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Anyone ever felt like this [ex gf situation]
Well i split up with my ex-gf in late June and it was I who ended it after she kept lieing about phoning her ex loads of times and the way it was between us. It was a long term relationship and she was my first love and the first person i slept with and kissed. She has moved on and went out with her ex after me and now she is with some other dude.
The problem is that i miss her like crazy! She was really pretty and imo perfect in every way except having a good heart. I don't think i'm that good looking and my ex thought i was a really good lookin guy. I really can't see myself getting a girl i find attractive physically... before my ex i had no relationships or flings. I had 2 flings after we split but it wouldn't of worked with either of em. I can't have my ex back now, i would have to do something amazing to get her back and i can't have her because of what she did to me. So i guess i'm screwed, i don't think i'm good looking enough to get a girl i'm gonna be happy with. What have others done in this situation? I can't talk to friends because i hate putting myself down infront of others because then there is a chance they may think i'm a loser. I really want a new gf too but i just can't think of anyone i can have, my ex can get anyone! I kinda knew this would happen if i broke up with her... her getting anyone she wants and me left with options that wouldn't work. Did anyone else find someone they were happy with after splitting up with someone so near to perfect? =(
The problem is that i miss her like crazy! She was really pretty and imo perfect in every way except having a good heart. I don't think i'm that good looking and my ex thought i was a really good lookin guy. I really can't see myself getting a girl i find attractive physically... before my ex i had no relationships or flings. I had 2 flings after we split but it wouldn't of worked with either of em. I can't have my ex back now, i would have to do something amazing to get her back and i can't have her because of what she did to me. So i guess i'm screwed, i don't think i'm good looking enough to get a girl i'm gonna be happy with. What have others done in this situation? I can't talk to friends because i hate putting myself down infront of others because then there is a chance they may think i'm a loser. I really want a new gf too but i just can't think of anyone i can have, my ex can get anyone! I kinda knew this would happen if i broke up with her... her getting anyone she wants and me left with options that wouldn't work. Did anyone else find someone they were happy with after splitting up with someone so near to perfect? =(
Mate - this is the story of my life.
I have had plenty of short term relationships and i know a thing or two about women.
The first love of my life came into my life about a year and a half ago.
Beautiful, beautiful, innocent, virgin, sweet, caring etc etc - i was mesmerised by her.
She dumped me about 3 weeks ago... and yeah that was hard. i spent about 10 days straight drunk of my face because i couldnt cope.
But, my friend - there ARE others who will come into your life, make you happy, and help you forget your tainted past.
About 2 weeks ago a stunning girl came into my life who topped my ex girlfriend on looks and personality and im totally blown away by her.
Chin up, there are others - you wont find them if you go looking for them, but if you are aware they 'are' around, youll notice them when they come to you.
I really hope you do find someone because youre in the same position i was in and you sound like a good bloke
Good luck.
I have had plenty of short term relationships and i know a thing or two about women.
The first love of my life came into my life about a year and a half ago.
Beautiful, beautiful, innocent, virgin, sweet, caring etc etc - i was mesmerised by her.
She dumped me about 3 weeks ago... and yeah that was hard. i spent about 10 days straight drunk of my face because i couldnt cope.
But, my friend - there ARE others who will come into your life, make you happy, and help you forget your tainted past.
About 2 weeks ago a stunning girl came into my life who topped my ex girlfriend on looks and personality and im totally blown away by her.
Chin up, there are others - you wont find them if you go looking for them, but if you are aware they 'are' around, youll notice them when they come to you.
I really hope you do find someone because youre in the same position i was in and you sound like a good bloke
Good luck.
Thanks for the reply, that's the type of thing that fixed alot of the depressing times i have at the moment. The biggest problem i have is that I ended it. I had that option to keep going through the crappy times and tried to save everything. You're right about looking and not looking, i think i'm going through times where i'm low on uni mates. The split with my ex hurt me bad at uni both emotionally and in terms of mates. I lost most of them because how i dealt with the break up. I'm stuggling to have some mates to go out with at the moment and without that, i will never have another gf. So i guess imma concentrate on getting some more mates and like you said, someone will turn up. I guess i'm just jealous that my ex has a new bf and is completely happy, she hates me and has loads of mates. After all that happened, if there was justice then it should of been the other way around! Oh well, it worked out for you so maybe it'll work out for me 
well, i was upset and lonely, and thought i would have a really hard time finding someone nice enough to date. And certainly depressed that i wouldnt find someone who was as attractive / suitable / sweet as my ex, and it is really depressing to see ex's you still like (perhaps even love) with other men.
Who i found (and were not properly together yet, but very much interested in eachother) met me casually in the course of day to day life, and noticed we were very good people and nice to eachother, one thing kind of leads to another and im really hopeful that it leads to something special.
Oneday, youll find yourself buying a coffee or a pack of smokes or something, and the girl serving you will be very genuinely nice, and you will like eachother before you even knew you were into her.
Good luck champ
Who i found (and were not properly together yet, but very much interested in eachother) met me casually in the course of day to day life, and noticed we were very good people and nice to eachother, one thing kind of leads to another and im really hopeful that it leads to something special.
Oneday, youll find yourself buying a coffee or a pack of smokes or something, and the girl serving you will be very genuinely nice, and you will like eachother before you even knew you were into her.
Good luck champ
It's been 5 years since I split up with the first love of my life. We went out for about two months - I've had two girlfriends since: one for a year and a half and the other for a year (still going strong). I'm STILL not over that first relationship, I STILL can't see any fault in her, I STILL want to be with her even though I'm madly in love with my current girlfriend. You never ever get over a first love - the first cut really is the deepest. Sad but true.
I hope my BF doesnt have thesekind of thoughts about his ex. 
im goin thru exactly what you are mate, my first love, i cant even start to explain how much i was in love with her, i broke it off with her, and later found out that their was someone else.... and i was hurt bad and i mean i never thought i would be low and depressed over a girl.... and i was ! its bin nearly three months since i found out... but i still care about her and if being honest wana be with her even tho she did me wrong, i do kno dere wil be others out there that will make me happy but i still feel for her! she hates me now and we dont speak, but the thought of this other guy being with her makes me sick cause i still love her, but as people hav said its part of life mate, u can get thru it! and dont put ur self down by saying u cant find anyone near as gud enuff cause u can!!
Yeah man, I'm going through a similar thing...mine broke off with me about 3 weeks ago when we'd been going out about 10 months. She made me so happy it was amazing and I'd thought she was happy too...
At least you aint alone brother.
At least you aint alone brother.
yeh its life, as bad as it feels and trust me i kno how bad it feels, it will make u stronger, one thing one of my girl mates told me was, dont judge ur next gf by u last, keep that in the past cause u kno she wont be ur last love, and wots kool is it ryhmes 
lol but yeh u can do better and u will, cause once ur happy again, u'll look back and jus smile at the good times u had with ur ex and think yeh its done, now im gona enjoy the love ive got! g
lol but yeh u can do better and u will, cause once ur happy again, u'll look back and jus smile at the good times u had with ur ex and think yeh its done, now im gona enjoy the love ive got! gI ran into a similar problem when I broke up with my high school sweetheart. I dated tons of different girls trying to get over her. I compared every girl I ever dated after her to her. And, they all fell through. Then, almost 3 years after we split, having not talked at all during that time, I dropped some old photos off at her house when she wasn't home. She called me, and what do you know, we got back together. It was my dream come true! I was finally back with the love of my life. Only, over the course of a month or two I had come to find that we both had changed in many ways. Mainly, me maturing more than she had. So much, in fact, that I lost all attraction for her. It was devistating at first, but after a few weeks, I realized that sometimes those things are for the better. Those three years you could have never convinced me that she wasn't the one for me, but now, I don't think I could ever be with her again, and I know that I have zero feelings for her. It's weird how things change.
It's hard to let go of something, but just remember that if you just keep pushing along, things will eventually work out. Sometimes it's hard to remember that, but as long as you put your best foot forward, you're going to be just fine.
It's hard to let go of something, but just remember that if you just keep pushing along, things will eventually work out. Sometimes it's hard to remember that, but as long as you put your best foot forward, you're going to be just fine.
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