What does this mean?

No-one is answering my previous posts, anyhow. Someone you consider a friend is telling your enemy your personal secrets and letting your enemy criticise you. This behaviour upsets you. Why would a friend do this and what would you do?

Reply 1

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3

Lighten up.

Reply 2

IndianDiva

For a start, don't tell this "friend" anymore stuff, whether its personal or not.

Reply 3

Toy Soldier

3

They don't really like you / like the "enemy" more and want to be their friend. OR, they were drunk when they told them, in which case... well, who knows why we tell people things when drunk?

As for what I'd do... err... if it was a guy I'd beat him half to death. If a girl I'd settle for a good dose of public humiliation.

Reply 4

Sezkin

11

I think that if a friend tells a personal secret to someone you detest, then that friend must be jealous of you or mustn't really like you. I reckon it's mostly jealously...

What would I do? Well confront her/him and ask her why she/he did it to let the person know I'm annoyed about it... THEN I'd ignore her/him .

EDIT :h:

ahhaa... soz about the (HIM/HER) bit... noticed that there are soo many.

Reply 5

mrs_matt_tuck

it could be that your friend wants acceptance from your enemy so that they don't bully her. It is very cowardly and disloyal behavior. Firstly don't tell your friend any more secrets .Try talking to your friend about your concearns. At first do not accuse your friend, just describe how your enemy critisises you with your secrets, how this makes you feel. If they are really your friend they will feel guilty about how much they have hurt you. But if the behaviour continues it is obvious they are not your real friend.

If you can prove that they are the one spreading your secrets have it out with them. No joy, then cut the ties.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

She actually said 'I don't like lying to people' as he asked her a personal question about me. I was so angry and thought he has no right to know my business.

Reply 7

noodles!

14

Then they're not a friend. Ditch them.

Reply 8

mrs_matt_tuck

keeping a friend's private secrets is not lying. That guy had no right to know your business. Ditch her before things escalate out of control.

Reply 9

Enchanté

14

Well if they do that and known that you do not like this other person they are clearly not your friend if you know it them just say something to them. I don't always tell my friends stuff because I know they might say something to someone else when it's private information, I only tell them if I am confident if they won't say anything.

Reply 10

Salmon

It means this person is not a friend.

Reply 11

lil one

2

That person who you regard as a friend, is not.
True friends do not do that to you, and as clique as it sounds, you deserve better.

Reply 12

matt@internet

12

lil one

That person who you regard as a friend, is not.
True friends do not do that to you, and as clique as it sounds, you deserve better.

Cliché!!! ;spank;

Reply 13

Electric

Lay your cards on the table or play her back at her own game!

Reply 14

Ili

13

matt@internet

Cliché!!! ;spank;

Reply 15

singh1987

Anonymous

No-one is answering my previous posts, anyhow. Someone you consider a friend is telling your enemy your personal secrets and letting your enemy criticise you. This behaviour upsets you. Why would a friend do this and what would you do?

like they say 'your best friend is your worst enemy.' one simple solution to your problem, don't tell your friend anything!

Reply 16

yellow96

15

Start feeding false information to her which she's likely to tell your enemy, but make it slightly far-fetched. Get a few solid friends to back you up, and then get someone to inform your enemy that the girl who keeps telling him your personal secrets is lying to him. If he tries to check it out, he'll realise that a lot of the stuff she's told him is false, and you'll have friends on your side to claim that you never said any of it. Alternatively, throw heavy things at her until she understands.

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