Nostalgia - i want the past back!

Over the past few months, everything has changed for me. I moved out of home into halls to start uni and left behind all my friends and family. Back in June, I also split up with my boyfriend who I was with for 2 and a half years.

Although uni is ok and I do enjoy it, I really miss the way things were. I cant stop feeling this stupid nostalgia about literally everything - mostly I miss going to sixth form. I didnt like a lot of things about it when I was there (some of the people i didnt get on with, some of the teachers, the rules...etc...) but now I've left its really hit me that I cant ever go back again. I'll never be able to sit around in the common room with my best friends or have a certain lesson with a certain teacher and group of people. I'll never be able to walk home with my best friend again. I'll never go for lunch at the little pizza shop on the corner or go to the corner shop during a free period. Its just little things like that.

Its the small things that really make me miss it. Today it snowed, for example, and it set me off thinking about when it snowed heavily last year and me and my mates had such a laugh going out in it. I keep looking at photos and stuff from this time last year and it makes me quite sad.

Whenever I talk to my best friends, they dont seem to miss it as much as me. I think this is because they had strict parents and enjoy the freedom they have now. I've always got on really well with my family and maybe living at home is another thing I subconciously miss.

Whenever I see people at my uni for an open day or whatever, I feel myself envying them coz I truly didnt appreciate how much I'd miss sixth form. I just want to tell them to enjoy being with their friends and family coz it doesnt last long.

If youve read all that well done! Sorry for the ramble but its bothering me. I mean, I do like uni but the people here dont even compare to my good friends at home. I keep wishing for the past back and I dont know why. Its all changed way too much and I want that comfort of familiarity that my old sixth form had (I'd been at that school for 7 years!)

Does anyone else feel like this?

Reply 1

caramel_qt3

I often feel totally like this....come to think of it, I'm always nostalgic. But ultimately I always think of it this way. Just because things were good in the past, it doesn't mean that they can't be even better in the future. Change is a struggle, and I can guarantee that the majority of people would be happy to plod along without having to go through the upheaval of a major change. Everyone's different however, and everyone reacts to change in different ways. So many things you've said sound like me. There was a little pizza shop on the corner of the road that i would go for lunch as well!

Anyway, basically what I wanted to say is that it seems like you're getting used to uni life, and all of your old friends are still around, although not as close as they used to be. Good luck, and I hope you feel better about this soon.

Reply 2

mc_hamster

It happens to everyone I'm sure. You don't realise what the good times are till they're gone.

Reply 3

Love Sheep

Life has different stages, and you moving to university halls signified the closure of that particular stage. It had good and bad times, as life always does, but you should remember that this new stage in your life has all the potential to be just as good, it's what you make it. It's a great thing to look back and have lovely memories, so you should keep that knowledge, while starting to look forward to the next part of your life as well.