going crazy over lads

I keep seeing lads around my uni who I like. then I look on their facebook and form this one-way emotional attachment with them, having never talked to them. they don't even know me. but then when i see them in clubs and things with girls all over them and i get really miserable. i feel crazy. what's going on? any tips on how to approach them in the first place so they at least know my face?

thx

Reply 1

pollystyrene07

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i'm on facebook too & i understand what you mean about feeling as though you get to know people by looking at their profiles. but the truth is, unless you actually speak to a person & spend time with them, you'll never really know them properly. you should also keep in mind that people can write anything about themselves on their profiles to perhaps make them sound more interesting or likable. i think what you need to do is have more confidence in yourself & try not to get hung up over a guy you don't know, try & expand your social network & then you'll get to know more people & won't care as much about these guys.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for your reply. you make a lot of sense. i think matters would be so much better if facebook and myspace didn't exist. i will take your advice, thanks. x

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

anyone else? :frown:

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

I have a similar thought, if I look at facebook and see lots of female faces I feel inferior like I#ll never be near those attractive people and also it makes you feel insecure, much better without them

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

Been there, done that. My only solution was my boyfriend.

I stalked this guy on Facebook for about 6 months - I knew everything about him (What courses he did, what music he liked, where he went on holiday, what he did last night). It was pathetic...And yes, I cried when I found out he had a girlfriend.

But then I just grew out of it - Turns out I had better things to do that to look at his profile all day long...I think I went through a stalking phase because I was bored and possibly looking for some excitement.

Maybe it's the same for you. If you keep yourself busy and go meet some people face-to-face, you'll realise you don't need one-way relationships like these.

Alternatively, go speak to them the next time you see them. Maybe that will put it to rest.

Reply 6

Anonymous #4

I hate facebook for these kind of reasons!

Reply 7

Anonymous #5

I know exactly how you feel, although with me it's not lots of guys, it's just one at a time :redface:

For the past 6 months, yeah huge crush on a guy I met for 2 minutes, then saw he had a blog with pics, now obsessed with him :redface:

He has no interest in me whatsoever and A. thinks I'm lame, even tho I model and he goes for models :confused:

B. Puts me down all the time C. likes someone else. So yeah, oh well. That sucks. I feel sad too don't worry.

Reply 8

Anonymous #5

I think it's coz I like a challenge, and dad goes for women who treat him badly, and oddly I take after him with dating :rolleyes:

Or something.

I dunno. Anyway, K. Well, I just am asking to be treated badly here yet I still do this to myself, perhaps it's the thrill of what could be, dunno.

Reply 9

Anonymous #5

Anonymous

but then when i see them in clubs and things with girls all over them and i get really miserable.

At least the guy doesn't email you details of his latest one night stands/pictures of himself with these girls - does with me :smile:

Fun.

Reply 10

General Mullet

Simple solution: Get rid of facebook/myspace. I don't care what anyone says, stalking isn't healthy.

Reply 11

Anonymous #6

Anonymous

I keep seeing lads around my uni who I like. then I look on their facebook and form this one-way emotional attachment with them, having never talked to them. they don't even know me. but then when i see them in clubs and things with girls all over them and i get really miserable. i feel crazy. what's going on? any tips on how to approach them in the first place so they at least know my face?

thx

Maybe its because you are not in a relationship or haven't been in one for a long time. Or maybe because you haven't liked anyone properly for a long time that your (without realising properly) finding emotions that you are detached to right now.

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