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Who has to pay?
Hey everyone,
There's a question i can't sort out.. so i thought you' d help me
Recently, I've started going out with a guy, who is older then me - he's in his twenties. But we haven't had any proper dates yet, we've just been hanging out together all the time, i.e. clubbing etc.
But since some day we will have to go somewhere together, i can't stop thinking "am i supposed to pay for myself? or he has to pay?".. I don't really want him to pay, cos tbh i'm not really into a proper relationship, and the way i see it - if he pays for me, say when we go to the cinema, this will mean that we are a proper couple...
...so what would you say?
There's a question i can't sort out.. so i thought you' d help me
Recently, I've started going out with a guy, who is older then me - he's in his twenties. But we haven't had any proper dates yet, we've just been hanging out together all the time, i.e. clubbing etc.
But since some day we will have to go somewhere together, i can't stop thinking "am i supposed to pay for myself? or he has to pay?".. I don't really want him to pay, cos tbh i'm not really into a proper relationship, and the way i see it - if he pays for me, say when we go to the cinema, this will mean that we are a proper couple...
...so what would you say?
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Reply 2
Does paying for a girl mean you're a proper couple?!
Oh dear God, I've been messing up quite abit then..
Oh dear God, I've been messing up quite abit then..
Reply 4
Orange Wednesdays have paid for me to go to the cinema for free many a time - does this mean I'm in a relationship with Orange?
Rawr
Rawr
Reply 5
3232
It depends on the situation, prepare to pay yourself but if he offers then let him. It doesn't mean you're a real couple it just means hes been watching too many hugh grant films and thinks its the 'right' thing to do.
Wait so can you get this perfectly clear for me? If there's something either of us can pay for and isn't really a problem and I'm about to pay for it, but she suddenly jumps in and says it's okay she'll pay for it, what does it mean? (Not worded in the best way but you get the picture.)
Reply 7
3232
It depends on the situation, prepare to pay yourself but if he offers then let him. It doesn't mean you're a real couple it just means hes been watching too many hugh grant films and thinks its the 'right' thing to do.
lol ye thats the thing - i'd hate him to be "right" and caring so to say.. gosh i sound so UNgirly.. lol
Reply 9
3232
It means you can save the money and buy yourself something pretty with it.
Pssh, Don't put the 'Independent woman' persona on, please.
Ive been goin out with my girlfriend for over a year and it just depends on the situation! If we're at the cinema i ask for 2, and pay and then she would insist on buying sweets etc..! If we're out for dinner then we both offer to pay but sometimes i pay, sometimes she does- altho i try to pay most of the time, being a guy and all that!! But, just be prepared to pay and if he pays- enjoy it!!
Reply 11
no thats perfectly fine to open doors for girls... and if my bf didn't open doors for me i wouldn't like it tbh.. i just dont like the common stereotype (sorry i dont know how u spell it lol) "a guy has to pay for a girl" cos this makes me feel as if i owe a guy smth.
Reply 12
Wait wait, my girl opens doors for me, but doesn't really complain? and I have nothing to complain about really, is this wrong?
Anonymous
no thats perfectly fine to open doors for girls... and if my bf didn't open doors for me i wouldn't like it tbh.. i just dont like the common stereotype (sorry i dont know how u spell it lol) "a guy has to pay for a girl" cos this makes me feel as if i owe a guy smth.
You do, i think it equates to one sexual favour per cinema ticket, did you not know?
Reply 15
Exactly. That's what it is. Girls feel obligated towards that person if they pay for them. That's why if they're in the usual bitchy 'I don't know what I want' stage they'll usually rush to pay for everything so that 'I owe you something' feeling doesn't come up. Sucks dunnit?
Reply 17
Why
Wait wait, my girl opens doors for me, but doesn't really complain? and I have nothing to complain about really, is this wrong?
hey... "open doors" is a hypothetical thing.. by saying "i wouldn't like it if my bf didn't open doors for me" i mean I wouldnt like it if he wasnt a gentleman
Reply 18
Anonymous
hey... "open doors" is a hypothetical thing.. by saying "i wouldn't like it if my bf didn't open doors for me" i mean I wouldnt like it if he wasnt a gentleman
Well, You should have just said 'I wouldn't like it if he wasn't a gentleman' then because if you say 'I wouldn't like it if my BF didn't open doors for me' I'd take it as 'You wouldn't like if your BF didn't open doors for you'.
I'm literally saying this though, If we're coming up at a door, she'll open it for me. I don't think I've ever opened a door.
Reply 19
Anonymous
Hey everyone,
There's a question i can't sort out.. so i thought you' d help me
Recently, I've started going out with a guy, who is older then me - he's in his twenties. But we haven't had any proper dates yet, we've just been hanging out together all the time, i.e. clubbing etc.
But since some day we will have to go somewhere together, i can't stop thinking "am i supposed to pay for myself? or he has to pay?".. I don't really want him to pay, cos tbh i'm not really into a proper relationship, and the way i see it - if he pays for me, say when we go to the cinema, this will mean that we are a proper couple...
...so what would you say?
There's a question i can't sort out.. so i thought you' d help me
Recently, I've started going out with a guy, who is older then me - he's in his twenties. But we haven't had any proper dates yet, we've just been hanging out together all the time, i.e. clubbing etc.
But since some day we will have to go somewhere together, i can't stop thinking "am i supposed to pay for myself? or he has to pay?".. I don't really want him to pay, cos tbh i'm not really into a proper relationship, and the way i see it - if he pays for me, say when we go to the cinema, this will mean that we are a proper couple...
...so what would you say?
You could always pay for him and yourself so you feel like a 'proper' couple.
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