Coping after breakup

Anonymous

What should i do?

a) get back together: why did you break up in the first place?
b) don't, and

Anonymous

Will the feeling go away?

yes, it will, but i could take awhile. I'm afriad break-up's are part of relationships, they're horrible, but you will gte over it as time goes on.

Reply 2

Sausage

10

You just gotta snap out of it. shake your head and realise that there is a MASSIVE world out there and no girl is the be all and end all.

I know its hard, believe me, but if you do stuff with your mates and talk to people it will help alot.

Reply 3

Trigger

My God whats the problem? Pre Op transexual? Seriously you would get better responses if you told us the full story.

Reply 4

OP

Lets just say parents come into it.

And......

Hmm. This has been done to death but I'll mention one of the obvious things. You have to stop seeing and speaking to her. I know this sounds awful as you like her so much but in my experience it's the only way to get over an ex that you still love.
If you have a good friend talk to them about it; talk honestly with them and that will make things feel marginally better too. Good luck with that.

Reply 7

Bedshaped

14

Whatever you do, dont kill her.

Trust me.

Just let time take its toll, stop crying, get out there and have fun.

Reply 8

OP

I was wondering if anyone else has had a similar breakup. What did it end up as?

Reply 9

Anonymous

I was wondering if anyone else has had a similar breakup. What did it end up as?

they might be able to relate better if you tell them the reason behind it... :smile:

as you're anonymous, you don't need to worry about saying what it was.

Reply 10

OP

bronsonbear

they might be able to relate better if you tell them the reason behind it... :smile:

as you're anonymous, you don't need to worry about saying what it was.

It was a combination of things. My parents didn't approve, put pressure on me among other things. I am just so worried about if I have done the wrong thing and that I will lose my chance of being with the most amazing girl ever. It was a logic decision rather than an emotional one.

Reply 11

Anonymous

It was a combination of things. My parents didn't approve, put pressure on me among other things. I am just so worried about if I have done the wrong thing and that I will lose my chance of being with the most amazing girl ever. It was a logic decision rather than an emotional one.

did you agree with your parents's reasons for not approving? or were you just scared of them?

Reply 12

Talon

Who cares what your parents think? Its your life not theirs.

Reply 13

OP

I'm not scared of them, but I do kind of agree with their reasoning. Basically that relationships at uni are unlikely to last, and the longer it does last, the more painful the breakup will be. There are also religious reasons. I am a christian and the physical aspect, outside of marriage, which was there in our relationship, is wrong in our belief and that was ruining my spiritual life. Are there any christians who can relate and have had this problem?

Reply 14

Dragon24

17

So your parents would rather you be unhappy? Your an adult its your life live it your way.

Reply 15

Trigger

this the reason i turned my back on religion

Reply 16

Wez

14

If she was your first kiss and your first g/f you've probably idolised her. She's not perfect. There are plenty more girls out there. It'll take a while to get over her, but so long as you realise there are more, better girls out there you'll manage it.

Reply 17

Anonymous

I'm not scared of them, but I do kind of agree with their reasoning. Basically that relationships at uni are unlikely to last, and the longer it does last, the more painful the breakup will be. There are also religious reasons. I am a christian and the physical aspect, outside of marriage, which was there in our relationship, is wrong in our belief and that was ruining my spiritual life. Are there any christians who can relate and have had this problem?

I'm a christian, but i've never had this problem so can't relate i'm afraid!

for what its worth, i'd agree with your parents; even if you ignore the religious 'sex before marriage is wrong', it can be a messy business.

However: relationships that begin at uni do last, my parents met at uni and are still going strong after 21 years! However (again), if you did eventualy intend to break up with this girl, better sooner than later.

I'd pray about it.

i know a couple who went out at uni, then split up because the girl was a christian and the guy wasn't, then the girl prayed about it, they got back together and the guy became a christian (not nessacerily in that order.. can't quite remember!)
I'm not saying that's what'll happen with you, just a middle aged couple I know.

Reply 18

Trigger

Thats ridiculous. I would never convert to a religion i didnt agree with for the sake of some bloke
edit just re read the end and at middle aged then yes i think you are in a better place mentally to malke an informed desion. But not in your 20's

Reply 19