Relationship in the long run?

Is it really worth it?????

I mucked up my A levels because of a relationship, with my first love when she moved away it killed us both and I was a wreck. Stopped eating and sleeping.

Reply 1

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I'm very bias on the subject at the moment, so you don't need to listen to me :P.

I thought love was truly wonderful, the experiences, the knowledge I could trust her with anything, no matter what. I never felt silly, I never felt stupid, I just felt complete, but after been hurt so much because of "love" by only one person, I no longer believe in it. I just see it as something that's hurt people, and it caused me to feel the way I do, because I gave my heart away to only have it crushed over a single night. I spiraled into severe depression, was hurt in ways I thought not possible. Obviously I'm not that worse off any more and I'm happily plodding on with life, though it took months to pull myself out because of the high she took me too, to only drop me in a matter of minutes.

The girl I loved split up with me over the internet...and I never found out why a relationship of over one and a half years, in which we had never argued, she always seemed happy, I would do anything I could to keep her smiling, were we spent so much time together, just ended. I never found out how she could have so little respect for me to end the relationship over the internet, that's how I feel, obviously it's debatable if it was a respectable method or not. There's alot more to the story, but I shall not bore you.

So in my eyes, and how i wish this wasn't the case as I've never felt so lonely, the answer is no.

Sorry if I sound a moody old g!t, I'm honestly not :P Just on this subject :biggrin:

. Even I know my opinion is bias because of recent circumstances, but I'll recover and love love for it's true beauty in good time :smile:

Reply 2

=Keith=

3

Definately NO. Doesnt matter how strong your love is, ur academics should not be scarificed for it. It comes and goes but you will lose time for academics which doesnt come back..
Keep everything in a balance..

Reply 3

=Keith=

3

And Xopa, I feel sorry man. Its life, it happens and we should move on... U seem to be going smooth in ur life, keep going and ul find some one who really deserves you.
Good luck

Reply 4

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

-Zach-

Definately NO. Doesnt matter how strong your love is, ur academics should not be scarificed for it. It comes and goes but you will lose time for academics which doesnt come back..
Keep everything in a balance..

This is very good advice.

I wish someone had given me the same advice before I met my ex. I've never regretted anything more.

Reply 5

Nix!

11

It's better to have loved and lost...

Ofcourse relationships are worth it, if they're not then why do couples choose to grow old together?

I could be very negative with my response as I'm on the same cynical path as Xopa at the moment, but I'm choosing not to.

Life and everything in it is what you make of it. Chin up, head high, crack on.

Reply 6

FadedJade

15

Unfortunately I can't really come up with any good advice, although I pretty much did the same thing, met a bloke just after I'd finished my exams who made me realise I'd screwed things up over this idiot, and i've now been with this new bloke ove a year and a half. Not necessarily what I'm suggesting, but don't give up hope.

*big hugs* to OP and Xopa

Reply 7

fairycakes

12

of course relationships are worth it in the long run.

relationships shape who u become, who you are. they add spice to life, a bit of excitement and happiness, while u are with the person. they help u decide who u want to be as a person, what kinda person u wanna spend ure life with in the long term (because of flaws in who they were, or good qualities they had). relationships help influence ure hopes, ure interests, friends...

did u not have wonderful times and memories u'll never forget with that person?

i'm not saying there sholdn't be a balance tho, between working and relationships, cos a lot of the timoe u only get 1 chance at adademic stuff, but u shouldn't totally write it off!!

but there is more to life than just work. u need some1 to make enhance who u are, and enrich ure life. if u haven't met some1 like that, keep looking, they will be out there and thy will be worth it...!

hugs and hugs to u guys.

(argh...that was all really cheesy, but i really do believe it, else what is the point of relationships?)

xxxx

Reply 8

ChemistBoy

16

There is no good advice because every situation is different. Most people's opinions are generally based on their own situation at this moment in time. 3 years ago I would have said it's all a bowl of crap, but now I think differently. This is one of life's tough decisions that you can delegate or defer to others on.

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