Telling your parents that you're moving away for uni

I also live in london and decided to apply for university outside london. My mum was against it but dad was chilled about it. I honestly don't mind london but i just wanted to experience living on my own. I just told my parents BS, i told them that the course i really want to do is outside london. if i was you i would start telling them that you MIGHT leave asap

No, I was think more along the lines of caring for someone who is disabled. It's not fair for you to have to settle for a uni you don't want to go to just so you can provide your parents with free childcare. You have every right to think about yourself!

I think that's a good idea - find out as much as you can about each of the uni's you're interested in then you can be sure if it's somewhere you would enjoy attending and a city you'd enjoy living in

I said to my mum, "I didn't expect you to be one to stop me from going to a university outside London like many people's parents do" and she was a little taken a back, like she didn't want me to think she was being as close-minded as I think she is about it.

Exactly. I mean her only reason for me staying is for the family. But my family isn't what will get me far in the field I'm interested in going into. I understand that we've got to stick together at times, but having to devote my education to do that? Not appealing

Yeah I'll apply to one University that's in London, namely UCL, though the others will most likely be outside of London. Haha, even if I were to attain an offer from Cambridge (Probably not going to happen) God knows the struggle I'd go through when trying to firm it!

Edit: Applying to LSE as well


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I just don't find the idea of staying in London appealing. I mean sure there are great universities, but the universities and courses which appeal to me the most turn out to be, unfortunately for my mother, out of London.

I don't want to keep them out of the loop, no, but I also don't want them to be the reason I end up somewhere I'm unhappy being

One of my close friends in real life is a muslim and her parents were like 'no, there's no way you're going'. She then convinced them and they are allowing her to go, but won't provide her with any financial help when she does. It's a lose-lose situation. ;erm:

Sometimes you need to approach these situations with a little caution and try and sympathise with their view.

If you acknowledge their view, however wrong it may feel, then give a good reason as to why they need not worry, then it'll go a long way. And you'll unlock the skill of diplomacy.

Catch her at a good time once you've started looking at potential candidates for your choices and explain why they might be good - but delicately and listen to her.

I'm applying for 2016 entry and I'm moving away (closest choice is about 2.5 hr drive away) and it was never an issue, I just told my mum what unis I liked and we never saw the distance as an issue, I want to experience independent life, I can't believe some parents would try and stop their kids from doing what they want, you're 18 after all ( when you go) should be able to do what you want


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You shouldn't feel bad as it's clouding and distorting your decision making. If you go to a London uni because your mum doesn't want you to move out then you could end up resenting her in the future. I would just tell your mum that only non-London unis are appealing to you and you want to open a new path in your life. You need to devote yourself to an ideal. Have the courage to do what is necessary.

Well then this is what you need to tell your parents. If you tell them enough times they'll realise that you're set on it and they'll accept it eventually.

Only you control your UCAS application and what universities you apply to, so afaic if worst comes to worst just apply to the unis you want then you have a year to tell your parents to accept it.

Wow. You can take out sizeable maintenance loans even if this happens, though. Hopefully your parents would be slightly more reasonable than this though.

Yeah fair enough, but if it's just a case of a parent not wanting their child to "fly from the nest" then it's just wrong

I'm so proud of you! I'm glad they took it well.

That's exactly my point, before you know it I'll have to go out and find a well paying full-time job

I just don't find the idea of staying in London appealing.

Can I ask why? Is it just cause of the courses, or is there something else? I ask 'cause going down to London is something I've been thinking of myself, on the basis that it's gotta be bigger and better than pretty much everywhere else in the country.

Whose parents would stop their child from firming Cambridge, huh?! I try and advise you but I'm pretty sure mine would do the same like you could practically see them flinch when I say that a uni is more than an hour away.

As long as you love the universities you're applying to in London, there shouldn't be a problem.