Nothing but tears

i gess the heading says it all, about 3 weeks ago my mum had gone away as she was overly worked and stressed, i was really happy for my mother as she would get away from the working enviornment, anyway she went and the house pressure fell on me. Im still young, under 17 lets say, i have to do the shopping, cooking and cleaning. I didnt really mind this as i wanted to feel "grown up". However as my mum left my dad and brother have ganged up on me, they discriminate the food i make, tell me off if i havnt cleaned the dinning table properly and basically act as jerks. They dont help me at all and although i have told them and have gottin mad at them, they treat me like **** they really think im some sort of machine and can do everything perfectly. Also i have a long distance realtionship and my bf has a prom on sunday, he had told me who hes going with and how there friends, hes told me more than once but i still feel insecure, i dont know why but i cant tell him about how i feel. I just cant, maybe because he feels okay if a friend of mines (a guy) may ask me to the prom or disco, i gess he has that trust. Its not that i dont trust him, i do, i dono i gess im confused.

All of this is really ripping me up into tiny pieces at the moment and all i can do is cry. At school people see me as this happy go, easy to talk to person and i cant really express my emotions to anyone. So i do it on an internet form :rolleyes:

please guys i really need help, big time.

Reply 1

FireDeuce

If they don't like your food, sod them, don't cook for them.
Have you got friends you can really confide in and tell them everything thats gone wrong? I always used to think its best just to shy away when things get bad, but talking to people really really helps.
Maybe you could talk to your boyfriend about how you feel about him going to the prom? Sounds silly but he may genuinly not realise how much it bothers you. Any chance he can come down and see you or you can take a break and go and see him?

:suith:

Reply 2

Love Sheep

Screw them! Make them do their own work if you can't appreciate you!
Talk to your boyfriend about the prom situation and get it off your chest. I'm sure you two will be OK.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

I wish i could sod them, but i have a very weird family, i fi dont cook its seen as me being too big headed or lazy to do anything for them.
I know this is silly i mean its only the prom but i dont know why im acting like this, guess its kinda annoying and no my bf wouldnt be able to come as the distance is too far.

Reply 4

hippieglitter

Cook something or get takeaway just for yourself and when they come and ask you what's for dinner or when dinner will be ready say 'You don't like what i give you, do it yourself.' or next time they complain about what you give them before they have time to protest, pick up their plate and through their food in the bin, they'll love that. Honestly if they behave that way to your mother i'm not surprised she was stressed.

Reply 5

Nix!

How old's your brother?

If he's young the chances are he's just taking the lead from your dad and in any case, your dad should know better. Either your dad is just teasing or this is his way with dealing with the fact your mother 'went away'.

If your brother is older than you, than the solution is simple - don't cook for them.