Feeling like not pretty

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Hi
Well ive settled into univeristy life no problem, But however i am having problems with, me, as i dont think im pretty enough, its never been an issure before, but recently it has become more prominent, as ive only ever dated guys who ive met in clubs, as, So i think there falling for the drunk me, rather than the sober me :s-smilie:

, and in comparison with my other friends i would rank myself 4 out of 10 :s-smilie:

, and well i went to my unis fair, to join some clubs, (there was clubs that i wanted to join , but couldnt becuase of reasons which i wish not to dicucss), anyways, in terms of relationships i want a relationship, with someone that falls for me when sober, not when drunk, :mad:

but since i havent been able to join any clubs, that now seems unlikely :mad:

Any ideas on how i can get over this rut, look forward to hearing from someone
Thanks Kels

Reply 1

Philosoraptor

18

Trust me , I get this so much. But there is always someone out there who (I think amazingly) thinks you are attractive! Sorry to hear about you not joining societies, that would be useful.

Reply 2

Zerforax

21

how about finding someone who likes you for you and not what you just look like? :p:

your not a barbie!

Reply 3

bunthulhu

14

If it helps, I'm in the same boat! Well, near enough, I just think I could do with being slimmer - as much as everyone says they like girls with curves it doesn't help me get a date :biggrin:

My goal is to try and get the guy I like to fancy me back but I doubt it's gunna happen! Good on you for trying to join some societies though OP - that's always a good step. I think I'm going to try that too, Refresher's week is coming up and all. I think the key is to find opportunities that will let you get to know people so they can appreciate you for your personality rather than being so hung up about appearance (although admittedly it helps)!

Reply 4

dh00001

16

you should read your own sig :smile:

Reply 5

bunthulhu

14

dh00001

you should read your own sig :smile:

Not quite sure how that's going to help her get a date. :p:

Reply 6

dh00001

16

because then shel enjoy herself for being herself and more people will notice her self confidence and self belief making her emit an aura of confidence and and confidence is attractive :biggrin:

i wrote that with out any punctuation or taking a breath :biggrin:

too much suger

Reply 7

bunthulhu

14

dh00001

because then shel enjoy herself for being herself and more people will notice her self confidence and self belief making her emit an aura of confidence and and confidence is attractive :biggrin:

i wrote that with out any punctuation or taking a breath :biggrin:

too much suger

Haha, yeah I agree confidence is important :smile:

Occasionally I'll walk along really confidently for about 10 metres thinking 'yeah I look pretty good today!', then feel like a complete prat and shuffle into a doorway :biggrin:

Reply 8

L0RA

9

Thats the problem with meeting people in clubs, its always just about physical attraction. If this develops into something more then great but the initial attraction is physical.

Halls is a great way of meeting people. Have you and your flat mates thought about holding a flat party? We've had a few and got everyone to invite people off their course as well as friends from halls and it widens your friendship group hugely. (This is how i met my boyfriend.)

Good luck but dont neccessarily go out looking for a boyfriend because you're disappointed everytime you dont meet a guy and you may settle for someone who you're not 100% happy with. Live your life with the want to have a good time, not to get a boyfriend.

Reply 9

L0RA

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bunthulhu

Haha, yeah I agree confidence is important :smile:

Occasionally I'll walk along really confidently for about 10 metres thinking 'yeah I look pretty good today!', then feel like a complete prat and shuffle into a doorway :biggrin:

I thought that was going to end with

... and then i...

Walk into a lampost/ snap off my heel/ fall off the curb/ realise my tops on back to front... :biggrin:

Reply 10

dh00001

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aw you shouldnt ;console; maybe its just my thaught but if the most beatiful person in the world had no confidence and spent all there time huddled into themselves hiding away, walking with their head down wouldnt be beatiful. where as someone who is happy with themselves and isnt afraid to put them selves out there and walk proud will seem so much more appealing.

Reply 11

bunthulhu

14

L0RA

I thought that was going to end with

... and then i...

Walk into a lampost/ snap off my heel/ fall off the curb/ realise my tops on back to front... :biggrin:

Actually, that's what happens if there isn't a doorway present :biggrin:

The only one of those that hasn't happened as far as I can remember is the snapping heel and that's only because I almost always wear flats!

The amount of times I walk into something or inexplicably lose my balance is ridiculous. My speciality is putting on clothes inside out. :rolleyes:

Yours clumsily,
Bun
:biggrin:

Reply 12

Quintanium

You're just in a rut, that's all. I'm sure you're pretty. I couldn't join any clubs either and its hard for me to meet anyone too. I'm not into clubbing anymore so the only people I do know are my course mates and my flat mates.

Try joining some meet up groups? http://www.meetup.com/ I've joined a couple of groups but haven't found the time to attend to yet. Looks fun.. give it a shot!

Oh and bun, maybe the guys are just intimidated because you're too gorgeous.

Reply 13

Manon

bunthulhu

If it helps, I'm in the same boat! Well, near enough, I just think I could do with being slimmer - as much as everyone says they like girls with curves it doesn't help me get a date :biggrin:

My goal is to try and get the guy I like to fancy me back but I doubt it's gunna happen! Good on you for trying to join some societies though OP - that's always a good step. I think I'm going to try that too, Refresher's week is coming up and all. I think the key is to find opportunities that will let you get to know people so they can appreciate you for your personality rather than being so hung up about appearance (although admittedly it helps)!

Are you mad ??? You´re STUNNING !! (and no, I´m not bisexual or lesbian !)

Reply 14

bunthulhu

14

Thanks guys! I actually wonder if part of the reason I don't get asked is because when I'm around my friends I can be a bit..colourful shall we say. I'm quite excitable and I forget to use my indoor voice :biggrin:

And I'm just plain silly a lot of the time. I'm worried about scaring people away so if I'm not around good friends then I just keep my mouth shut!

Reply 15

puppy

Stop drinking?

Reply 16

gracie88

14

I sometimes feel like i'm not pretty, the majority of my uni friends are stunning and i think oh they're so much nicer than me... but OP if you think this way you'll never have a positive attitude! Everybody is attractive in their own ways... i like my eyes for example. Try doing what L0RA suggested and having some parties in your halls flats? The problem with clubs is many people will go there with a goal of just pulling anybody and couple that with drink it's not good.

Reply 17

Cyclotron

bunthulhu

If it helps, I'm in the same boat! Well, near enough, I just think I could do with being slimmer - as much as everyone says they like girls with curves it doesn't help me get a date :biggrin:

your hot!

Reply 18

Philosoraptor

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gracie88

I sometimes feel like i'm not pretty, the majority of my uni friends are stunning and i think oh they're so much nicer than me... but OP if you think this way you'll never have a positive attitude! Everybody is attractive in their own ways... i like my eyes for example. Try doing what L0RA suggested and having some parties in your halls flats? The problem with clubs is many people will go there with a goal of just pulling anybody and couple that with drink it's not good.

You're definitely pretty don't worry about it :p:

Reply 19

Dutchmeister

bunthulhu

Thanks guys! I actually wonder if part of the reason I don't get asked is because when I'm around my friends I can be a bit..colourful shall we say. I'm quite excitable and I forget to use my indoor voice :biggrin:

And I'm just plain silly a lot of the time. I'm worried about scaring people away so if I'm not around good friends then I just keep my mouth shut!

You like command and conquer and comedy/action movies? you may be the first girl that's said that (or I've heard of).....marry me :p:

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