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Mum possiblely cheating on Dad
Yesterday, my mum was lying in bed using the laptop. My dad was in the study room using the PC. I went to the room that my mum was in, I said a few things to her (not really relevant). And I said what you looking at on your laptop, she said nothing, and closed the laptop. So I thought that's a bit strange and I went next to her start talking to her, saying what you hiding, she didn't say anything. She simply opened laptop again, I saw she had MSN opened. She was talking to some person (which I know it's a guy), she closed the conv that she was having with that guy, and I say the sentence 'I miss you so much'. Then I went out the room and said goodnight.
Basically this guy is someone from another country, (China, because we used to live there). And my mum made a new MSN account just to talk to this guy (I know this because she told me ages ago). And also she doesn't want my dad to find out who this guy is that she's talking to, yet ages ago she told me who he was.
These few days I've kinda stopped talking to my mum, it's like I don't know who she is anymore, maybe I'm being paranoid.
Anyone have any suggestions on what to do?
Cheers
Basically this guy is someone from another country, (China, because we used to live there). And my mum made a new MSN account just to talk to this guy (I know this because she told me ages ago). And also she doesn't want my dad to find out who this guy is that she's talking to, yet ages ago she told me who he was.
These few days I've kinda stopped talking to my mum, it's like I don't know who she is anymore, maybe I'm being paranoid.
Anyone have any suggestions on what to do?
Cheers
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Just before xmas i found out my mum had been texting phoning emailing one of her ex-boyfriends.
It was a horrible night and it did make me feel different towards my mum obvisouly.
Anyway my parents are still together even tho it did really hurt my dad and they are working at their marriage.
I really think you should tell you dad, you have to its the only way the problem can be solved. Dont keep things to yourself.
When this happened to me i told my dad a few things that i had noticed about my mum that maybe he didnt want to here but needed to.
Tell your dad about what you saw and let him make up his mind.
Hope everything works out.
It was a horrible night and it did make me feel different towards my mum obvisouly.
Anyway my parents are still together even tho it did really hurt my dad and they are working at their marriage.
I really think you should tell you dad, you have to its the only way the problem can be solved. Dont keep things to yourself.
When this happened to me i told my dad a few things that i had noticed about my mum that maybe he didnt want to here but needed to.
Tell your dad about what you saw and let him make up his mind.
Hope everything works out.
But what if I got on the wrong end of stick of things? What if things are not what they seem?
Kelv
But what if I got on the wrong end of stick of things? What if things are not what they seem?
In that case, before telling your dad, perhaps speak to your mom and tell her how bad it looks. Tell her you think she may be cheating and that you will tell your dad unless she can come up with a really good explanation.
Sorry about your situation by the way - how horrible
Kelv
But what if I got on the wrong end of stick of things? What if things are not what they seem?
Thats not for you to worry about. You know what you saw, tell your dad then your parents can work it out together.
If your wrong then say sorry and be really nice to your mum for a while
bunthulhu
In that case, before telling your dad, perhaps speak to your mom and tell her how bad it looks. Tell her you think she may be cheating and that you will tell your dad unless she can come up with a really good explanation.
Sorry about your situation by the way - how horrible
Sorry about your situation by the way - how horrible
Yeah I think i'll talk to my mum first. It is wierd and feels horrible seeing that you mum could be cheating on dad. It's like the feeling when I found out my ex cheating, but different (That don't make sense lol)
just tell your dad
Navajo flick on the old "save msn chat history button" she'd never really know.
Smart idea.
Maybe try and find out more info before you make a move. You know the situation more than us, do what you think is right..
Your parents relationship shouldn't really have anything to do with you, have a word with both your mum and dad about this telling them your concerns and in future try not to be such a nosy b******.
Sunofnight
Your parents relationship shouldn't really have anything to do with you, have a word with both your mum and dad about this telling them your concerns and in future try not to be such a nosy b******.
Sorry are you just born stupid or just feel like taking your anger out on someone. First of all, no need for swearing, if this doesn't concern you then don't post at all. Secondly yes ofcourse it concerns me, I don't want my mum and dad divorcing leading to a screwed family. Of course the relationship between my parents is important to me, not really sure what your family is like, obviously the relationship between your parents aren't good.
If you don't have nothing good to say, then don't say nothing at all.
Kelv
Sorry are you just born stupid or just feel like taking your anger out on someone. First of all, no need for swearing, if this doesn't concern you then don't post at all. Secondly yes ofcourse it concerns me, I don't want my mum and dad divorcing leading to a screwed family. Of course the relationship between my parents is important to me, not really sure what your family is like, obviously the relationship between your parents aren't good.
If you don't have nothing good to say, then don't say nothing at all.
If you don't have nothing good to say, then don't say nothing at all.
Ive always been stupid, why is it obvious that my parents have a bad relationship, they don't? It just sounds so nosy walking into your parents bedroom and looking at what they are doing, isn't that interfering with there privacy or do they just walk into your bedroom?
Kelv
Sorry are you just born stupid or just feel like taking your anger out on someone. First of all, no need for swearing, if this doesn't concern you then don't post at all. Secondly yes ofcourse it concerns me, I don't want my mum and dad divorcing leading to a screwed family. Of course the relationship between my parents is important to me, not really sure what your family is like, obviously the relationship between your parents aren't good.
If you don't have nothing good to say, then don't say nothing at all.
If you don't have nothing good to say, then don't say nothing at all.
ohhh! flaming!
anyway, yeh. Before doing anything, be sure. Maybe install a keylogger or just save MSN logs, and then take action. You could end up messing things up between you and your mom, and your parents, if your feelings are incorrect.
Sunofnight
Ive always been stupid, why is it obvious that my parents have a bad relationship, they don't? It just sounds so nosy walking into your parents bedroom and looking at what they are doing, isn't that interfering with there privacy or do they just walk into your bedroom?
Uh, yeah, it's actually pretty normal for family members to go chat to each other and see what they're up to every so often.
bunthulhu
Uh, yeah, it's actually pretty normal for family members to go chat to each other and see what they're up to every so often.
Don't just say that to side with the op, of course family members chat but really.. just walking into the room trying to see whats on the laptop, if my parents did that to me Id be fairly annoyed, wouldn't you??
Sunofnight
Ive always been stupid, why is it obvious that my parents have a bad relationship, they don't? It just sounds so nosy walking into your parents bedroom and looking at what they are doing, isn't that interfering with there privacy or do they just walk into your bedroom?
:dito: Id be annoyed if parents came strolling in my bedroom
are you even sure it was a guy from china if your dad was on the computer in another room how do you know they werent talking to one another or am i being niave thinking that might be it
I think you should speak to your mum first and try find out exactly whats going on before approaching your dad about it.
a friend i know from uni caught his dad cheating on his mum... he was so horrible, he gave him a horrible ultimatum - he said that if he ever told his mum about him cheating, he would stop all his university money so he would have to drop out of uni. his mum cant afford to pay for him uni like his dad can, so he would be pretty screwed if he did that. nasty piece of work his cheating dad is!
to the OP, i hope that your was just talking to an old friend or something, and it all sorts out
xXx
to the OP, i hope that your was just talking to an old friend or something, and it all sorts out
xXx
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