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Binge eating disorder
Ok, i suffer from binge eating disorder (look it up if u just think im a fatty with no will power) and i have lost complete control. Im not obese but i will be at the rate im going. For 8 months now, i have just binged almost everyday and have no power to resist any more. I used to be anorexic and my research has told me that by limiting myself then, i am now craving anything to stop starvation again (or summin). I get up every morning promising to stop but can never make it through the day. I go for a run wen i have the motivation and wen i do, i have stronger resolve and can last a day. but as soon as i miss a run in the morning, that day is gone, and i know i will binge for the rest of it. All i can think about is food, all day, wotever the situation. I hate myself and just looking at my body makes me feel ill and yet im powerless.
Has anyone else been through this? Any advice (dont just say stop eating! Its not that easy!)
Has anyone else been through this? Any advice (dont just say stop eating! Its not that easy!)
Reply 1
Anonymous
Ok, i suffer from binge eating disorder (look it up if u just think im a fatty with no will power) and i have lost complete control. Im not obese but i will be at the rate im going. For 8 months now, i have just binged almost everyday and have no power to resist any more. I used to be anorexic and my research has told me that by limiting myself then, i am now craving anything to stop starvation again (or summin). I get up every morning promising to stop but can never make it through the day. I go for a run wen i have the motivation and wen i do, i have stronger resolve and can last a day. but as soon as i miss a run in the morning, that day is gone, and i know i will binge for the rest of it. All i can think about is food, all day, wotever the situation. I hate myself and just looking at my body makes me feel ill and yet im powerless.
Has anyone else been through this? Any advice (dont just say stop eating! Its not that easy!)
Has anyone else been through this? Any advice (dont just say stop eating! Its not that easy!)
Been there, done that. What really truly helped me stop was waking up one day and deciding I´d stop. No ifs or buts. While it is a sickness that has nothing to do with will-power, only YOU can cure it.
I also planned my meals ahead, healthy and balanced, and forbade myself to snack (of course it was very very hard in teh beginning and I caved in to temptation). I took a photo of myself and taped it on my fridge (i looked vey chubby) to motivate myself.
Reply 2
I think I am going through something like this - I start off the day eating quite healthily then i seem to think about what i have eaten and think o i've not had any snacks the just binge on chocolate bars, oreas, mini chedders, ice lollies - anything!! I only do it when no one is around though and hide the evidence becasue i feel guilty!! I really want to stop this as i know i am putting on weight i want to slim down a dress size but help me!!
Reply 3
I really feel for you, I went through exactly the same thing a few years ago. It started with anorexia - that lasted a year - then I went on a massive binge for a few weeks and put on loads of weight. As soon as I'd put on more than I was comfortable with, I started starving again, then like you said it was though my body was scared of the starvation so I'd binge after a few days or a week or so. This went on for a couple of years and pretty much dominated my life. I wouldn't show off my body or go out or anything because I felt disgusted with myself.
Looking back I realise how ridiculous this was. I can completely emphathise with how you feel though - it's like a self-created trap. The way I got out of that mindset was to just force myslef to eat 'normally'. Don't worry about calories or fat. Don't weigh yourself. Just put your own mental heath first because ultimately that is what the problem is - not your body. I don't have any eating problems now and my body is the best it's ever been. You need to eat as well as you can - let yourself eat chocolate and other things you label 'bad' - soon you will stop associated food with either good or bad feelings and then you'll be out of the trap. I know its harder than it sounds but that worked for me. When I think back I just feel sad about all the good times I missed because I was so caught up in my eating disorder. I'm sure you'll think the same way in the future. If you'd like to talk PM me, I'm more than happy to help...
Looking back I realise how ridiculous this was. I can completely emphathise with how you feel though - it's like a self-created trap. The way I got out of that mindset was to just force myslef to eat 'normally'. Don't worry about calories or fat. Don't weigh yourself. Just put your own mental heath first because ultimately that is what the problem is - not your body. I don't have any eating problems now and my body is the best it's ever been. You need to eat as well as you can - let yourself eat chocolate and other things you label 'bad' - soon you will stop associated food with either good or bad feelings and then you'll be out of the trap. I know its harder than it sounds but that worked for me. When I think back I just feel sad about all the good times I missed because I was so caught up in my eating disorder. I'm sure you'll think the same way in the future. If you'd like to talk PM me, I'm more than happy to help...
Reply 4
I think I am going through something like this - I start off the day eating quite healthily then i seem to think about what i have eaten and think o i've not had any snacks the just binge on chocolate bars, oreas, mini chedders, ice lollies - anything!! I only do it when no one is around though and hide the evidence becasue i feel guilty!!
Reply 5
Why do you want the label?
this is what comes of self diagnosis googling.
Who is to say you arent a fatty with no will power? motivations are a difficult thing to pinpoint.
Its not that I dont understand, I have eating issues, but doesnt everyone these days?
this is what comes of self diagnosis googling.
Who is to say you arent a fatty with no will power? motivations are a difficult thing to pinpoint.
Its not that I dont understand, I have eating issues, but doesnt everyone these days?
Reply 6
My boyfriend says the same as u. Seems insensitive but maybe there is some sense in it. All i no is that, label or no label, i cant stop eating no matter what tactics i come up with (new ones every day, and every day they fail) and im at my wits end. I hate myself and wish i could leave my body far behind. But i cant. im stuck with it and i hate it. I just wish i could stop eating!
Reply 7
What height are you ? and more importantly what weight are you ? (no lies please)
Reply 8
you need a hobby.
Distraction is key.
Agreed its hard, but once you have re established more 'normal' eating patterns, it gets easier.
Distraction is key.
Agreed its hard, but once you have re established more 'normal' eating patterns, it gets easier.
Reply 9
a hobby? christ! my life is so hectic i dont have a chance!!! I barely have a second to breathe, so my emotions are all i need right now!
Reply 10
As for height and weight...5"10 and well, i dont no. I stopped weighing myself wen i started putting on weight because i knew it would only upset me and i would only become obsessed with it again (eg weighing myself multiple times a day, aiming to lose absurd amounts, never satisfied until i reached the magic number). Put it like this, i was 10 stone (magic number) and ppl sed i was too skinny. Since then i have over eaten every day for the last 8 months (wen i say overeaten...i mean binged and by that i mean minimum of double ur daily calorie allowance), so u do the maths!
Reply 11
Have you has any professional help over the last few years?
Reply 12
i was taken to the doctors wen i was underweight, referred to a dietician, she told me to put on weight, and i spiralled out of control from there. I think those words were the signal that i was allowed to eat again, so i did...and didnt stop.
Reply 13
Maybe you need to go back to this dietician then, and get some proper advice about your diet because it wasn't healthy before when you were underweight, and it's not healthy now either. Also I'm assuming there are some issues behind this, and definitely a mental mindset which you are struggling with, with regards to eating, and I wonder whether you might need some help on that front as well. If it's gotten as serious as you're implying through your posts, I think you really ought to get some professional help.
Reply 14
I just dont want to make it a big issue again. My family have only recently started to trust me with my eating. All i do is cause them worry and as they have only just stopped it doesnt seem fair, nor does it appeal. I have tried to stop it being an issue in my relationship with my bf because there was a time wen it dominated over everything and i dont want to do that agen because our relationship is in a bad enuf state as it is. I know wot i should be eating, i just cant do it. Its either all or nothin with me, and at the moment its all. Maybe tomorrow it will be nothing but there is no middle ground.
Reply 15
I understand where you're coming from, totally. I just don't think it's going to be that simple to fix... And I wonder whether trying to sort it out on your own and not make it a big issue might just end up having the effect of putting a plaster over the problem, which might work in the short term, but in the long term doesn't solve the problem, you see what I mean? It's a toughie because you've regained your family's trust and you don't want to jeopardise your relationship with your bf, and I can appreciate that. Do you really think you can sort it out on your own? I don't know; perhaps you can, but it seems from the way you describe it, the situation is beyond your control. I don't mean to be harsh, I'm just calling it the way i see it...
Reply 16
oh i totally agree but im stuck in limbo, with every option seemingly a loser. This is the same with everything in my life at the moment, so u can see why i feel so stuck!
Reply 17
OK so you're 5"10 and were approx 10 stone around 8 months ago. So what weight are you now ?
You're logged on as Anonymous so it's not like anyone knows you here.
(Not being nosey by the way, just trying to get the picture).
You're logged on as Anonymous so it's not like anyone knows you here.
(Not being nosey by the way, just trying to get the picture).
Reply 18
For sure, I just think that if you want to solve your problem properly and permanently, it's going to take some professional help. And unfortunately that may mean things being uncomfortable for a while, with regards to your family and boyfriend. But in the end I think if you want to be rid of your problem, you're going to have to go through the rough to get to the smooth. Feel free to PM me if you'd rather talk about this in private.
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