Making friends

I thought that I found it difficult to make friends but Ive realised the problem, I go to college and hang around with people there (they are in there 30's but don't look it) but I never form close enough friendships where they come round to your house and go out at night etc. I go to sports clubs and again I talk to people but they are not really friends we just talk they are too cool for me. I have no friends to hang around with at home I am an only child (not a child anymore though lol) and live with parents does this make me seem more like a loser do you think? I do have one friend who lives nearby but she has a baby now and lives on her own, I don't think she has friends either.

I might be starting uni in September but am still living at home and again im worried the same will happen since the uni is in a different town. Im too old to move in halls (im 20) really and prefere to stay at home but is anyone else like this? As in having friends when you go to places but as soon as you get home your alone with parents?

Reply 1

James

14

Anonymous

does this make me seem more like a loser do you think?

You don't sound like a loser at all. :smile:

The best advice I can give is to have the courage to join in with lots of social events outside college/sports/uni/etc. After a sports match in the evening, for example, ask "is anyone up for going down the pub?", and invite people over to your place for drinks, meals etc.

Don't feel that your age should be a barrier to socialising, especially at uni. I have friends aged from 18 to 25+, and it feels completely normal when we all hang out together!

Reply 2

UnspokenTruth

Just dig a hole in your back garden, jump in, wait a couple of years and then when you come out the world will seem a better place. Have fun (remember to bring a good book).

Reply 3

kylie88

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lots of people feel as though they dont have anyone close to them which is why uni is a great start for people to get to know new people.
living at home doesnt make u a loser, it means u will be able to eat whilst ur at uni lol
uni isnt just about the halls, its about the whole experience. my friend goes to nottingham and she lives at home. she found it hard for the 1st week or so cuz alot of people on her course knew eachother from halls but u soon settle in and start talking to ppl.

just dont shy away, go and say hi to ppl

Reply 4

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kylie88

lots of people feel as though they dont have anyone close to them which is why uni is a great start for people to get to know new people.
living at home doesnt make u a loser, it means u will be able to eat whilst ur at uni lol
uni isnt just about the halls, its about the whole experience. my friend goes to nottingham and she lives at home. she found it hard for the 1st week or so cuz alot of people on her course knew eachother from halls but u soon settle in and start talking to ppl.

just dont shy away, go and say hi to ppl

lol the hole in the garden thing is a good idea! Anyway, yea I find it not too hard to make friends but it seems impossible for me to turn them into real friends who you go out with etc, people who I talk to are more like aquaintances (sp). Its just I honestly think that people will think im odd for living at home with parents at 20.

Reply 5

kylie88

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no way!! i no people that still live with parents at 30 lol, for whatever reason.
i think u will find things much easier once u get to uni. im ****ting myself about starting but so does everyone so just be friendly and things will just fall into place

Reply 6

James

14

In my experience, uni is incomparably better than school. Everyone is really friendly, and you simply don't come across the sort of bullying and unpleasantness you do at school/college. People tend to be really accepting of everything, whether it be sexuality, race,... or living at home!

EDIT: At least the people you'd want to be friends with, anyway!

Reply 7

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James Gurung

In my experience, uni is incomparably better than school. Everyone is really friendly, and you simply don't come across the sort of bullying and unpleasantness you do at school/college. People tend to be really accepting of everything, whether it be sexuality, race,... or living at home!

EDIT: At least the people you'd want to be friends with, anyway!

Yea Ive heard everyone is really open minded at uni they probably have to be to fit in really. Its just hard to get friends to go out with as I live on a quiet estate which seems to be full of elderly people :p:

Not that theres anything wrong with them but its soo quiet, Ive lived here all my life there used to be people my age but they have all moved out :frown:

Ah well, people grow up :rolleyes:

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