Really lonely after finishing uni

Go on tinder. It's soooo easy to get sex on there. I don't even have any muscles (never go gym) and I could get with 7 girls a week easily if I wanted.

I finished my degree last year, however a lot of my friends were doing Masters/4th years so uni life carried on for another year. Now everyone has moved on and i'm completely alone. I have my own flat and it's just so lonely.

Nobody from uni has bothered to keep in touch aside from my best friend, who i've been talking to pretty much 24/7 because she's the only thing that cheers me up and she's really struggling too. I hate being this clingy and dependent on her. I went on holiday with her and her boyfriend and when I left I couldn't stop crying for like 4 days afterwards cos I was so upset about having to go home.

She doesn't really have any friends where she lives either but at least she has her partner to be with constantly, i'd give anything to have someone like that in my life but that's never going to happen. It really sucks seeing everyone I know all loved up whilst i'll end up starring in a sequel to the 40 year old virgin.

I have a good job in the Financial sector which pays well but there isn't really any scope for making friends there and outside of that I don't do anything. I'm on annual leave at the moment and haven't spoken to or seen another person since I got back from holiday... 10 days ago! I've been so upset i've just lost motivation to even do basic things like shower, shave or eat regularly.

All I want is just to meet a few more people but I just can't see how anything will ever change. I know that there are a lot of graduates in a worse position than me but i'm struggling to find anything to be positive about at the moment...

It is about the relationship for the OP, not the intercourse.

I finished my degree last year, however a lot of my friends were doing Masters/4th years so uni life carried on for another year. Now everyone has moved on and i'm completely alone. I have my own flat and it's just so lonely.

Nobody from uni has bothered to keep in touch aside from my best friend, who i've been talking to pretty much 24/7 because she's the only thing that cheers me up and she's really struggling too. I hate being this clingy and dependent on her. I went on holiday with her and her boyfriend and when I left I couldn't stop crying for like 4 days afterwards cos I was so upset about having to go home.

She doesn't really have any friends where she lives either but at least she has her partner to be with constantly, i'd give anything to have someone like that in my life but that's never going to happen. It really sucks seeing everyone I know all loved up whilst i'll end up starring in a sequel to the 40 year old virgin.

I have a good job in the Financial sector which pays well but there isn't really any scope for making friends there and outside of that I don't do anything. I'm on annual leave at the moment and haven't spoken to or seen another person since I got back from holiday... 10 days ago! I've been so upset i've just lost motivation to even do basic things like shower, shave or eat regularly.

All I want is just to meet a few more people but I just can't see how anything will ever change. I know that there are a lot of graduates in a worse position than me but i'm struggling to find anything to be positive about at the moment...

I finished my degree last year, however a lot of my friends were doing Masters/4th years so uni life carried on for another year. Now everyone has moved on and i'm completely alone. I have my own flat and it's just so lonely.

Nobody from uni has bothered to keep in touch aside from my best friend, who i've been talking to pretty much 24/7 because she's the only thing that cheers me up and she's really struggling too. I hate being this clingy and dependent on her. I went on holiday with her and her boyfriend and when I left I couldn't stop crying for like 4 days afterwards cos I was so upset about having to go home.

She doesn't really have any friends where she lives either but at least she has her partner to be with constantly, i'd give anything to have someone like that in my life but that's never going to happen. It really sucks seeing everyone I know all loved up whilst i'll end up starring in a sequel to the 40 year old virgin.

I have a good job in the Financial sector which pays well but there isn't really any scope for making friends there and outside of that I don't do anything. I'm on annual leave at the moment and haven't spoken to or seen another person since I got back from holiday... 10 days ago! I've been so upset i've just lost motivation to even do basic things like shower, shave or eat regularly.

All I want is just to meet a few more people but I just can't see how anything will ever change. I know that there are a lot of graduates in a worse position than me but i'm struggling to find anything to be positive about at the moment...

Mate... That ****s rough.

Why isn't there scope to make friends at your job?

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Tragic isn't it. I feel confident around them and it's nice to feel included which is something I don't get from anyone else.



People are friendly at work but outside of it they all have their own social circles and their own lives. Most are in relationships and a few are even married. My best friend did a placement year and she met someone else in a similiar situation, they became good friends and it went from there, I'd love something like that to happen to me but i just can't see it.

I get along with everyone but I wouldn't say I have friends there, i'm the guy who awkwardly eats lunch alone at his desk. I started in a group of 10 people and they've all settled in so much better than me.

Tragic isn't it. I feel confident around them and it's nice to feel included which is something I don't get from anyone else.



People are friendly at work but outside of it they all have their own social circles and their own lives. Most are in relationships and a few are even married. My best friend did a placement year and she met someone else in a similiar situation, they became good friends and it went from there, I'd love something like that to happen to me but i just can't see it.

I get along with everyone but I wouldn't say I have friends there, i'm the guy who awkwardly eats lunch alone at his desk. I started in a group of 10 people and they've all settled in so much better than me.

I finished my degree last year, however a lot of my friends were doing Masters/4th years so uni life carried on for another year. Now everyone has moved on and i'm completely alone. I have my own flat and it's just so lonely.

Nobody from uni has bothered to keep in touch aside from my best friend, who i've been talking to pretty much 24/7 because she's the only thing that cheers me up and she's really struggling too. I hate being this clingy and dependent on her. I went on holiday with her and her boyfriend and when I left I couldn't stop crying for like 4 days afterwards cos I was so upset about having to go home.

She doesn't really have any friends where she lives either but at least she has her partner to be with constantly, i'd give anything to have someone like that in my life but that's never going to happen. It really sucks seeing everyone I know all loved up whilst i'll end up starring in a sequel to the 40 year old virgin.

I have a good job in the Financial sector which pays well but there isn't really any scope for making friends there and outside of that I don't do anything. I'm on annual leave at the moment and haven't spoken to or seen another person since I got back from holiday... 10 days ago! I've been so upset i've just lost motivation to even do basic things like shower, shave or eat regularly.

All I want is just to meet a few more people but I just can't see how anything will ever change. I know that there are a lot of graduates in a worse position than me but i'm struggling to find anything to be positive about at the moment...

Not the best advice but by the sounds of it the solutions are:

- Try and make friends at your workplace, even if they are married or already have social circles doesn't mean you can't be friends or try to join their social circles! Join them for work drinks or any social things they do together, I'm sure they've offered and if they haven't it's probably because they think you're not interested or try to join in somehow.

- If the social atmosphere really is that bad or is literally dead, then consider finding another job possibly. Obviously not a quick solutions, nor one you should just do straight away. But you could be happier at an alternative workplace. Risky and it is hard to get jobs so something you shouldn't jump in to straight away but consider it. Many people who start to find their social circle at their job poor or unfriendly often try to find other jobs and then are a lot happier at another, different workplace (sometimes even in other sectors, sometimes the job itself is the problem but that's a whole other thing).

- Learn to be independent and have a small circle of 1 or 2 friends only, enjoy your own company!

Best wishes.

I suppose this thread is a daily reminder that making friends at university isn't as easy as you think.

Learn to be independent and have a small circle of 1 or 2 friends only, enjoy your own company!

Making friends at uni is easy - between uni and my job I knew an awful lot of people. Keeping them once both of you have to make an effort is ****ing hard though. I've even seen people who were as close as friends could be just completely fall out of touch once they were no longer living together.

I'm desperate to move to a new city and start fresh but my fear with that is that I end up in a job where i'm the only person my age and everyone else is old enough to be my parents! Plus breaking a tenancy agreement 10 months early is really hard.