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Already 1 year together - girlfriend still hasn't let me do anal!?

Right so we have been already 1 year together with my girlfriend and everything is going great except my girlfriend still hasn't ever let me do anal with her, and I'm getting really frustrated now.

Every time I suggest or attempt it she gets really annoyed, which also turns me off at the end. She has never tried it before, so it's not possible that she's had a bad experience before.

We just had our first anniversary but we still havent taken this step in our relationship... How can I convice my girlfriend to try anal with me? Most girls actually like it, but are just too scared/shy to try it.

How do I let her know that this is not acceptable, considering we have been already together for so long?

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Reply 1

BlownTyre

"Still hasn't let me do anal?"

Well, she doesn't have to. It is acceptable for her not to do anal. If she doesn't want to do it, simple, she doesn't have to do it. You getting "annoyed" about this is quite a petty thing, maybe get your priorities sorted out beforehand.

Reply 2

MissValour

If you love and respect her, then don't force it or make her feel bad about it. Some girls love it, others hate it. Some just don't like the idea of it while others think it's kinky and want to try it. A lot if it is personality abd self confidence. But lets be honest, it's her ass. If she doesn't want you in it then you have no business being there or forcing the idea

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Reply 3

meadow11

Original post by jakey13232

How do I let her know that this is not acceptable, considering we have been already together for so long?

It's perfectly acceptable, it's her body. Stop pressuring her.

Reply 4

JessJJ

Just because you've been with her for a year doesn't automatically give you the right to all areas of her body. If she isn't comfortable with that then you'll learn to live with it. It's not exactly a comfortable feeling for most of us and to make her feel bad about it is pretty ****ty of you.
If you seriously can't get over it I'd suggest dumping her so she can find a man who respects her boundaries

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Reply 5

Maid Marian

Why would you want to though?

Reply 6

unprinted

Just because you want to be shagged with a strap-on by her - that is what you mean by anal, isn't it? - doesn't mean she has to want to do it.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 7

EmergencyBagels

she obviously doesnt want to do anal.
stop trying to make her
it was probably that the first time she turned you down because she was uncomfortable with the idea but now shes just annoyed that you arent listening to her and are still trying to make her agree to something she obviously doesnt want to do. and really im not sure what would be in it for her. probably pain and discomfort.

Reply 8

meadow11

Original post by jakey13232

Just joined this forum and didn't realise how unhelpful people are!! I was asking for tips on how to get her to do anal, which most of you seemed to miss.I have been a little tempted but this would probably be painful and a guaranteed no for a second time! It actually happened with me and my ex once accidentally and she didn't like it very much (as it was too quick).

Ugh. I know you're probably a troll but still.

If she has said that she doesn't want to try it then you haven't got her consent. You also cannot pressure her into giving consent. If you try it anyway, I hope she never lets you touch her again.

Reply 9

thecatwithnohat

Holy cow.

Do you think just any girl would want you to rip their bum hole in two?

Reply 10

username1399980

Original post by jakey13232

She has told you she doesn't want to do it so that is that really. Could she convince you to let her penetrate you with a strap -on ? According to your logic "most boys like it and are just too scared to try it"

What is not acceptable icy trying to bully someone into doing something they don't want to do with emotional blackmail?

How so you know "most girls like it" Where is your evidence for this ?

Reply 11

saaniaxyz

Original post by jakey13232

I think shes getting annoyed because you keep asking her. tbh shes either really not liking the idea or shell bring it up herself sometime. I mean she knows you want to right? the fact that you keep asking might come across as if youre pressurising her to her hence her getting upset

Reply 12

username457532

You're pressuring her and you're a dick.

When suggesting something you want to do (either sexually or as a date etc.) you should bring it up casually, ask her whether it's something she's interested in too. If she says 'yes', awesome but she still has the right to change her mind anytime. Saying 'yeah, I'd be interested in anal' doesn't mean you have a right to access to her arse. If she says 'no' or 'maybe', then you say 'that's cool, if you ever feel like it's something you want to try then tell me and we'll go from there.' And then you don't mention it again unless she does. (NB. this applied if the person you want to do this with is not a woman and/or you are not a man)

Aware the OP is probably a troll, but this info is important for EVERYBODY.

Reply 13

Juichiro

Original post by jakey13232

Right so we have been already 1 year together with my girlfriend and everything is going great except my girlfriend still hasn't ever let me do anal with her, and I'm getting really frustrated now.

Every time I suggest or attempt it she gets really annoyed, which also turns me off at the end. 1. She has never tried it before, so it's not possible that she's had a bad experience before.

2. We just had our first anniversary but we still havent taken this step in our relationship... How can I convice my girlfriend to try anal with me? 3. Most girls actually like it, but are just too scared/shy to try it.

4. How do I let her know that this is not acceptable, considering we have been already together for so long?

1. She just does not want it. Leave her alone

2. It is not a step in your relationship. It is just sex

3. You know that because most girls have been engaged in coitus by you, right?

4. Refusing to engage in sex is acceptable. Length of relationship is irrelevant to her refusal to let you inside her

Reply 14

Olie

Original post by watchingyouwatch

Yes, good points. If she was to pressure you to use a strap on with you, would you be happy, OP?

And yeah, I'm not convinced by the 'most girls like it' argument, from what I've heard, if anything it's the opposite, maybe the OP has been watching too much porn :rolleyes:

Reply 15

Little Popcorns

Why don't you let her do it on you first :colonhash:

Reply 16

lucylocket118

some girls just aren't into it get over it and stop peer pressuring her, sex isn't everything !!

Reply 17

Fuemii

It is her choice whether she wants to do anal or not. Just like it is your choice whether you want to give her oral sex or not. Not all girls ''secretly'' want to do anal. We aren't 'shy' or 'scared'. I personally do not ever want to try anal, it's not my cup of tea. I don't think you should be in a relationship. Learn to respect others and their wishes, and perhaps grow up a little. I'm sure you would feel differently if your girlfriend wanted to penetrate your ass.

Reply 18

jakey13232

Original post by watchingyouwatch

If that was something she really wanted to try of course I would - I'm her boyfriend! Relationships arent about just thinking about yourself, sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to please your loved one.

I am basing my logic on many experiences I've had from girls and what I've read on forums. I said girls by the way, I don't think all boys would love it for psychological reasons, although they do say the prostate has the male g-spot so how knows :s-smilie: