Working with Him.

I'm a bit stuck as to what to do, as I've recently found out a guy I liked from work has just been messing me around and actually isn't looking for a relationship at all. I've made a complete fool out of myself (telling him that I liked him and stuff) and now I have to spend hours at work with him at a time.

How am I supposed to play this one? We argued last night, when I told him that our whole relationship was just one big ego trip for him at my expense and that I was glad to be of service... and now I don't know how to be with him at work.

Obviously I'm annoyed at him, but I still like him and I know it'll take me time to get over him, and to regain some of my pride. How can I maintain my dignity, whilst showing him what's he's missing? I don't want to make work awkward.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

just be completely normal with him like you would with other people.. will probably throw him abit

Reply 2

By 'Him' i thought you meant you were working with God...

Reply 3

Louise88

I'm sorry to hear that you have been messed around. This guy quite clearly isn't worth it so don't you worry about him. Work will be slightly awkward after the way that you have been treated by him and after your argument last night. Best thing to do is just to go into work and act as normal as possible. Be your usual self and just ignore the guy, he doesn't deserve the time of day. Seeing him will be difficult because you have feelings for him and because you are annoyed with him but just get on with things like you usually would and leave him to it. In time things will become easier but for the time being just go in there and be yourself, don't let him get to you cause he isn't worth it.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Yeah thanks - it's just so hard when I know he's standing a metre away from me and I don't know whether to say hello or just ignore him completely... I worked with him today and it wasn't awful. I even gave him a newspaper cutting I'd saved from a newspaper. He seemed pretty shocked by that! lol. I don't think he expected me to show him any kind of warm gesture at all.

Reply 5

Meep!

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By 'Him' i thought you meant you were working with God...

Lol, me too.

Reply 6

Louise88

What are you more comfortable with? Ignoring him or being polite? If you are comfortable enough to say hello to him or start the odd conversation up then go for it, don't let him know how much he got to you. If you can't bear the thought of talking to him then ignore him. It just depends on what you are ok with...

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

It's easier for me just to ignore him, but being polite to him makes me feel somewhat powerful and I like that. But it takes a lot of courage! I think I'll just have to play it by ear and see how it goes... If only some nice man would come along and sweep me off my feet. Looks like it's going to be a lonely Valentine's for me this year (most depressign holiday of the year.)

Reply 8

matt@internet

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By 'Him' i thought you meant you were working with God...

I'd like to point out that "showing him what he's missing" seems petty to me and is another chip at your dignity.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

I understand what you're saying, and I guess you're right. I've seen other girls try and be all flirty with other guys infront of the guy who's rejected them and it's always seemed a bit weird to me... but in "show him what he's missing" I mean just completely being myself. I want to just be the normal happy-go-lucky me.