think most people encounter jealousy in this respect at some point... That doesn't make it attractive (it's not), but still...

Reply 11

Davey21
Jealously has no place in a relationship. A relationship should be built on trust and happiness.


yeah but the thing is, it seems expected that the second you enter into a relationship with someone, you trust them implicitly. That is not always the case. Trust, to me, has to be earned; i don't give it to people by default.

I think there are a few different types of jealousy; one type stems from mis-trust and devaluing your partner's integrity, assuming they will act like a prick the first chance they get. I would suggest that's not healthy.

Another type stems from personal insecurity and/or believing your partner to be so amazing that they deserve only the best and believing you are not the best and therefore thinking they could be doing better. That can develop into clingyness and other unattractive qualities, but a little bit in moderation isn't too bad and is perfectly natural.

Reply 12

A little is attractive, too much and its irritating.

Reply 13

grace
yeah but the thing is, it seems expected that the second you enter into a relationship with someone, you trust them implicitly. That is not always the case. Trust, to me, has to be earned; i don't give it to people by default.

I think there are a few different types of jealousy; one type stems from mis-trust and devaluing your partner's integrity, assuming they will act like a prick the first chance they get. I would suggest that's not healthy.

Another type stems from personal insecurity and/or believing your partner to be so amazing that they deserve only the best and believing you are not the best and therefore thinking they could be doing better. That can develop into clingyness and other unattractive qualities, but a little bit in moderation isn't too bad and is perfectly natural.


I totally agree with you ;yes;

Reply 14

Not at all. Jealousy is annoying, hurtful, and destructive in relationships.