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Is my drinking out of control?
I'm 15 years old and until about ten months ago, was a shy normal teenager, and spent most of my time with two of my best girlfriends and my family. Then around April last year, when I was 14, one of my friends started going out with this really popular guy. The result was that she started going to a lot of parties and bringing me; I became more sociable, made more friends, got invited to more parties, made more friends...the circle goes on. Now I wonder...is it me...or the alcohol?
Because I've realised...only recently, I drink. A Lot. I started off on the typical couple of Bacardi Breezers, moved on to vodka and tequila shots, and suddenly I found that I was so much more confident and sociable. I could talk to guys, I felt more attractive and people seemed more interested in me. Instead of other people being the topic of the day, people would talk about me and what I'd done at the last party. Then I got into drinking more and more, sambuca, vodka, wine, sherry, cider, beer, cocktails, absinth, gin, rum, whisky, I'll drink anything. Now I go out three to four times a week and on a average night I'll drink three glasses of wine, two beers, four shots of vodka or tequila, a cocktail, some smirnoff vodka, as well as drinking from other people's glasses. I'm generally completely hammered by the end of the night, often passing out, ending up in a friend's bed with no recollection of the night before.
Now I've also started drinking on the nights I stay at home, sneaking wine and beers out of the back fridge and visiting my local offie.
I never particularly thought about my drinking; I mean I knew I drank a lot, but I'm a teenager, everyone does, and I didn't think it was anything bad. Today my best friend told me that everyone calls me an alcoholic and laughs at me. She said that she didnt want to go out with me anymore because she always ends up looking after me and that everyone else hates going out with me too.
Suddenly I realised that maybe my drinking is out of control. Is it? What should I do?
Because I've realised...only recently, I drink. A Lot. I started off on the typical couple of Bacardi Breezers, moved on to vodka and tequila shots, and suddenly I found that I was so much more confident and sociable. I could talk to guys, I felt more attractive and people seemed more interested in me. Instead of other people being the topic of the day, people would talk about me and what I'd done at the last party. Then I got into drinking more and more, sambuca, vodka, wine, sherry, cider, beer, cocktails, absinth, gin, rum, whisky, I'll drink anything. Now I go out three to four times a week and on a average night I'll drink three glasses of wine, two beers, four shots of vodka or tequila, a cocktail, some smirnoff vodka, as well as drinking from other people's glasses. I'm generally completely hammered by the end of the night, often passing out, ending up in a friend's bed with no recollection of the night before.
Now I've also started drinking on the nights I stay at home, sneaking wine and beers out of the back fridge and visiting my local offie.
I never particularly thought about my drinking; I mean I knew I drank a lot, but I'm a teenager, everyone does, and I didn't think it was anything bad. Today my best friend told me that everyone calls me an alcoholic and laughs at me. She said that she didnt want to go out with me anymore because she always ends up looking after me and that everyone else hates going out with me too.
Suddenly I realised that maybe my drinking is out of control. Is it? What should I do?
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I would say so, yes.
See if you can cut back - stop drinking when you aren't out. Learn your limits. It's fine to get drunk to the point of enjoyment (as most teenagers do), but I can't imagine you're still having fun by the time you pass out.
If you can't cut back without going over the edge, maybe you should speak to someone about it, or join a support group, or something. If you want to tell your friends that you are making effort to cut back/stop, I'm sure they would be supportive and help you out, considering the comments your best friend made.
Also, I think you may be using alcohol as a social crutch, which isn't healthy. You would benefit a lot more from trying to be outgoing, sociable and fun while sober, instead of drinking your way there.
Good luck.
See if you can cut back - stop drinking when you aren't out. Learn your limits. It's fine to get drunk to the point of enjoyment (as most teenagers do), but I can't imagine you're still having fun by the time you pass out.
If you can't cut back without going over the edge, maybe you should speak to someone about it, or join a support group, or something. If you want to tell your friends that you are making effort to cut back/stop, I'm sure they would be supportive and help you out, considering the comments your best friend made.
Also, I think you may be using alcohol as a social crutch, which isn't healthy. You would benefit a lot more from trying to be outgoing, sociable and fun while sober, instead of drinking your way there.
Good luck.
Your 15...please tell me how you get served all the time...people are tight around here *evil look*
I would have said no its not out of control, just have fun its normal but TRY NOT to drink alone because well that is a little far especially while young. However, you said your mates have to look after you and don't want to go out with you ect. This means that yeah you are out of control if only because you will be annoying people, drink sure, but don't drink so much you become boring aka need looking after.
I would have said no its not out of control, just have fun its normal but TRY NOT to drink alone because well that is a little far especially while young. However, you said your mates have to look after you and don't want to go out with you ect. This means that yeah you are out of control if only because you will be annoying people, drink sure, but don't drink so much you become boring aka need looking after.
Well I have a pretty good fake ID (driver's license) and I also look fairly mature for my age, tall, and suddenly developed over last year! Yeah I tend to go out on thursdays, fridays, saturdays and one other day, often tuesdays because there's a student night on near me. I often get very drunk so I can be very tired/hungover/out of it at school the next day, but I guess I've always just thought this was normal.
I have a really great time when I go out and I suppose I kind of rely on alcohol. If I go to a friend's house and there's no alcohol I get bored and fidgety and don't feel like I'm having fun. That's mainly why I've started sneaking alcohol in the evenings. I don't drink a huge amount when I'm home by myself but it just makes me feel more awake and less depressed.
I honestly never ever considered I had a problem until today when my friend talked to me about it. I don't know if they're just being dramatic though.
You all seem to think that the drinking and going out isn't a problem but rather the drinking at home? Because my friend doesn't know about that; her issue was that they always have to look after me and stop me doing stupid things, which I accept. The thing is, I feel a bit resentful, because when I first started getting drunk, my friends positively egged me on, giggling and persuading me to drink more, chat up more guys etc
I have a really great time when I go out and I suppose I kind of rely on alcohol. If I go to a friend's house and there's no alcohol I get bored and fidgety and don't feel like I'm having fun. That's mainly why I've started sneaking alcohol in the evenings. I don't drink a huge amount when I'm home by myself but it just makes me feel more awake and less depressed.
I honestly never ever considered I had a problem until today when my friend talked to me about it. I don't know if they're just being dramatic though.
You all seem to think that the drinking and going out isn't a problem but rather the drinking at home? Because my friend doesn't know about that; her issue was that they always have to look after me and stop me doing stupid things, which I accept. The thing is, I feel a bit resentful, because when I first started getting drunk, my friends positively egged me on, giggling and persuading me to drink more, chat up more guys etc
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Theres nothing abnormal about going out 3 times a week with friends and drinking so much you dont remember it. Im not saying its healthy or advisable but i know loadsa people who do that and have no real problems. However sneaking alcohol and drinking at home alone is a bad sign.
Im sorry but shes 15. Maybe for an 18/19 year old thats ok but NO frigging way is there 'nothing abnormal' with that!
What planet are you from!
You should learn your limits and realise that your 15 - your still growing. Ok at the end of 15 i was drinking but maybe once a week or less.
You dont need alcohol at 15 to have fun.
Yes you're overdoing it. I don't think fellow 15 year olds are generally mature enough to say you are, but take it from someone alot older than you. You're overdoing it. A lot.
Not only are you underage, but you're also binge drinking. You like the feeling of inhibition that comes from alcohol, but keep going and soon enough you'll be an alcoholic.
You started off with a few drinks, now you're sneaking alcohol in the evenings when you're alone to stay awake. You're going to end up with a serious problem sooner than you think. Read this, especially the first point about alcohol abuse.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/alcohol_abuse_alcoholism_signs_effects_treatment.htm
It doesn't sound as though you're an alcoholic, but you binge drink and abuse alcohol which is the first steps to becoming one.
Not only are you underage, but you're also binge drinking. You like the feeling of inhibition that comes from alcohol, but keep going and soon enough you'll be an alcoholic.
You started off with a few drinks, now you're sneaking alcohol in the evenings when you're alone to stay awake. You're going to end up with a serious problem sooner than you think. Read this, especially the first point about alcohol abuse.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/alcohol_abuse_alcoholism_signs_effects_treatment.htm
It doesn't sound as though you're an alcoholic, but you binge drink and abuse alcohol which is the first steps to becoming one.
Yes. You need to cut back. To start off, all that booze is gunna be costing you a lot of cash. Passing out 3 times a week, week in, week out is going to do some serious damage to your liver, if you let it continue.
Don't let it escalate and start cutting back. You don't need to pass out to have a good time. Learn how much drink gets you drunk, not how much lays you out on the floor, you'll probably enjoy the night more. I think everyone feels a lessening of inhibitions when drunk, but d'you think you couldn't socialise if sober? If so, then I'd definitely say try going out without booze. You shouldn't be relying on that alone to help you get chatting etc.
Good Luck.
Don't let it escalate and start cutting back. You don't need to pass out to have a good time. Learn how much drink gets you drunk, not how much lays you out on the floor, you'll probably enjoy the night more. I think everyone feels a lessening of inhibitions when drunk, but d'you think you couldn't socialise if sober? If so, then I'd definitely say try going out without booze. You shouldn't be relying on that alone to help you get chatting etc.
Good Luck.
all I can say is wow - I can just about handle three glasses of white wine and a rum and coke...hardcore or what.
but yeah, I'd say doing that 4 times a week is a bit excessive, twice a week would be ok and think of the calories!!
but yeah, I'd say doing that 4 times a week is a bit excessive, twice a week would be ok and think of the calories!!
All I can say is, one night - as an experiment - don't drink and watch everyone around you slowly get drunker and drunker..
It's not pretty
- drunks are annoying ****ers and you'll realise that a few drink is better than the entire offlisence.
We're all guilty (at the ripe old age of 17 and 3/4, I might add) of the odd glass of wine on our own now and then, but getting trashed on your own shows that there's something bigger going on. Everyone else has given the best advice - good luck
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It's not pretty
- drunks are annoying ****ers and you'll realise that a few drink is better than the entire offlisence.We're all guilty (at the ripe old age of 17 and 3/4, I might add) of the odd glass of wine on our own now and then, but getting trashed on your own shows that there's something bigger going on. Everyone else has given the best advice - good luck
xWhen your friends start to avoid you and don't want to go out with you any more, that's the time to stop. Stop now !
Try to have a normal social life for the next 3 weeks without any alcohol - if you cant do it then call up alcoholics anonymous.
Oh c'mon, I bet most of you are just jealous.
At the end of the day you are having a great time and you've only got a few years (5ish) before thats it, you've got a job and that's it, no more hardcore drinking multiple times a week.
How are your grades doing at school? As long as they are ok, and you can afford what you're doing then really I can't see a big problem. The whole point of alcohol is it's a social crutch. Some people can be very outgoing without it, great for you. Others find it difficult for whatever reason and getting nicely hammered helps a lot.
At the end of the day you are having a great time and you've only got a few years (5ish) before thats it, you've got a job and that's it, no more hardcore drinking multiple times a week.
How are your grades doing at school? As long as they are ok, and you can afford what you're doing then really I can't see a big problem. The whole point of alcohol is it's a social crutch. Some people can be very outgoing without it, great for you. Others find it difficult for whatever reason and getting nicely hammered helps a lot.
If you keep on doing it, you'll end up having worse and worse hangovers. Spending an entire day with your head down the toilet trying to puke up your guts is really unpleasant.
There is nothing wrong with having a drink, nothing at all, but you are still at school and if you carry on, you'll end up missing school because of hangovers. Do your parents know about you going out and drinking? Because one night, they may get a phone call because you've ended up in A&E getting your stomach pumped, or worse, you've passed out, vomited, choaked on the vomit and died.
You've got a choice. Carry on the way you are, or do something about it. If your friends have said they don't want to go out with you, if you feel you can't have fun without a drink and you have to have a drink on your own, then yes, you have a problem, but the only person who can actually do anything about it is you.
There is nothing wrong with having a drink, nothing at all, but you are still at school and if you carry on, you'll end up missing school because of hangovers. Do your parents know about you going out and drinking? Because one night, they may get a phone call because you've ended up in A&E getting your stomach pumped, or worse, you've passed out, vomited, choaked on the vomit and died.
You've got a choice. Carry on the way you are, or do something about it. If your friends have said they don't want to go out with you, if you feel you can't have fun without a drink and you have to have a drink on your own, then yes, you have a problem, but the only person who can actually do anything about it is you.
She's 15 for god's sake! How can you not see that this is a problem!? Her drinking is out of control, she's underage, and even her best friend doesn't want to spend time with her! I'd say that there's a pretty serious problem there. You need to get some help. Speak to a doctor or Your parents or something.
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Oh c'mon, I bet most of you are just jealous.At the end of the day you are having a great time and you've only got a few years (5ish) before thats it, you've got a job and that's it, no more hardcore drinking multiple times a week.
How are your grades doing at school? As long as they are ok, and you can afford what you're doing then really I can't see a big problem. The whole point of alcohol is it's a social crutch. Some people can be very outgoing without it, great for you. Others find it difficult for whatever reason and getting nicely hammered helps a lot.
How are your grades doing at school? As long as they are ok, and you can afford what you're doing then really I can't see a big problem. The whole point of alcohol is it's a social crutch. Some people can be very outgoing without it, great for you. Others find it difficult for whatever reason and getting nicely hammered helps a lot.
Jealous? cos a 15 year old wants to get so drunk 3 times a week even her best mate dont wana talk to her? Ha i dont think so. There is more to life my friend than being a raging alcoholic and thinking its 'cool'
When I was 15, I drank twice a week fairly heavily. I still do, but I got bored of throwing up and getting off with guys i didn't like every weekend. I know some girls who still do that week in week out, and at the end of the day you've got to think about whether you want to be that sort of person. Lots of people do it, and I don't see a problem with getting pretty drunk at the weekend to let off steam. However if you're friends see a problem, you said they egged you on at the start, then it's probably getting pretty bad. Try instead of chugging down your drink, deciding how much around you want to drink, and only drink that- stop drinking when you are drunk. You tend to find just beeing tipsy tends to make you have more fun and seem more fun than being hammered.
Well..i'm 15 too and i drink but in moderation..i dont even drink that much to be honest! it sounds like your relying on alcohol to look popular and to give you a confident boost..but seriously it does damage your health,and getting plastered to the extent you pass out and forget the entire nights ongoings REALLY isnt a gud thing!..you need to cut down on the drinks and remember that if people dont like you for yourself then you shouldnt resort to alcohol x
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